So There's This Girl...

Alright, I was just thinking a lot because I was feeling sad about my ex again. 🙁 I was thinking about how I need to forget about her (impossible) and move on.

So I was thinking about this girl that I'd like to hook up with but, I don't know. She kind of comes with baggage and I think I'm capable of liking her but just not as much as my ex, which scares me. I feel like I won't be able to meet somebody who lives up to the pedistool that I put my ex on. So maybe this girl could be great for me and I just look at her flaws and think that she couldn't messure up, but this may not be true. One problem is that I already noticed 'flaws' as I see them in her personality which I never found any with my ex in the 2 years we were together. So maybe I'm right and she won't messure up to her. Don't get me wrong, I'll give her a shot if I can hook up with her, but I just don't know how far we could go. Btw, I look to the future, not just how much fun I'm having during the present.

Her story: I met her a couple months ago but 'really' never talked to her until the last 2 weeks of school. Those last 2 weeks we really connected, I think. Maybe it was just me, but I feel that she may have seen something in me as well. However, she had a boyfriend. She has been going out with him for nearly 3 years. However, he is no good for her, AT ALL! Infact, the major flaw I see in her is her judge of character because I don't see how she is with this guy. She first tells me about how he cheated on her... 3 TIMES! She had excuses for him for the first 2 times. I told her that there is no excuse for cheating. She tried to make it sound that it was the girls forcing themselves on him. He's a big guy though, so he could fend them off if needed. So I guess he convinced her that he feels guilty for being pressured into it, but he really loves her or some bullshit like that. The 3rd time though, there wasn't an excuse. WHY THE F*CK DOESN'T SHE LEAVE HIM!?!?! I know the reason. After 3 years, its hard to pry yourself away from somebody. But she needs to. Hell, all the signs are there. Even her close friends (plus me) have directly told her to dump him, he is a horrible guy and she can do better. She even acknowledged that he's not very good to her in that sense and she wants to leave him but just can't bring herself to do so. IT GETS WORSE THOUGH! She later dropped a bombshell of how horrible this guy really is. She says he changed because this happened when he was 14 and he is now nearly 21. I believe he isn't really this way either anymore, but it shows the potential of how bad he can be. Anyway, when he was 14, he made his little sister give him a handjob. THAT SICK F*CKER! When this girl found this out, I don't see how she stayed with him. Then later, he cheats on her? IS SHE BLIND!?!?! She broke up with him like 3 days before school got out but he pressured her to get back together with him in the next day. DAMN IT!!!

What I do like about her though: I know that sounds bad and makes her sound dumb. But I'm trying to be simpithetic to her situation because I know she is a nice person. She's fun to hang around and she is very pretty. Also, I'm not very religious and very religious people can get under my skin, but I do have similar morals to religious people. She is more religious than me, but not too religious, but enough to have the morals I believe in. I don't know if she is "saving herself for marriage" or not, but I know she is a virgin. I'm thinking she might be saving herself if she hasn't f*cked this guy after 3 years (although she's done other things. I'm not a horndog so I don't mind having to wait to have sex with her. I'm just relieved that she didn't f*ck this guy. I'd rather her be clear of him and me not 'get any', than me have to think about how she actually had sex with him. Btw: She is one of my school's best softball players as a freshman so I know she is into sports which I like.

I have no way of contacting her over summer, so I have no idea if she has left him yet. I hope and wouldn't be surprised if she dumps him sometime this summer. Hopefully she does, so I have a shot at dating her when school starts up again. But again, it will be just testing the water. I don't expect anything significant, but that would be ideal.

If any of you actually read all of this, please respond and let me know your thoughts.

I hope everything works out for you myth 👆

Wow.. what a sick pervert.
I too hope everything works out for you. Good luck.

dude.that guy is sick! yea my lady just left me after we had an amazin 2 year relationship 2getha its really hard letting go eh.not easy at all to just 4get and move on like people constantly say u shud. yea go 4 the rebound get wit this girl if u can. Good look buddy.if u wanna talk just pm

i dont know what to say except hang in there hope it works out for you either way . sounds like she needs good friends like you even if it dont turn into something else . i guess only time will tell .

How can you want a relationship with a nimrod like that?

This girl is begging to get cheated on by this guy. Once you let it slide once...it's all down hill from there. I've seen it before....girls like this are basket cases. She's that one that will break up with her boyfriend because he did something terrible, then hook up with you, and then for no reason other than he said "sorry" she'll be back with him leaving you behind. And you won't get a second thought. Save yourself the heart ache and humiliation.

Leave this skank alone. She needs a couple more minutes in the oven before she's ready to be taken out. Anyone can be nice...and lots of girls are pretty. That doesn't make her special in any way. A girl like this will be treated like garbage until SHE realizes it for herself and decides to change. Nothing you or anyone else says will change that.

Quiting waiting around for this girl like she's "the one. You'll know when you found "the one" because she'll be the girl who's "flaws" are the things that you like most about her. Besides...girlfriends during summer are a waste of time...especially with all that skin lying around out there just waiting to be hooked up with. 😛

dont bother with her, she sounds like a retard and will only cause u pain...

its what u think not what other people think but a thew months ago i was havin this problem and i sort of fancy this girl in my class but i dont want to ask her out coz i think she will say no and i still cant and never will get over it

theres a girl kinda like that in my life, she was there for me a lot during n after my relationship w/my ex...but i dont think its a good idea to go for a girl like that, simply because if weird sh!t happens there, you lose 2 friends instead of one (ur ex)...my advice is to leave it alone, unless there is an overpowering desire on your part to explore more. I wouldnt tho.

well myth..every body has flaws the reason you didnt think your ex did was because you loved her. but this girl's flaw seems to be she is scared to dump her boyfriend many times its not always easy. just talk to her be a real good friend. because if you only have 'love' after the love is gone what is there? that is why its best to be friends first then work up to going out with her. you seem like you like her a lot....and I believe you would be good for her. do you know any of her friends or does any of your friends have her number you can call her?

keep walking the road of a friend and you'll be that Plutonic friend....aka "the penis in a jar" friend.

Don't be the "break glass in case of emergency" person in her life. Let some other sap be that guy...

When in doubt....ignore her. If she likes you...she'll come looking for you. If she doesn't like you...then you won't hear from her.

link 😱 I cant believe you first comment!

Originally posted by Myth
Alright, I was just thinking a lot because I was feeling sad about my ex again. 🙁 I was thinking about how I need to forget about her (impossible) and move on.

So I was thinking about this girl that I'd like to hook up with but, I don't know. She kind of comes with baggage and I think I'm capable of liking her but just not as much as my ex, which scares me. I feel like I won't be able to meet somebody who lives up to the pedistool that I put my ex on. So maybe this girl could be great for me and I just look at her flaws and think that she couldn't messure up, but this may not be true. One problem is that I already noticed 'flaws' as I see them in her personality which I never found any with my ex in the 2 years we were together. So maybe I'm right and she won't messure up to her. Don't get me wrong, I'll give her a shot if I can hook up with her, but I just don't know how far we could go. Btw, I look to the future, not just how much fun I'm having during the present.

Her story: I met her a couple months ago but 'really' never talked to her until the last 2 weeks of school. Those last 2 weeks we really connected, I think. Maybe it was just me, but I feel that she may have seen something in me as well. However, she had a boyfriend. She has been going out with him for nearly 3 years. However, he is no good for her, AT ALL! Infact, the major flaw I see in her is her judge of character because I don't see how she is with this guy. She first tells me about how he cheated on her... 3 TIMES! She had excuses for him for the first 2 times. I told her that there is no excuse for cheating. She tried to make it sound that it was the girls forcing themselves on him. He's a big guy though, so he could fend them off if needed. So I guess he convinced her that he feels guilty for being pressured into it, but he really loves her or some bullshit like that. The 3rd time though, there wasn't an excuse. WHY THE F*CK DOESN'T SHE LEAVE HIM!?!?! I know the reason. After 3 years, its hard to pry yourself away from somebody. But she needs to. Hell, all the signs are there. Even her close friends (plus me) have directly told her to dump him, he is a horrible guy and she can do better. She even acknowledged that he's not very good to her in that sense and she wants to leave him but just can't bring herself to do so. IT GETS WORSE THOUGH! She later dropped a bombshell of how horrible this guy really is. She says he changed because this happened when he was 14 and he is now nearly 21. I believe he isn't really this way either anymore, but it shows the potential of how bad he can be. Anyway, when he was 14, he made his little sister give him a handjob. THAT SICK F*CKER! When this girl found this out, I don't see how she stayed with him. Then later, he cheats on her? IS SHE BLIND!?!?! She broke up with him like 3 days before school got out but he pressured her to get back together with him in the next day. DAMN IT!!!

What I do like about her though: I know that sounds bad and makes her sound dumb. But I'm trying to be simpithetic to her situation because I know she is a nice person. She's fun to hang around and she is very pretty. Also, I'm not very religious and very religious people can get under my skin, but I do have similar morals to religious people. She is more religious than me, but not too religious, but enough to have the morals I believe in. I don't know if she is "saving herself for marriage" or not, but I know she is a virgin. I'm thinking she might be saving herself if she hasn't f*cked this guy after 3 years (although she's done other things. I'm not a horndog so I don't mind having to wait to have sex with her. I'm just relieved that she didn't f*ck this guy. I'd rather her be clear of him and me not 'get any', than me have to think about how she actually had sex with him. Btw: She is one of my school's best softball players as a freshman so I know she is into sports which I like.

I have no way of contacting her over summer, so I have no idea if she has left him yet. I hope and wouldn't be surprised if she dumps him sometime this summer. Hopefully she does, so I have a shot at dating her when school starts up again. But again, it will be just testing the water. I don't expect anything significant, but that would be ideal.

If any of you actually read all of this, please respond and let me know your thoughts.

did you type that? WOW!

Originally posted by Raven Guardia
link 😱 I cant believe you first comment!

Took it from Chris Rock. I don't want credit for such a great concept. 😮

That's what happens to guys that work the sensitive angle that women claim to love. Which is the reason why I say women don't know what they want.

They say they want to be treated like a princess, then when they do get that treatment....they aren't happy with it.

Girls have a love/hate relationship with being ignored. It pisses them off and drives them crazy...but they keep coming back for more.

but link dont say Plutonic friend its just low...I mean a girl wants guy for him and he really loves her he dont care about that..he loves her just because its her.

meh, i changed my mind, let it all play out...see how it goes

Originally posted by Linkalicious
They say they want to be treated like a princess, then when they do get that treatment....they aren't happy with it.

Originally posted by Raven Guardia
but link dont say Plutonic friend its just low...I mean a girl wants guy for him and he really loves her he dont care about that..he loves her just because its her.

Wait. if we're talking about the new girl...then that's not love.

When you're in love with someone, you see their flaws and faults, and embrace them....not point them out and critique them.

Plutonic is the word for it...whether that's low or not is up to the person reading it.

I've been the plutonic friend by trying to word said "sensitive angle" that crap works 1 outta 20 times. I'm just trying to give my man Myth the heads up on this one...

silly silly link....

Originally posted by Storm
Don' t generalize please.

Generalizing is the only way that statement stands true.

It may NOT be true for you, or Raven, or other girls on KMC. But generally speaking....IT IS TRUE!