Beniboybling
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Oh my God, no that isn't what gender non-conforming is. Holy **** did you read the article?"Gender nonconforming means your gender identity or expression doesn't go along with traditional ideas of just male or female -- it could mean you identify with words like non-binary, genderqueer, or something else. Some adults use words like "gender expansive" or "gender creative" to describe children with non-binary gender expressions."
OK my bad, I misread it - was on vacation with bad interwebz. 🙁
But yeah, those terms were not in reference to what they should tell their preschool kids.
For all the shit you're giving me it seems like you didn't read the article because gender non-conforming is very distinguished from regular transgendered people in the article
Not giving you shit DMB, just asking you to be specific, cite your claims and stay mad. Makes the conversation more enjoyable for the both of us.
And one of the best defenses transgendered people have is saying that it's biologically rooted, pointing to differences in brain structure and hormones, as well as brain chemistry, or deeply psychologically rooted with even the article you linked saying that the validity of transgenderism is characterized by persistently identifying with the identity, or culturally rooted in the male-female archetype.There is absolutely no basis in any of these things for "genderfluidity," since that shit isn't biologically, psychologically, or culturally rooted.
OK? You are conflating being transgender or genderfluid with gender identity, they are states of mind, gender identities are the societal concepts that they feel problematic about, which you needn't even be trans to challenge or break from. Neither does being non-binary mean you're inconsistent lol, they persistently identify in this manner.
It says to talk to your child about gender using that website and the first two links at least take you to places that say "the gender binary" is bullshit.
A general set of resources that cover various situations and stages of development yeah, like I said. Try to understand that this still doesn't equate to giving your 5 year old a TEDtalk on the gender binary, and in fact are headed as there to educate parents, not kids:
A comprehensive collection of research, resources, and stories to help any parent, family member, or guardian learn more about gender diversity.
If parents are going to talk to their kids about gender identity, it helps to know what they are talking about first, but that doesn't mean imparting complex concepts to them that they are too young to engage with.
And you're offering nothing more than an opinion when you defend gender being a spectrum by that logic, and if perspectives on this are nothing more than opinion, then they shouldn't be imparted on young children, they should be explained when they are old enough to discuss and debate this concept.
It's a judgement yes, that doesn't mean it lacks value. But beyond that I agree, and I think you are wrong when you say that's what Planned Parenthood is advising parents to. The
specific advice they give to how to talk to trans kids about gender identity are very basic and uncomplicated, the general resources they cite are not specific, cover various age groups, and are geared towards parental understanding of the topic so they can address it properly, not the child's.
And one of the main defenses trans people have is pointing to the biological basis for transgenderism, hormones, brain structure, etc. studies that people have done on transgendered people's brains.
Covered already, this doesn't equate to gender identity being biological.
Identity has to have some objective and socially negotiated basis otherwise anyone can identify as anything, which is why I completely oppose the post-modernist social constructionist view of gender that says gender is disconnected from biology.
Um no? "Don't like don't want" isn't prove that gender is biological, I agree with you on the importance of some kind of societal grounding, but that doesn't justify forcibly grounding it in something that's is not. Gender identity can be observably identified as a set of social constructs, and one's that have changed significantly overtime, so I can't fault people for deconstructing the idea that it's biological. But that also doesn't mean we can't come to a new, socially negotiated and agreed upon understanding of what gender is.