Originally posted by Devil King
No, you were implying that I had issues with my mother and that I was talking shit about her. It's a way of implying something without actually saying it. Call that tisting if you need Queeq to think for you, but you knew what you were doing.
No, dude. It was genuine concern. I don't know what goes through your mind...but regardless of how heated a debate is, we should be mature enough to put that stuff behind us when we talk about serious personal things. This seemed like a real concern of yours and I was genuinely interested on your thoughts. If I gave off the impression that I thought you were talking shit about her, I apologize. My concern was more or else a clarification request on your feelings. I even told you that I couldn't be as strong as you.
I talk to people on here more than I talk to my REAL friends. I consider you at the very least, an acquaintance. If you express concern or I think there might be something wrong, I am willing to help or listen.
Originally posted by Devil King
She has no issues with me being gay, she has issues with other people knowing she has a gay son. I don't need to ask her to publically accept me. My only issue is that I'm in my 20's; she's in her 50's and was raised in a much less progressive south. If my gandmother were still alive, she'd act the same way. She doesn't have any issue with my orientation, but she likes to use that same bullshit republican (and this is what I meant Feceman) cop-out that my sexuality or the sexuality of her son is no one else's business. Well, that's bull shit. When asked how I am by those who aren't "in the know", she should tell them it's none of their business, if being gay [b]OR being straight in no one's business. But she doesn't. She tells them I'm fine and that no I haven't gotten married. See, it's only "no one's busiess" when they ask about me. When people ask about my brother, she tells them he's great, married with two kids and a business that's doing very well. This reality doesn't mean that I have issues with her, or that she's not supportive of me; she is. But it's that same generational difference that keeps gay men her age sleazing around on the net or being affraid to have a real relationship because someone they work with might see them out with someone they're dating. It's that generational difference that keeps gay men her age thinking they're only gay in a chat room or in the back room of a club. It's that fear that keeps people like Larry Craig engaging in sleazy behavior in a public bathroom that makes the front page and portrays gay men as dark, seedy charaacters that sink about in the shadows trying to steal your children and stalking rest stops.That was really 2 different issues that kind of feed into each other. My mother is scared of me being judged by the other person. This is why I responded to Robtard about "blaming the mother". My response illustrated her sense of humor about the program we were talking about. It has nothing to do with her "really being all that bad". [/B]
That makes a lot more sense now that you've gone into detail. You didn't have to share something that personal but I appreciate you trusting me enough with information.
That is really mature on your part to realize that she comes from a different generation. Sometimes, it takes decades for a child to let their parent have weaknesses. To realize what you have realized at such a young age tells a lot about you.