Originally posted by BlakemoreI think some of this is kind of going away though. Like it still happens this way but not as much.
not necessarily. My 2nd gf payed for the coffee because she asked me out. I declined, she insisted. I think the notion of offering to pay for a date is the responsibility of the one who asks. [/B]
It's less you have one person explicitly asking another to go on a date and rather you have two people interested in dating meeting through some type of social device ie dating website.
Also I'm not against the idea of one person paying for a date I just hate the expected social construct that the guy has to pay for it.
To me if we both want to go on this date then no should have to pay for the other one's time.
If there is a money issue involved where someone suggests something unaffordable to other person then it gets more grey for me. That's why I also try to work with other person to pick a date that works for both of us.
Originally posted by Newjakthat would be a mutual agreement, though, so pay for yourselves. 😉
I think some of this is kind of going away though. Like it still happens this way but not as much.It's less you have one person explicitly asking another to go on a date and rather you have two people interested in dating meeting through some type of social device ie dating website.
Originally posted by Newjak
I don't know his specific reasons but for me just having a date that is meal just doesn't work.It's very boring and most people are too nervous to be able to be open.
I think this has been proven through studies, although it's been awhile since I looked it up, that having some type of activity that actually engages your focus allows the people involved to more relaxed.
Creating a better dating experience.
^ This.
And men communicate better side-by-side than face-to-face, especially if their hands are engaged in some kind of activity. Guys will open up more on a car ride than across a dinner table.
And if you hit it off, and things get physical, you do not have to worry about hygeine or digestion.
Originally posted by truejedi
I'm married. I think it's great. Two incomes working together is a completely unemotional reason why to do it. One income doesn't cut it anymore. Much higher quality of life when two people combine.
I think the income thing is a good point and has really become one of the main driving factors if you will for cohabitation and marriage.
I have to say, I will never get married by choice.
I don't believe in it myself.
Originally posted by Blakemoreand I'll add that that applies for when a man asks a woman out. It was your idea so you're paying, but if she or he had a good time, they'll split it with you, but not if you wasted their time. It's like an unwritten code.
if I was asked out, they're in charge. If I had a good time, then we split it. If it was a shit time, they can pay for wasting My time.
I think the traditional idea of marriage in America is antiquated at best and harmfully mentally at worst. To me marriage is just a promise between committed parties as a show of faith. I don't believe there is anything super special about marriage.
I mean I'm getting married to the person I love but I think that the legally sanctioned marriage paradigm of our current model get be greatly overhauled to a more dependent based system to maximize the amount of inclusion.