Originally posted by Samurai Guy
Let me question Link for a second.Look into the eyes of that sweet girl and tell me you would hit her.
age her 6 years...give her a horrendous tantrum that no logic will help solve...and give me a tedious 10 hour work day under my belt.
I'll show you a spanking for that little girl.
Originally posted by Jedi Priestess
Wind thats not always possible. Surely you have to know that.
Yes, I'm quite aware that certain circumstances are different. I'm speaking more on the average family. I also understand that single parenting isn't easy at times. But on the average I just don't see the reason on spanking a child.
wow..i ask for opinions and i ceainly got them...from both sides . i respect all of you....well most of you 😛
anyways now that im back ill put my 2 cents in...
as a child i was spanked....spankings made me feel humiliated and i hated my parents for it . i recented them for the power that they felt over me and my sisters....but my parents arent a good example really cuz they used belt buckles and wire coat hangers...
i do know children who have recived swats on the rear and are fine...ex ; my cousin and her brother were spanked on the rear as children but they totally respected their dad...personally i thought he was a monster and i was scared of him too. to this day though they support his actions and wouldnt have changed it if they could .
personal opinion i suppose .
i have 4 daughters and i guess im fortunet to have children who are easy going and listen...😬 whatever the reason i havent had to resort to spankings....ive used other methods of punishment that have worked for me .
my oldest is 12 years old and ive not had to use spankings as a form of punishement . as baby (0-2 years old) distracting her from the problem was good enough...i understand the....they have to learn arguement . to me though its easier to remove them from the situation at this age and move on...they do have short attention spands and it does work .
aroound the ages 2-5 is when the real testing begins (note i said begins)..there were times when i really felt the need to off on her and tear her ass up but that scared me and i had to think of other things to do that would be just as effective .
i was watching Dr. T Berry Brazleton on tv one day and he really made since to me...i learned alot from him . i couldnt rely on my own parents ...they were terrible examples to follow .
one day when at the grocerie store amanda was about 3 1/2 years old and was throwing a full out on the floor tantrum...i remembered things id learned from Dr Brazleton and i did the first thing that came to mind .
i dropped to the floor and began kicking my feet in the same manner...throwing my own tantrum...
i remembered feeling a lil embaressed at first cuz i was being watched..but i realized amanda was now sitting there watching me...she had this look on her face that was like "you crazy ass woman"...
so there we were in the floor in the middle of the store and we came to an understanding....mommy doesnt give in and i can throw fits too...
never did i have to spank her but i got her attention and thats all that was needed .
my girls know when they are in trouble mommy and daddy mean what we say....and we follow through .
alot of parents have a communication problem . if mommy and daddy cant stand together and support each other and back each other up then thats open season for ANY child to play the field .
grounding does work , time outs work...and when the NEED arises...a good dose of throwing a tantrum in the middle of a grocerie store on the floor with your child works too 😉
Wow you guys can read my mind!Freaky!
I mean I was just about to make a topic of this and I saw this.and I asm like that is so weild!
(Looks in the sky)there is no full moon out there is there?"
Anyway I argee with spanking to a point.I was spanked as a child and I grow up ok.I also know to respect both my mom and dad.(Well not my stepfather)
As long as it is not a belt then I am ok wit it.If I ever got married to my boyfriend I would spank my kids when they are in trouble.You are not hurting them you are teaching them.
Be send to your room and such I don't think works.Plus there is toys in that room acouse the kid will say ok I get to play with my toys becauses I was bad!Not a good idea to raise your kid!JM 💃
One year later this is what the experts have to say:
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20051121/hl_nm/spanking_aggression_dc
Discipline the children. Not beat them. Remenber children are just children.
Originally posted by WindDancer
One year later this is what the experts have to say:http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20051121/hl_nm/spanking_aggression_dc
Discipline the children. Not beat them. Remenber children are just children.
Canadians like to spank 😕
i GOT REAL LAFF OUTTA SOME OF THESE POSTINGS! The laff part comes from a bunch of people who obviously have no children, or really poorly behaved ones! If you have EVER been in a public setting and your kid that is not a very small infant was acting up and you got more than 2 nasty looks, you don't know how to control/are doing a poor job of teaching your children!
Spankings CAN work, but it depends on how it used. re-read that sentence whenever you start thinking I am wrong. I am an adult, and have raised one kid who is out & gone, and am raising another. Both are/were honor students. the 2nd is 8, and is a true joy to behold. have I spanked him? YES! BUT, it is at the END of a LOOOOONG process! The process is some fussing, alot of explaining, ALOT of listening on MY part, alot of aking sure he is listening on his, + loss of privileges, time outs, and all that rot. IF, at the END of that loooong process, the problem is not handled, and I mean not covered up or pushed aside, but handled, THEN the spank-option gets put on the table! So, the grown adult is past his spanking days, so we are talking only of the 8yr old. How many times have I had to spank him? IN the last year, maybe once. In his whole life? 5 times total. He knows his limits, and just like any kid, he is going to push them. hey, it's all part of Love and the relationship. He has to know that there IS a limit, a line that cannot be crosed, and that there is a consequence to that end for his actions, as long as HE chooses to push it that far, and YES, I DO make sure he knows that he is in total control of the outcome!
Go thru all that, and if you get to that spanking part, then it is OK to use, buecause you won't be there much, or often!
BTW, if some O' Y'all had gotten the treatment aboe, I wouldn't see so many so-called "expersts" that have never had kids weigh in on the subject!
Originally posted by Ron Jeremy
Canadians like to spank 😕
That old crone does look like the kind that believes in "belt first, ask questions later" type. 😖
Yeah spankings work very well if there is a lesson to learn........by this my parents when I was growing up and punishment time came I was always given a choice........so horribly mundane project or early bedtime for a week or spanking...........I sucked it up and took the belt🙂 Sniffled and was on my way and there were VERY VERY few times that I actually repeated my mistakes at least consciously.
Now would I use this on my kids.......hmmm maybe depending on where they are at in development and understanding......mostly as a last resort.
Re: to spank or not to spank....that is the question
Originally posted by Ms Flower
i hear much on this topic from alot of people....young and old . it varies from person to person . id like to know your opnion....does spankings cause little montsers to behave and to respect their parents or do spankings cause little children to grow up to be monsters ?
for those who are comfortable with this question...
were you spanked as a child or not ? how did it effect your relationship with your parents ?
I think that excesive beating is a clear line, but smaking the kid on the ass as many times as it takes to get your point across is nothing outside of the realm of good parenting. Personally, I'm usually the first person to say that this kid or that needs a good ass whipping, when they start screaming. I keep seeing these kids making scenes in the mall, throwing themselves on the ground and pounding their feet, screaming at the top of their lungs....beat the shit out of the kid a few times and send him to bed with no dinner and he'll change his attitude. I did when I was a child.
But, I think that striking a child anywhere besides the rear end is questionable. If a child is rude, sure I guess a slap across the face is lesson enough, but to do it more than once is abuse.