This is gonna get ugly.

When you are married you are bond as one.I think we should take our husband names.There is nothering wrong with having there names.Or if you don't like it let people call your old last name first and then your husband's name second.
I really don't see the big deal of taking your husband's name it does not make you any different nor strong or weak.
My parents have different names because they never married but I have my dad's last name and because my stepfather went to court for this his last name before my real last name.Giving me two last names very confuseing.I am going to fix that when I am eighteen.JM 💃

Originally posted by David Duchovony
Well how many people agree with the societal norm of a woman taking a man's last name. I mean I can trace my family history better than any woman ever could. I think women SHOULD take their husband's name though if they don't it really complicates things like taxes, trips etc.
So what do you guys think?

I don't see the big deal here. She can always divorce and get her last name back. The last name in a marriage is only for law matters. No biggie.

When I got maried we joine dthe names together... this has led to my son being nicknamed "Shotgun" at school....

Ok for one thing why would a woman not want to take her husband's name?Does she have feelings for other guys that she wants to prented she is not married?
When you become marriaged you become one and you gain a new name.I really think you guys are being silly about this whole thing.What is so bad about having your husband's name?
As much as I hate it when woman does this you can do it anyway.You can call yourself MS if it brothers you so much.But really guys get a grip we have alot of freedom and being married should be a great thing not a bad thing.
I mean it is your choice to be a home maker or go out to the work place.It has nothering to do with something as stupid as wanting to keep your old name.
JM 🙄

How does not taking your husband's last name mean that you want to pretend that you're not married? You don't necessarily gain a new name by marrying someone. Lots of women keep their last names, and it's not because they "have feelings for other guys or want to pretend she's not married". Your argument is nonexistant.

Ideally I would prefer it if my wife took my last name...or atleast do what John Stamos did.

but ultimately it's up to the woman...and I'd support her wishes.

Originally posted by Jackie Malfoy
Ok for one thing why would a woman not want to take her husband's name?Does she have feelings for other guys that she wants to prented she is not married?

No offense, but that's quite possibly the worst reasoning I've ever heard on this issue. 😐

If she had feelings for other guys, she wouldn't get married in the first place, goldilocks. 😐

Exactly what I said, Nivek...

Its easier on the kiddies... hyphens just get messy

Personally, I plan on taking my husband's name eventually when I get married, so it's a must that I like his name 😮

Originally posted by Darth Revan
No offense, but that's quite possibly the worst reasoning I've ever heard on this issue. 😐

If she had feelings for other guys, she wouldn't get married in the first place, goldilocks. 😐

Yes that is true but what I am asking is why not changed your name?What is the harm of that?That is basily my question to all of you girls who are Ms out there.
Keep the Ms if you want but have your husband's name.Also I am not a blond I have black dark hair!JM 💃

Originally posted by David Duchovony
Well how many people agree with the societal norm of a woman taking a man's last name. I mean I can trace my family history better than any woman ever could. I think women SHOULD take their husband's name though if they don't it really complicates things like taxes, trips etc.
So what do you guys think?

Society's norm? Did you ever wonder who makes the societies norms? Thats right - men.

No i dont think she should take husbands name if she doesnt want to.

Why doesnt a man take woman's last name? Then it would be equaly easy for womem to trace their roots.

If the woman does NOT take the husbands last name, then their child (if they ever have one) will not be sure whether they should call themselves by the mother or father's surname. This would be bad for the child as they would be more unsure about their self identity and just who they are.

Originally posted by David Duchovony
I mean I can trace my family history better than any woman ever could.

Better than any woman ever... so you are omnipresent and able to see across time as well as being a sexist dick. Amazement all round.

I think women SHOULD take their husband's name though if they don't it really complicates things like taxes, trips etc.

Please oh godlike time traveler - explain to me how "trips" are complicated by this? Unless you mean drug induced trips - which might at least explain the content of your post.

Oh, that made me laugh.

Originally posted by eleveninches
If the woman does NOT take the husbands last name, then their child (if they ever have one) will not be sure whether they should call themselves by the mother or father's surname. This would be bad for the child as they would be more unsure about their self identity and just who they are.

Thats rediculous. Is your self identity determaned by your surname?

Originally posted by Jackie Malfoy
Yes that is true but what I am asking is why not changed your name?What is the harm of that?That is basily my question to all of you girls who are Ms out there.
Keep the Ms if you want but have your husband's name.Also I am not a blond I have black dark hair!JM 💃

And what we're saying is why change your name? What's the harm of keeping your maiden name? Guess what, Jackie, there is NOTHING saying that a woman HAS to change their name to their husband's. It's totally our choice to do so or not, it's not something we have to do. I think you need to wake up and realize that this isn't the dark ages anymore, JM.

Changing your name is a very personal decision. Some women are very comfortable doing so while others are not.
There are several alternatives available.

[list][*]Option 1: Taking your husband's name
[*]Option 2: Keeping your own name
[*]Option 3: Hyphenating
Mary Smith who has married John Jones would become Mary Smith-Jones.
[*]Option 4: Adding your husband's name to your own
Keep your birth name and add your husband's last name.
[*]Option 5: Use each other's names as middle names
[/list]

Originally posted by Jackie Malfoy
Yes that is true but what I am asking is why not changed your name?What is the harm of that?

I took my (ex) husband's last name. I don't think I gave up anything.

At that time, of course, I didn't realize I was making an incredibly stupid mistake.

Originally posted by Mr Zero
Better than any woman ever... so you are omnipresent and able to see across time as well as being a sexist dick. Amazement all round.

Please oh godlike time traveler - explain to me how "trips" are complicated by this? Unless you mean drug induced trips - which might at least explain the content of your post.

Oooh your words cut like a knife boo hoo. Dickwad 🙄

Originally posted by David Duchovony
Oooh your words cut like a knife boo hoo. Dickwad 🙄

Im not worried if I hurt you - I just want an answer to the questions - clocks ticking caveman....