So you think Kirk's dad, an inexperienced officer, is > than say, one Picard, who actually fought in the Cardassian wars as a starship captain, when it comes to tactics?
Ramming in to another ship isn't about skill; it's a desperation tactic.
Even when it comes to skilled Captains, the originals have, even if you wanted to argue equal skill per man, more actual people that are incredibly skilled. More tacticians and strategists. Two Kirks (hell, maybe even three if you want to use the Enterprise B). Two Spocks (both with more experience than Quinto's one). Two Rikers. Two Worfs. Two Datas. And that's just the TNG people.
There's the Borg queen with the tactical knowledge and experience of thousands of drones. There's General Chang. There's the actual Klingon Chancellor. Shinzon himself.
All experienced warriors and tacticians that were at the head of their game.
You honestly think that one Kirk, Two Spocks, Khan, and Thor are superior to that?