I have no respect for anyone who would marry a person with which they had not yet had sex. When you get married, it's a social and legal contract, binding you together until death or divorce, whichever comes first. If you are serious about marriage, you will find out all the really important things about your partner beforehand. You are supposed to be spending the rest of your nights in bed with them. You are presumably going to copulate many times. It's just plain stupid to not try to understand what the rest of your life together will be like in every important way. You don't go into a binding decision like that blind, unless you're a moron. It's not pious, it's not moral, it's not romantic, it's just plain ignorant.
Of course that does not mean that being promiscuous is a good idea. You find someone who's clean, knows how to use protection and likely to stick around for a while, then go for it-- intelligently.
I'm sure many religious and immature people will flame me for this. Fine, go ahead. But you're going to time-out, and no desert or TV tonight.
Iluvorlando> You’re entitled to your view. You just don’t know what you’re missing 😄
I respect you views, though.
Silver Tears> Uh! I’m not supposed to stay with someone just because I wouldn’t KNOW better. That’s tossing womens right down the drain.
I doubt “not the best in bed” is a reason for divorce. HOWEVER – if we try to delude ourselves into thinking sex is not ALSO an important part of a relationship, we’re in trouble.
I agree with Badkittykitty.
Fallen Jedi> It’s the old “Follow your heart” when it comes to sex. Married or not. If you WANT to, okay, if not – don’t.
Finti’s right. I’ve had sex with people I weren’t in love with. It’s called a one-night stand. It’s all attraction and passion and nothing more. And can be quite – satisfying. 😉
Herr Logan> 👆