Is **** shaming wrong?

Originally posted by Bardock42
**** shaming is perpetrated on women regardless of whether they are even promiscuous. Female sexuality is frowned upon in sexist, patriarchal society, and women are shamed for it. It is wrong and stupid.

A lot of the judgement doesn't come from the patriarchy though, it comes from other women. It's actually becoming a big problem I think, we still condition females to pretend that they don't like sex, which leads women to let the men do most of the approaching, which in turn leads to harassment suits and accusations of sexual aggression. A woman will find it a lot easier to 'let' a guy pick her up than she will by taking the initiative and asking him if he wants a bang. Men get shamed for promiscuity too, we're just better at shrugging it off is all.

Originally posted by MythLord
Being a cheater is one thing; liking a lot of sex is another.

I think terms change over time. Just like "whore" used to mostly be used to refer to hookers, now it can be used to refer to promiscuity.

"Sl*t" can mean a love of dick that is too strong, not necessarily liking a whole bunch of dicks. I'd call a married woman with 2 kids who crashes and burns an entire marriage by having casual sex with two different men behind hubbies back a sl*t. She wouldn't need to bang an entire hockey time to earn that label.

So nah, shaming girls for liking sex isn't good(especially not when boys get congratulated for that).

The reason for this is that it is generally much easier for a woman to get sex than it is for a man.

And these days women do not tend to get shamed for liking sex. You can get married in high school and spend the rest of your life with someone and only sleep with them and still be able to claim you like sex. It's possible to drink and yet not drink to the extent you're an alcoholic.

Originally posted by Jmanghan
A girl like sex, a lot. She cheats on her boyfriends, a lot. She ruins people's lives by sleeping with them. But the question is, is it wrong for us to hate on her? Its half and half for me.

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Originally posted by Surtur
I think terms change over time. Just like "whore" used to mostly be used to refer to hookers, now it can be used to refer to promiscuity.

"Sl*t" can mean a love of dick that is too strong, not necessarily liking a whole bunch of dicks. I'd call a married woman with 2 kids who crashes and burns an entire marriage by having casual sex with two different men behind hubbies back a sl*t. She wouldn't need to bang an entire hockey time to earn that label.

Originally posted by Surtur
The reason for this is that it is generally much easier for a woman to get sex than it is for a man.

Originally posted by Surtur
And these days women do not tend to get shamed for liking sex.

Originally posted by Surtur
You can get married in high school and spend the rest of your life with someone and only sleep with them and still be able to claim you like sex. It's possible to drink and yet not drink to the extent you're an alcoholic.

I think if we wanna continue this discussion, I'd need to know what you define as "****" and what you define as something that should be shamed.

Yeah again my standard is consistent on this. Neither men or women are going to get my moral approval for ****ing people they barely know

You can play the double standard both ways “why is it when a women gets a lot of sex or sexualizes a man it’s empowering but when a man sleeps with a bunch of women or sexualizes them he’s a sexist bigot” depends on who you’re talking to

Everyone should be able to **** whoever mutually agrees to **** them. It's all good.

I agree with the first part of that statement but not the second.

Originally posted by Emperordmb
I agree with the first part of that statement but not the second.

Originally posted by Emperordmb
I agree with the first part of that statement but not the second.

And yet you took the time to Oh lets be kind and say "RESPOND!".

Originally posted by MythLord
Then I suppose it's really just your own use of the word, really. If we're talking about "sluts" in the sense that them having sex causes harm to someone, like for example when a wife cheats on a faithful and good husband, then yes we should shame those "sluts".

And? It being more of a challenge doesn't mean it should be rewarded, and the other side punished.

Which is good.

Sure, and you can also not get married, be in a consenting polyamorous relationship, or go through several partners before finding the right one, and still not be an immoral witch that should be burned at the stake.

I think if we wanna continue this discussion, I'd need to know what you define as "****" and what you define as something that should be shamed.

I think if you're in a relationship and can't keep your pants on/legs closed, you should be shamed. I think if you need another d*ck/p*ssy so bad despite having access to a perfectly viable one at home you are a skank/wh*re/manwh*re/mansl*t/whatever.

Originally posted by Emperordmb
Yeah again my standard is consistent on this. Neither men or women are going to get my moral approval for ****ing people they barely know

You can play the double standard both ways “why is it when a women gets a lot of sex or sexualizes a man it’s empowering but when a man sleeps with a bunch of women or sexualizes them he’s a sexist bigot” depends on who you’re talking to

Yeah personally I'm not impressed by skanks or players. I'm also not one of those people who needs the woman to be a virgin, I just have no interest in hooking up(even casually) with the town pump.

Originally posted by Surtur
Yeah personally I'm not impressed by skanks or players. I'm also not one of those people who needs the woman to be a virgin, I just have no interest in hooking up(even casually) with the town pump.

Originally posted by Chad the Bull
You mean Chads and Staceys when you call women skanks and men playa's. You are the Incel looking in.

Try again 🙂

Originally posted by Surtur
I think if you're in a relationship and can't keep your pants on/legs closed, you should be shamed. I think if you need another d*ck/p*ssy so bad despite having access to a perfectly viable one at home you are a skank/wh*re/manwh*re/mansl*t/whatever.

Originally posted by MythLord
So essentially, if you're a cheater?
Follow up question: what about a consenting, polyamorous relationship?

I think you can be a skank and be single too. I think that is where the more traditional definitions of the word apply.

Originally posted by Surtur
I think you can be a skank and be single too. I think that is where the more traditional definitions of the word apply.

Originally posted by samhain
A lot of the judgement doesn't come from the patriarchy though, it comes from other women.

Patriarchy doesn't literally means men. You can be a woman and fully support patriarchy just like you can be Surtur and want patriarchy destroyed.

Originally posted by MythLord
That doesn't answer my question. Would you condemn members of a consenting polyamorous relationship? Would you shame and/or judge them?

When one is single what defines skanky behavior would be the number of people they are banging. I see no reason why a relationship where both agree to sleep around would be any different.