Hating Your Parent or Parents Forever

I hate my mother and her boyfriend. They are so mean, and my mom has basically changed into her boyfriends ways. They are both abusive too. My mom just got worse and worse and now she's exactly like her boyfriend. And we always first and she is strict and she be fussing with me for nothing and starting stuff. And if I ask a question so that I can understand better, she'll say "I don't have to answer you, you're a child" or " I don't owe you anything" or "Shut Up!". What kind of communication is that. So tonight I bought a pizza home and my mom's boyfriend asked for a piece and I said no. So lata I left my plate and on the table with little scraps of pizza, cause my mom usually cleans up, ever since I was little, it's just how i grew up, I am not saying that she is suppose to do it, but that's just how things have been going. So all of a sudden she calls me to come dump my plate, and unoffensively I ask why and she starts talking in a mean way, and I am like why you mad and she says she's not and then i make a face like "o.k.a.y., then why are you fussing, you must be mad", and she says" yeah make those faces, I will slap the shit out of you". If that aint anger then I don't know what is. Well in the end, which took forever like always, I ended up telling her how she doesn't deserve my respect and then she starts yelling about how I better not ask for nothing anymore and she's not going to buy me clothes and no more allowance and how our relationship has been bad for a while and how this argument has nothing to do with me not sharing my pizza with her boyfriend (yeah right). By the way she followed me to my room and started fussing about all of this after we were out of the kitchen and i had dumped my plate. And one time she left my room and I said something after she left and she hears me and comes back in. What's that crap. I have to right to say stuff in the privacy of my room, it's not my fault if she wants to stick around to eavesdrop. For example, I finally got a phone in my room when I turned 16, which is ludicrous, I should of been had a phone,it gets taken away in weeks and I had to talk on the phone connected to the wall like in the middle of the house, and she could hear my conversation and I was talking about and I didn't care if she heard and she tells me to get off cause I am talking about her. If she didn't want to hear it, she shouldn't have made me use that phone.Continued..

And she didn't have to be right underneath me right next to me while I was on the phone. These past years of my life have been hell, she even made me go to counseling cause she sayed I wasn't respecting her and I was the one with the problem. As soon as I graduate and get a stable life I am never coming back and am not keeping in contact, and if i have kids, they won't even know I have a mom, cause they will never meet her.

OMG! Your mom is a total Nazi!

I mean when she's not working hard to provide food and shelter for you she's cleaning up after you!

Tragic!

Dont tell those poor orphans in Calcutta about this!
Your tragic story of suffering is bound to turn them suicidal! ✅

tongue10

I was expecting responses like this, I can see where you're coming from, I guess you have to be in my shoes.

i like the enter button

it helps me space my sentences so that it is easier to read.

sorry, i'll keep that in mind.

Is your moms boyfriend cute?

You should like totally bang him! 😮‍💨

That will show her that her barbaric attempts to salvage your relationship with expensive counselors is SO Saddam!! saddam

um............. I am male and what you typed is something i won't even comment on.

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Originally posted by powerfulone1987
um............. I am male and what you typed is something i won't even comment on.

Yall are missing the point

Changes: has become mentally,physically, verbally abusive, mean, stricter,.............

Those kind of things. She thinks just cause she is a grown up and doesn't have to answer questions that I ask and stuff like that and she does but that doesn't mean that she should use that excuse everytime to i ask one that will better help to understand why she does the things she does. Look where that method has gotten us now. I don't even care, I just need to get out of here.

That's why I asked...

Well, ignore her, talk to her as little as you can - is like giving her the silence treatment- Well, I think she may began to wonder why are you so quite and she mught ask what is wrong with you (I hope) and then you slowly tell her what is bothering you... maybe she'll understand?
Have you tried to talk to her about how you feel? 😖

I have been giving her the silence treatment for a couple years now. I stay in my room all day and dont deal with anybody, not even my sister. I also have social anxiety/phobia, so i am distant from people outside the house too. The way i act has come up in so many arguments so many times, even tonight, she said how i stay in my room and don't deal with nobody and stuff like that and how i don't say thank you and stuff like that, and that's when i said she doesn't deserve it. And tonight was the first time i told her how she abused me and she says she didnt and when her boyfriend came in he would whip me with belts and give me welps and stuff and a verbally and mentally abuse me also and when he did it i told her and she always said she's talk to him, well tonight when i told her about it how that's one reason i don't like them guess what she said. He only whipped me once. I will never forgive her for that . I know what i went through. Now do you see to the extent of how much he has warped her brain.

She'll defend him before anybody else. And I have heard their arguments and he is so male chovernistic (don't know how to spell it). And you would think they would break up, but noooo. And they have gotten so bad to the point where she says she won't make him meals any more and he says something like don't then, cause i don't need you. Guess what, she just fixed him a meal today. She has went back on her word against him so many times. But here I am, no phone, no special privlidges, a bunch of other things.

Sorry to read/hear that.

He hit you? Report him!, you should, he is not even linked to you so he would claim he had the right to do that.
What about your father? could you find help with someone from your family? Maybe you can go live with one of them or at least take a vacation from home...
Another thing you could do is seek help in school or another place. What you need right now is help from somebody that really knows how to deal with situations like this and knows or has felt why are you feeling right now.

Well my dad is dead, but he was real nice, people would tell me how they wish he was there dad or wish that their dad was just like them.

I tried moving in with my grandma, but my mom wouldn't let me.

He hasn't beat me like that in some years, since i was small, but he has threatened me with it. He was smacking me real hard in the face last year, him and my mom. I find the more distant i put between them and me, the less incidences like that occur, at least I think, I am not sure anymore...........

Holy shit, you hear that....that's the sound of the world smallest violin playing just for you.

From what I can tell this is just teen angst, nothing more. Your moms boyfriend asks for a slice of pizza, and you say no. Of course that's going to start trouble. Let the guy have a slice of pizza and avoid all this shit. And so what if she wanted you to clean your plate? You have no right to question her over something you should be doing in the first place.

You're mom is just a mom, and she's probably sick of your shit like not sharing pizza with her boyfriend and whining when she asks you to clean up your plate. Grow up, for christs sake. If you don't like the fact that you don't have as much privacy as you'd like, get a job and move out. Then you'll see how good you had it, "ohhh boohoo, my mommy listens in on my phone conversations." be greatful that you have a house and free food that she provides for you.

Because of what he has put me through I don't owe him anything not even a slice of pizza, and again, that is not the point, nor me cleaning my plate is the point, i never said she was wrong for making me do it, I was just saying the reason for abruptly making do it was wrong. I don't think she should try and take revenge on me for hurting her stupid boyfriends feelings. Get it, Got it, Done.

Of course she's going to respond badly when you are a brat to her boyfriend. Common sense. You keep pmsing about "what he's done to you". What has he done?

read my messages above, and you should find out. And obviously, you have no idea what it is like to be a teenager, you must have skipped those years or something, cause everybody wants privacy. And you say how of course she is gonna get mad over what i did, well she shouldn't cause it aint right.