How to deal with women who say they are too busy to make time for you.

I've been dealing with this for a while, I'm here for them but I get one sided excuses. They say they are too busy and now I get the feeling that they are too busy to make time for me however they want time from me. Some give me empty promises of what they say they would do but end up not doing it how they want me to come through for them. Even if I make things simple for them they still want to cling on to their busy excuses. Lately I've been frustrated because I'm doing a lot of work and I feel my work is underappreciated and my patience being tried. I feel under-minded for my efforts and I'm getting fed up to the point that I want to give up on them. Has anyone been in that boat before and if so what did you do about it? The girls say they are "busy" yet not much productivity goes on and little to none assistance being done. Get want to get lazy with everything and late with pretty much everything. Some say that its "LIFE" but yet they just making excuses for not being responsible they hide in their pride too much and it's getting old. What are some solutions to dealing with this kind of issue?

Generally, if you are unfulfilled with your friendships and relationships you should step away from them.

What does the first part, finding that women in your life don't make time for you, have to do with the second part, you being frustrated by work and feeling under appreciated?

I think you should separate time with work with time with women (that's a lot of 'withs' lol).

Maybe you spend more time with work?
I can understand this feeling especially if you are employed to a company where you have to work 8hrs/6days per week.
If that's the case, then maybe the stress from the load of your work is interfering with your relationships. All I can say about that is "That's life."

Maybe the women you've been with don't really like you, for some reason(s)?
Or maybe you are just plain unlucky with your current relationships?

I can't really help you with these problems, in this case.
You need to assess for yourself if the problem is with you, or with the women you've been with; if it has anything to do with work/your attitude/women's personalities/etc.
Sometimes you need to adjust your personality when in the company of women, especially those who suffer from unusual moodswings.

I think he (she?) means they've been "working" on trying to date them, not literal work.

Originally posted by silver_tears
I think he (she?) means they've been "working" on trying to date them, not literal work.

That makes sense.

But yeah, if you are not happy with your relationship, you should a) discuss that openly and b) if there's no satisfactory change you should evaluate whether it is worth continuing, and if it is not walk away from it

Originally posted by Bardock42
That makes sense.

But yeah, if you are not happy with your relationship, you should a) discuss that openly and b) if there's no satisfactory change you should evaluate whether it is worth continuing, and if it is not walk away from it

That's it Bardock42, and I'm a he. I'm talking about the friendship that I have. Employment-wise I'm good for the moment but when it comes to the friendship it's been a lot of work to maintain it and build it. At first things were good, it was an unconditional moment back then but as time went by she started falling apart. She started to get lazy with things even easy tasks. She would ask me for favors and I would meet them, we would talk about times for us to hang out and mind you these are ideas that she started but when the time came to do them it was put off, there was always some problem, some distraction that always came between it. I'm trying my best to be patient with her to see her come up because it's usually a beautiful thing to see when she does goes to work on me. I'm growing weary but at the same time I'm trying my best not to lose hope.

Originally posted by atv2
That's it Bardock42, and I'm a he. I'm talking about the friendship that I have. Employment-wise I'm good for the moment but when it comes to the friendship it's been a lot of work to maintain it and build it. At first things were good, it was an unconditional moment back then but as time went by she started falling apart. She started to get lazy with things even easy tasks. She would ask me for favors and I would meet them, we would talk about times for us to hang out and mind you these are ideas that she started but when the time came to do them it was put off, there was always some problem, some distraction that always came between it. I'm trying my best to be patient with her to see her come up because it's usually a beautiful thing to see when she does goes to work on me. I'm growing weary but at the same time I'm trying my best not to lose hope.

Have you talked about your thoughts with her directly?

Originally posted by Bardock42
Have you talked about your thoughts with her directly?

Yes I have but it seems like she doesn't get it. When I talk to her she says that she would do better but less than 2 days later she goes right back to the problem. It hasn't been looking too good. I communicated with her if she didn't get it together soon that I was going to shut down until she decides to get things right and what I expect from her is easy so it will be up to her to maintain the friendship or continue back with it in the event she fails. I just getting to the point where I'm tired of doing most of the work and putting me off on things she promised me she would do.

Originally posted by atv2
Yes I have but it seems like she doesn't get it. When I talk to her she says that she would do better but less than 2 days later she goes right back to the problem. It hasn't been looking too good. I communicated with her if she didn't get it together soon that I was going to shut down until she decides to get things right and what I expect from her is easy so it will be up to her to maintain the friendship or continue back with it in the event she fails. I just getting to the point where I'm tired of doing most of the work and putting me off on things she promised me she would do.

Well, that seems fair. If she doesn't change soon you should then go through with it...

Originally posted by Bardock42
Well, that seems fair. If she doesn't change soon you should then go through with it...

She still has time and I will go through with it if I have to and at the same time I'm making her returns simple but she just need to put in the work and it's not much.

Have you checked on her if she is dating somebody else?

I'm not saying this to hurt your relationship, but maybe there is a third party involved, if she can't give you what you want.

WATCH COREY WAYNE on youtube. it's worked wonders for me.

If women truly like you, they will make time for you. Believe it.

Don't act needy at all. BE TOO BUSY FOR HER SOMETIMES.

Originally posted by Raisen
Don't act needy at all. BE TOO BUSY FOR HER SOMETIMES.

I really don't understand why this works with women....but it does.

That tactic never worked with me. Women who made themselves extraordinarily available made me like them and I would make sure to make time for them.

If they are showing that much of an interest as long as they are not creepy, go out of your way to accommodate them. If you're not interested, be decent enough to say so, upfront. Don't lead people on: that's just mean/cruel.

Also, if I had a dime for every time one of my gal pals complained about there being no "great guys" out there (when there was clearly a great guy who liked her), I'd be a trillionaire. Seems like most of them complain about multiple relationships failing when they should stop pursuing assholes and go after the "great guy" that they have relegated to "just some guy I know who is nice." Man, some of those conversations on read on Facebook are cringey.

"Ugh, are there any nice guys out there?"

"Hey, Sarah, what's wrong?"

"I broke up with Brian. He's such a jerk."

"What did he do?"

[Long-story about typical *sshole behavior]

"Awe. Too bad. You'll find someone, one day. I would never treat you like that."

"Yeah, I wish I could find a great guy. Seems there are no good ones left."

"..."

Originally posted by dadudemon
I really don't understand why this works with women....but it does.

That tactic never worked with me. Women who made themselves extraordinarily available made me like them and I would make sure to make time for them.

If they are showing that much of an interest as long as they are not creepy, go out of your way to accommodate them. If you're not interested, be decent enough to say so, upfront. Don't lead people on: that's just mean/cruel.

Also, if I had a dime for every time one of my gal pals complained about there being no "great guys" out there (when there was clearly a great guy who liked her), I'd be a trillionaire. Seems like most of them complain about multiple relationships failing when they should stop pursuing assholes and go after the "great guy" that they have relegated to "just some guy I know who is nice." Man, some of those conversations on read on Facebook are cringey.

"Ugh, are there any nice guys out there?"

"Hey, Sarah, what's wrong?"

"I broke up with Brian. He's such a jerk."

"What did he do?"

[Long-story about typical *sshole behavior]

"Awe. Too bad. You'll find someone, one day. I would never treat you like that."

"Yeah, I wish I could find a great guy. Seems there are no good ones left."

"..."

Dude. Watch Corey Wayne.

Originally posted by Raisen
Dude. Watch Corey Wayne.

I don't need to watch a video on how to "deal" with girls. I had no problems.

I'm also married, now. None of it matters. 😄

I talk to God about everything.

It's really odd to me that women are expected to date any man that is nice to them, what if she's just not attracted to this "nice" guy?

and tbh I think a lot of guys that complain about not getting a girlfriend despite being so "nice" are extremely entitled. if you're actually a nice person you should understand when a friend is not interested in you, move on and support their choices.

Originally posted by Sancty
It's really odd to me that women are expected to date any man that is nice to them, what if she's just not attracted to this "nice" guy?

and tbh I think a lot of guys that complain about not getting a girlfriend despite being so "nice" are extremely entitled. if you're actually a nice person you should understand when a friend is not interested in you, move on and support their choices.

Oh look, the opinion of the man-hating Feminazi socialist liberal Left.

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Use common sense. Find your bliss.

Originally posted by Wonder Man
I talk to God about everything.

Really? Because you never responded to my last email telling you to stop masturbating so much. Seriously, it's becoming a problem.

Originally posted by Sancty
It's really odd to me that women are expected to date any man that is nice to them, what if she's just not attracted to this "nice" guy?

and tbh I think a lot of guys that complain about not getting a girlfriend despite being so "nice" are extremely entitled. if you're actually a nice person you should understand when a friend is not interested in you, move on and support their choices.

I'm pretty sure this logic peters out by late 20s. It's a maturation thing, not a societally systemic one.