Older Women Seducing Underage Boys

Started by Trocity54 pages

Originally posted by roughrider
I've found one article about this. It tells the story in over the top prose, making it sound like a horror story.

https://www.thegamer.com/smash-puppeh-cinnpie-esports-sexual-assault-details/

I just have a problem when the 'abusive' episode happens again, and again, and again, and again... 🙄

It doesn't sound like he was physically forced in any way. She was playing mind games with him at best, telling him they would become a real couple when he turned 18. So if she was just playing him to get what she wanted, yes it's twisted, but...doesn't seem like real abuse to me,

Hilariously bad take.

Originally posted by Trocity
Hilariously bad take.

You wouldn't see the same take if the genders were swapped.

Originally posted by Trocity
Hilariously bad take.

Hey, I felt similar things with the Jian Gomeshi trial.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trial_of_Jian_Ghomeshi

They had a rough sex kind of relationship. Problem was, after the incident she was talking about that got him charged, she continued to see him several times afterwards. So I got questions and doubts about her because of that.

Back to the 14 year old gamer and his 24 year old female girlfriend - unless she had him locked in a basement and kept doing him against his will, I have a hard time seeing he didn't have a choice.

Originally posted by roughrider
Hey, I felt similar things with the Jian Gomeshi trial.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trial_of_Jian_Ghomeshi

They had a rough sex kind of relationship. Problem was, after the incident she was talking about that got him charged, she continued to see him several times afterwards. So I got questions and doubts about her because of that.

Back to the 14 year old gamer and his 24 year old female girlfriend - unless she had him locked in a basement and kept doing him against his will, I have a hard time seeing he didn't have a choice.

So, you would feel the same if it was a 14 year old girl and a 24 year old man?

Originally posted by Silent Master
So, you would feel the same if it was a 14 year old girl and a 24 year old man?

Men can be more physically threatening. Isn't that the whole reason society has more difficulty in seeing underage boys as victims of sexual abuse, where a woman was the perp?

Originally posted by roughrider
Men can be more physically threatening. Isn't that the whole reason society has more difficulty in seeing underage boys as victims of sexual abuse, where a woman was the perp?

What does that have to do with my question?

Originally posted by Silent Master
What does that have to do with my question?

No, I do feel it's different with an older male and an underage female.

Why?

Originally posted by roughrider
No, I do feel it's different with an older male and an underage female.

So clearly you feel men and women should be granted different privileges, with men getting more? Since, why should we be held to a higher standard unless we get something out of it, amirite?

Originally posted by Silent Master
Why?

Obviously I have more trouble seeing underage boys as victims because I don't think a woman can force them into sexual activity they don't want. Not like the way an older man can.

I know intellectually it's wrong, but I was a young boy once and like many I fantasied about older women. It never happened to me, but what if it did? Can I honestly say I would have said no?

You can criticize my view, but it's just the one that has gone through most of society forever. Older women-underage boys have been the plots of romantic comedies in films & TV for decades - it's virtually never about how she takes away his innocence and scarred him. It's why these cases have routinely led to little or no jail time for many female perpetrators until recently. It's why we have websites like 'Hot For Teacher' which lasciviously details the cases of female teacher & underage student and ranks the hotness of the teacher. Don't act so surprised.

And it's why Alissa Nutting's novel 'Tampa' is a reversal of such treatments. As a fictionalized retelling of the Debra Lafave case, it makes it clear the female teacher is a villain and a sociopath. Society has been slow to see females as sexual predators, but they do exist. So yes, I do struggle with it. I wouldn't want my nephew to be a victim of something like that, yet as a younger teenager such a thing would have gotten me high fives from my friends.

If I'm conflicted, at least I'm not a hippocryte.

Originally posted by roughrider
Obviously I have more trouble seeing underage boys as victims because I don't think a woman can force them into sexual activity they don't want. Not like the way an older man can.

I know intellectually it's wrong, but I was a young boy once and like many I fantasied about older women. It never happened to me, but what if it did? Can I honestly say I would have said no?

You can criticize my view, but it's just the one that has gone through most of society forever. Older women-underage boys have been the plots of romantic comedies in films & TV for decades - it's virtually never about how she takes away his innocence and scarred him. It's why these cases have routinely led to little or no jail time for many female perpetrators until recently. It's why we have websites like 'Hot For Teacher' which lasciviously details the cases of female teacher & underage student and ranks the hotness of the teacher. Don't act so surprised.

And it's why Alissa Nutting's novel 'Tampa' is a reversal of such treatments. As a fictionalized retelling of the Debra Lafave case, it makes it clear the female teacher is a villain and a sociopath. Society has been slow to see females as sexual predators, but they do exist. So yes, I do struggle with it. I wouldn't want my nephew to be a victim of something like that, yet as a younger teenager such a thing would have gotten me high fives from my friends.

If I'm conflicted, at least I'm not a hippocryte.

And underage girls have never fantasied about older men?

From a wikipedia article about Female On Male Statutory Rape:

"Until the late 1970s, sex involving an adult female and an underage male was often ignored by the law, due to the belief that it is often sexual initiation for the younger male.[19] This view still exists in modern times, as it is glamorized by the media and there may be a gender bias in courts on teacher-student sexual relationships.[20]

Underaged males in these sexual relationships may view the women as trophies and choose not report them to the authorities; it is often a parent who reports these relationships.[21] A 2006 review of scientific literature found that the majority of men who had sex with women as underaged boys hold a positive reaction, with a third of them being neutral and less than 5% being negative toward it."

http://campbelllawobserver.com/hot-for-teacher-gender-bias-in-sentencing-of-teachers-that-have-sex-with-their-students/

Originally posted by Silent Master
And underage girls have never fantasied about older men?

Here's an alternative perspective:

There is a legit physical power dynamic of a grown man pursuing a 14 year old girl.

Pretend I'm 14 again: I'm hanging out or on a date with a 21 year old girl, when I'm 14, and things go south for some reason.

I can physically chuck her off. Like a sack of potatoes. Do you think a 14 year old girl could do the same to a grown man?

Originally posted by roughrider
From a wikipedia article about Female On Male Statutory Rape:

"Until the late 1970s, sex involving an adult female and an underage male was often ignored by the law, due to the belief that it is often sexual initiation for the younger male.[19] This view still exists in modern times, as it is glamorized by the media and there may be a gender bias in courts on teacher-student sexual relationships.[20]

Underaged males in these sexual relationships may view the women as trophies and choose not report them to the authorities; it is often a parent who reports these relationships.[21] A 2006 review of scientific literature found that the majority of men who had sex with women as underaged boys hold a positive reaction, with a third of them being neutral and less than 5% being negative toward it."

http://campbelllawobserver.com/hot-for-teacher-gender-bias-in-sentencing-of-teachers-that-have-sex-with-their-students/

So, Underaged girls in these sexual relationships have never viewed the men as trophies?

Originally posted by dadudemon
Here's an alternative perspective:

There is a legit physical power dynamic of a grown man pursuing a 14 year old girl.

Pretend I'm 14 again: I'm hanging out or on a date with a 21 year old girl, when I'm 14, and things go south for some reason.

I can physically chuck her off. Like a sack of potatoes. Do you think a 14 year old girl could do the same to a grown man?

Why do we assume women are just weak children who can't do anything physical? What if it was a large, fat woman that you couldn't chuck off?

It makes me really uncomfortable that you guys are trying to make excuses for women preying on young boys.

Why should the onus be on the boy to chuck off the woman? Why can't she just, I dunno, not rape him?

We have this strange view in society that young boys always want older women to bang them, and that young girls never WANT older guys to bang them. Boys know what they are doing and want it, but for some reason girls are always manipulated or forced. Girls hit puberty and mature faster than men, but we treat them the opposite. This is a very dangerous line of thinking.

Look at that picture of the 14 year old boy who was preyed on by the 24 year old that I posted on the last page. You think that shrimp can chuck 20 year old girls off of him like "a sack of potatoes"? Yikes, man.

Weird takes here, seriously.

Originally posted by dadudemon
Here's an alternative perspective:

There is a legit physical power dynamic of a grown man pursuing a 14 year old girl.

Pretend I'm 14 again: I'm hanging out or on a date with a 21 year old girl, when I'm 14, and things go south for some reason.

I can physically chuck her off. Like a sack of potatoes. Do you think a 14 year old girl could do the same to a grown man?

No different then the common power dynamic between adult men and women.

Originally posted by Trocity
Why do we assume women are just weak children who can't do anything physical? What if it was a large, fat woman that you couldn't chuck off?

If you're a large fat woman and you are trying to rape a young man, then that's clearly rape.

If you're a large fat woman and you're trying to physically attack a young man, chances are, you'll still get you ass beat. I'm sure you've seen the videos of high school girls thinking it was okay to confront high school boys in fights and they get the utter living shit beat out of them: including the fat ones. It never ends well.

This disparity remains well into adulthood. While women can certainly hurt a man, the domestic abuse scenarios where than man is the aggressor, the woman ends up in a much worse physical state.

Sorry, I don't buy into the scientifically inaccurate notion that a teenage boy is defenseless and helpless against the average female aggressor.

Originally posted by Trocity
It makes me really uncomfortable that you guys are trying to make excuses for women preying on young boys.

Then be uncomfortable: your feelings don't matter because none of us are clinical psychologists or therapists. And the world will still contain an absurd amount of young men (minors) trying to bang women (adults) regardless of whether or not you like it.

Originally posted by Trocity
Why should the onus be on the boy to chuck off the woman? Why can't she just, I dunno, not rape him?

Oh, I see. You're interpreting my scenario in a specific way.

I'm talking about a physical confrontation: an actual fight. Not a rape.

Originally posted by Trocity
We have this strange view in society that young boys always want older women to bang them, and that young girls never WANT older guys to bang them.

1. Young MEN do want to bang sexually mature women. And anyone who tries to shame young MEN for being sexually attracted to adult women are retarded. This is basic biology. We are still animals. We want to f*ck the shit out of other and often.

2. Young women do want to bang adult men. This is also basic biology. But there is a significant difference between a young woman who has this desire and a young man: there's a very clear physical power dynamic that cannot be hand-waived.

Originally posted by Trocity
Boys know what they are doing and want it, but for some reason girls are always manipulated or forced. Girls hit puberty and mature faster than men, but we treat them the opposite. This is a very dangerous line of thinking.

Not true. Many teenage girls - read: underage - also try to "win" games with adult men, tricking them into sex, bragging to their friends, or feeling proud about it. They are predators, manipulative, and possibly ruining lives with their antics. Some adult men also target minors (both male and female) and trick them into sexual relationships with all sorts or predatory tactics. They are pieces of shit, too.

But there is also a large set of perfectly normal young men and women who just want to have sex with attractive people. And there is nothing wrong with that - that is normal.

However, there's a clear problem with adult men trying to bang young women regardless of what the young woman wants. As I've stated multiple times. There's a physical power dynamic that both parties would be subconsciously aware of.

Originally posted by Trocity
Look at that picture of the 14 year old boy who was preyed on by the 24 year old that I posted on the last page. You think that shrimp can chuck 20 year old girls off of him like "a sack of potatoes"? Yikes, man.

Depends on the 14 year old. I could grow a full beard by the time I was 13 and I was absurdly strong. That is normal for my family; we just matured young.

I do admit my type is not common. Not all people physically mature at the same rate.

I've seen some men who do not appear to complete puberty until their early 20s and there's nothing wrong with them. They are just "late bloomers."

Originally posted by Trocity
Weird takes here, seriously.

The fact that you want to hand waive around the physical power dynamic between men and women, boys and girls, is disturbing to me.* Almost all people are aware of this marked physical difference between human males and females. I'm not too sure what your angle is with denying this. Before I patronize you or talk down to you, I'd like to flesh out your perspective more on this - perhaps I'm being too harsh and you have a good reason for not directly addressing my point.

Let me flesh out my point a bit better so you can be more equipped to disagree/respond:

It appears you do not want to acknowledge the physical differences and the physical dangers presented to young women (or even girls for some of these situations) vs. young men. The two scenarios are NOT equal. Also, it's very important to note that humans do not magically become wise sages when they are 18. Some mature socially before 18, some never mature socially at or after 18. But you can't just tell everyone to stop having sex until they can pass a social competency/psychological fitness test (this is actually something I've half-serious suggested).

For example, it might be clinically recommended that people with severe and untreated Borderline Personality Disorder should never be allowed to enter into sexual relationships regardless of age. Watch a suggestion like that create an uprising/fury among many different groups of people.

*By the science:
We start to notice the power dynamic between human male and females around the age of 9 and it starts to go well beyond statistical significance by age 10:

This was a cross-sectional study involving 312 children (10.8 ± 0.4 years). The physical fitness assessment employed sets of aerobic fitness, strength, flexibility, speed, agility, and balance. The boys presented higher values in all selected tests, except tests of balance and flexibility, in which girls scored better.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22561975/

Originally posted by cdtm
No different then the common power dynamic between adult men and women.

Young men, 13-17, are not as strong as adult men in relationships with adult women.

So, yes, I'd say the physical power dynamic is even more pronounced for adult men and women.

However, young men are more impulsive and take greater risks. This is also why they get into physical fights more often. Quite specifically and "by the science", it is due to young men not having a developed prefrontal cortex impacting their impulsivity control, decision making, and just executive functions.

And what is the prefrontal cortex?

This brain region has been implicated in planning complex cognitive behavior, personality expression, decision making, and moderating social behaviour. The basic activity of this brain region is considered to be orchestration of thoughts and actions in accordance with internal goals. The most typical psychological term for functions carried out by the prefrontal cortex area is executive function. Executive function relates to abilities to differentiate among conflicting thoughts, determine good and bad, better and best, same and different, future consequences of current activities, working toward a defined goal, prediction of outcomes, expectation based on actions, and social “control” (the ability to suppress urges that, if not suppressed, could lead to socially unacceptable outcomes). The frontal cortex supports concrete rule learning, while more anterior regions along the rostro-caudal axis of the frontal cortex support rule learning at higher levels of abstraction.

https://www.thescienceofpsychotherapy.com/prefrontal-cortex/

And what do we know of this brain development?

Longitudinal studies have shown sex differences in the trajectory of brain development, with females reaching peak values of brain volumes earlier than males.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2818549/

For more reading on the sex differences of human brains and their developmental trajectories, I recommend this (if you have time):

https://libiresearch.research.chop.edu/sites/default/files/files/Sex%20differences%20in%20the%20developing%20brain-%20insights%20from%20multimodal%20neuroimaging.pdf

^I don't feel like editing.

It should say, "..young men not having as developed of a prefrontal cortex."

And these behaviors are relative to females, obviously (we are not comparing them to Vulcans).

Originally posted by dadudemon
If you're a large fat woman and you are trying to rape a young man, then that's clearly rape.

If you're a large fat woman and you're trying to physically attack a young man, chances are, you'll still get you ass beat. I'm sure you've seen the videos of high school girls thinking it was okay to confront high school boys in fights and they get the utter living shit beat out of them: including the fat ones. It never ends well.

This disparity remains well into adulthood. While women can certainly hurt a man, the domestic abuse scenarios where than man is the aggressor, the woman ends up in a much worse physical state.

Sorry, I don't buy into the scientifically inaccurate notion that a teenage boy is defenseless and helpless against the average female aggressor.

Then be uncomfortable: your feelings don't matter because none of us are clinical psychologists or therapists. And the world will still contain an absurd amount of young men (minors) trying to bang women (adults) regardless of whether or not you like it.

Oh, I see. You're interpreting my scenario in a specific way.

I'm talking about a physical confrontation: an actual fight. Not a rape.

1. Young MEN do want to bang sexually mature women. And anyone who tries to shame young MEN for being sexually attracted to adult women are retarded. This is basic biology. We are still animals. We want to f*ck the shit out of other and often.

2. Young women do want to bang adult men. This is also basic biology. But there is a significant difference between a young woman who has this desire and a young man: there's a very clear physical power dynamic that cannot be hand-waived.

Not true. Many teenage girls - read: underage - also try to "win" games with adult men, tricking them into sex, bragging to their friends, or feeling proud about it. They are predators, manipulative, and possibly ruining lives with their antics. Some adult men also target minors (both male and female) and trick them into sexual relationships with all sorts or predatory tactics. They are pieces of shit, too.

But there is also a large set of perfectly normal young men and women who just want to have sex with attractive people. And there is nothing wrong with that - that is normal.

However, there's a clear problem with adult men trying to bang young women regardless of what the young woman wants. As I've stated multiple times. There's a physical power dynamic that both parties would be subconsciously aware of.

Depends on the 14 year old. I could grow a full beard by the time I was 13 and I was absurdly strong. That is normal for my family; we just matured young.

I do admit my type is not common. Not all people physically mature at the same rate.

I've seen some men who do not appear to complete puberty until their early 20s and there's nothing wrong with them. They are just "late bloomers."

The fact that you want to hand waive around the physical power dynamic between men and women, boys and girls, is disturbing to me.* Almost all people are aware of this marked physical difference between human males and females. I'm not too sure what your angle is with denying this. Before I patronize you or talk down to you, I'd like to flesh out your perspective more on this - perhaps I'm being too harsh and you have a good reason for not directly addressing my point.

Let me flesh out my point a bit better so you can be more equipped to disagree/respond:

It appears you do not want to acknowledge the physical differences and the physical dangers presented to young women (or even girls for some of these situations) vs. young men. The two scenarios are NOT equal. Also, it's very important to note that humans do not magically become wise sages when they are 18. Some mature socially before 18, some never mature socially at or after 18. But you can't just tell everyone to stop having sex until they can pass a social competency/psychological fitness test (this is actually something I've half-serious suggested).

For example, it might be clinically recommended that people with severe and untreated Borderline Personality Disorder should never be allowed to enter into sexual relationships regardless of age. Watch a suggestion like that create an uprising/fury among many different groups of people.

*By the science:
We start to notice the power dynamic between human male and females around the age of 9 and it starts to go well beyond statistical significance by age 10:

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22561975/

This is a lot to reply to so I probably will tomorrow. A lot of it I'm not really sure what you're trying to say. Young men WANT to bang older women. Young women WANT to bang older men. But there is a physical power dynamic between the two that makes it different.

But the salient point is both young people want it and the older person is taking advantage of this. The man doesn't need to use his physical superiority to force the young girl who already wants to have sex to have sex with him.

It's bad for older women to prey on young boys just as it is for older men to prey on young women.

Also I dunno why you felt the need to say something like "Then be uncomfortable. Your feelings don't matter because none of us are clinical psychologists or therapists" lmao wtf. Are you just trying to be a prick or?

Anyway, I'll probably reply more tomorrow.