well...i don't think marriage is for losers! I plan to get married some day, and i'm not going to have sex until i do. Part of it is based on my faith, but i don't think i'm allowd to elaborate on that, so i'll just tell ya my other reasons. I believe in saving myself for marriage, cuz for me, one of the biggest gifts i could give my husband is my virginity. Sex before marriage totally takes away from what its meant to be. Its a union b/w a man and a woman, if someone has had sex w/ numerous ppl, it doens't mean much to them anymore, its just something they do for fun or pleasure. But by saving myself, i'm making a statement, that i not only respect myself, but i also have respect for the person i will marry some day.
if someone has had sex w/ numerous ppl, it doens't mean much to them anymoreyou got that all wrong, it aint the sex it self but with whom you have it with that matters. In my younger days it was the thrill of the chase that drove you, and thryng to nail as many as possible, but I guess that is more of a guy thing. When you meet the one that is the "love "off your life you sex does mean a lot to you
well...i just personally think that sex gets cheapened when its done w/ numerous ppl or just for the thrill of the chase. Our society only sees it as a source of pleasure....but like i said before, its about uniting yourself w/ one other person. The two becoming one, and how can that happen when sex is nothing new...it becomes more of a trophy, or an accomplishment....and i kinda follow you w/ the "love" of your life thing....but thats half my point, I respect that person, and i may not even know them....but yet I want to save myself, and i hope that my future spouse does the same.
too bad if the sex sucks cause you both are so unexperienced, and the fact that it will be hard for you to find a virgin male at all at least where the chemestry between you bith are right
Sex before marriage totally takes away from what its meant to be.first of all the main reason for sex is for us to reproduce, the affectionate feel of it is something we human has learned to enjoy over time.
i'm not trying to say that sex isn't for pleasure....cuz it is. I'm just saying that there is much more too it then what is portrayed in movies and on tv. Yes, obviously its for pleasure...but it goes beyond that, to what i've already said more then once! The union of a man and a woman, one man to one woman, and no one else. It is the true marriage between a husband and wife, the actual wedding day is just for the other ppl watching. So in a nut shell what i'm saying is that there is more to sex then just pleasure, its a giving away of yourself, you leave something w/ that person, and for me, I want that to be one person and one person only. I don't want to have little bits of my heart scattered w/ all these different guys, i want to have my WHOLE heart to give to the love of my life. I'm not gunna disrespect him by saying...well....i guess i didn't love you enough to save my whole heart for you...i've only got a little bit left.......is it so crazy to think that your future partner is gunna want all of you? and not just what happens to be left?
The union of a man and a woman, one man to one woman, and no one else. It is the true marriage between a husband and wife, the actual wedding day is just for the other ppl watching. So in a nut shell what i'm saying is that there is more to sex then just pleasure, its a giving away of yourself, you leave something w/ that person, .
Yeah for those who lives with blinders that might be so, to me that sound like some christian spoof.
well, i am a christian, and if you don't mind me saying so its not spoof. but I can see that i'm just wasting my time cuz we have two totally different sets of beliefs and morals.....so, i guess we'll just have to agree to disagree......cuz if your as deeply rooted in your beliefs as i am in mine, its gunna take a lot more then a message board to change them.
HockeyHorror> I think humans, some dolphin species, chimpanzees, and some other species of monkey have sex for fun.
Ilovorlando> Sure, movie- and Tv-portrayels of sex is very clichéish. But so is your statement of “union of one man and one woman and no one else.”
Sex is a natural part of being human, it’s not holy or sanctimonious or stuff like that. It is JUST sex. You can have love without sex, and sex without love, and you won’t be leaving bits of yourself with “all these different” guys. You’ll have something from them, too.
You’ll know what you LIKE when it comes to making love and having sex. Imagine you save yourself, and your husband turns out to be the world’s worst lover. And now you’re caught, having waited.
By not allowing yourself to experience that side of yourself, you’re disrespecting yourself. I’ve been with my share of men through my younger years. Some were wonderful boyfriends, a few scattered one-night stands, a couple of charming seducers etc. Now I am married, and I don’t love my husband LESS because I once loved others. I love him more, because I can compare him to others, and appreciate all his good traits – in bed and out of it 😉
well, i hate the idea of divorce, but i know its a reality none the less. and the reason i hate it so much, is for the fact you stated finiti, i'd have given all my heart to one man, and then had all of that torn away. I believe that marriage is for life, unless that marriage involves abuse or a partner being unfaithful. I know that that idea seems pretty far out of reach, but I like to set my goals high, and not settle for anything less then all i'm worth. and to omega, my views on sex once again differ from yours. for me, sex is sanctimonious and holy, and thats why waiting till marriage is so important.
Originally posted by silver_tearsI don't mean to argue with you silv but your wrong about dumping someone because they are bad in bed,saying it's superficial..it's not. if you sleep with someone who doen't care about your needs in the bedroom and only full fills his what else would he be selfish about.(just a example)
Omega- If you had saved yourself and your husband had turned out so bad, you would not have anything to go by so you wouldn't notice a difference 🤨and also would anyone here dump someone they love because they aren't the best in bed?
I mean that's being very superficial 😬