Originally posted by Blinky
IMO it's not even worth getting married these days.Best to stay single, kept your own bank account and not have babies. People (men or women) are not capable of staying true to each other or having long term relationships.
Wow, that is a very dim view of humanity. Here's how I see it: not bringing God into the mix, marrage is still a vow of fidelity to the one you are being wedded to, to me, vows should be kept. It is an unfortunate fact that people's word is becoming less and less reliable, we are falling too much into a "look out for #1" society and promises and vows are becoming nothing less than hollow words.
And it doesn't help with some people rushing off and getting married after having dated for 2 months (Granted some relationships have worked out like that, but most fail.) that is just foolishness.
Anyway, that's my two cents, well a rushed version of it but, you get the picture...
Originally posted by WickedDynamite
A lot of foks will not agree with my opinion on this but FUDGE IT!The fact is people don't take Marriage seriously these days. I can tell this from my family and the families of friends. There are too many single moms out there that get pregnant and expect the guy to wed them and be happy. Not the case, even worse marry another guy just so that the kid can have the father image. It may work and it may not work you're gambling 50/50 in that case.
Even worse is when people marry out of fear of been lonely. I personally think that's the reason why divorces continue to increase in our culture. People just marry out of fear of been alone and take the next thing to salvage. Now, I'm friggin 33 years old and my older aunts continue to worry about when will I tie the knot and shit. Well, sorry, ain't going to happen and when it does it will be when I know is the right time.
Love me for what I am.
Couldn't agree more.
Originally posted by williamanthony
Hi
The fact is people don't take Marriage seriously these days.I think that before two people get married, both should be at least 28 years old.Even worse is when people marry out of fear of been lonely. I personally think that's the reason why divorces continue to increase in our culture.
Originally posted by WickedDynamite
A lot of foks will not agree with my opinion on this but FUDGE IT!The fact is people don't take Marriage seriously these days. I can tell this from my family and the families of friends. There are too many single moms out there that get pregnant and expect the guy to wed them and be happy. Not the case, even worse marry another guy just so that the kid can have the father image. It may work and it may not work you're gambling 50/50 in that case.
Even worse is when people marry out of fear of been lonely. I personally think that's the reason why divorces continue to increase in our culture. People just marry out of fear of been alone and take the next thing to salvage. Now, I'm friggin 33 years old and my older aunts continue to worry about when will I tie the knot and shit. Well, sorry, ain't going to happen and when it does it will be when I know is the right time.
Love me for what I am.
Originally posted by Darth Jello
I think society needs to realize that everyone has urges, that everyone has the ability to hurt someone regardless of gender, and that no sex before marriage is idiotic. I think that before two people get married, both should be at least 28 years old, have had sex more than once with each other, and must be absolutely sure about their sexual orientation.
Odd.
****ing weird spammers these days.
Didn't want to start a new thread but didn't know where else to put this-
Possibly the most unintentionally funny homophobic statement by a politician ever-
Utah State Senator Chris Buttars (R): I meet with the gays here and there. They were in my house two weeks ago. I don’t mind gays. But I don’t want ‘em stuffing it down my throat all the time. Certainly not in my kid’s face.
I'm not sure it would be worth it to cheat on my wife. I would be devastated if she did that to me, so treat unto others....
Sometimes it's a bummer to think that for the rest of your life you will only hit that one piece of tail, but there are many benefits to being monogamous. I think the family I created with my wife and my daughter and our dog, Walker Texas Ranger, is worth being dedicated to because they are my peeps. I would not want to jeopardize that unit.
Imho, I think infidelity is natural and marriage, unnatural, or man made. And anything that is unnatural is bad for the mind and the body. That more people are getting divorced at a higher rate than they’re getting married along with divorce rate at an all time high may in part demonstrate this.
A man is an animal by nature. Take away society and you’d see this. (we still see it at times) And we see this in the wild kingdom with males spreading their seed with many females. Now, when unnatural interference occurs like rituals, rules (both written and unwritten) to what happens naturally, there’s going to be a disturbance. In this case divorce is the result of that disturbance.
So marriage is bad in that way. Socially marriage is a really bad bet for men. There are no benefits for men to get married. This country has a powerfully protected feminine class, family courts are too one sided. There’s probably losing half of what you own, losing your kids, paying alimony for decades perhaps and child support for about 2 decades. It’s a very unattractive risk most men are not willing to take. And I’m glad men are beginning to smell the foldgers.
So I think not getting married is the best bet. And I believe marriage has mutated into just having a (life) partner you’re with document free, maybe have a kid if you want but a piece a paper (or contract) with a seal/stamp on it followed by a ritual/party celebrating the fact you’ve become committed to the person should have nothing to do with how you feel about one another, and if it does that bond’s not genuine.