teens & birth control

i read a post by Mr Zero that got me thinking about teens and birth control...

this is for all ages...those that are old enough to have children already and teens who need to be thinking about this .

obviously these teens will be having sex...not much can be done to stop them . they will do it when they want and sadly alot of times its with a damn the consequences kind of attitude .

how do you feel about birth control ?
do you think condoms are good enough ?
should both parties be held responsible for birth control (condoms & the pill) ?
are the parents to blame ?

i dont think its the parents fault all the time but i do think lots of times it is . you have to have open communication and have well educated your kids to the responsible side of having sex . sticking you head in the sand and hoping your child is smart enough to protect themselves is irisponsible . until they are an adult its your job as a parent to make sure they are informed and have access to the birth control when needed . boys should have condoms available to him and girls should have the birth control pill , shot or IUD (depending on whats best for her) . she should also have condoms available just in case the boy doesnt have his .

i dont want my daughters having sex until they are at least 17-18 years old.....but im not stupid...i remember what its like being a teen and not wanting to wait...my parents couldnt have stopped me and i know if they want it bad enough they will find a way to do it . thats why its my job to educate them and provide the birth control .

your thoughts ?

hmmm, remind me ... a study which was released claimed that the average age for having your first sexual intercourse was at 17.something... we had 17.2 years old.

birth control > needed, cause the planet is already overpopulated, and we have sex for pleasure most of the time and not to get more religious souls to the flock

condoms > no, it says it's not 100% save, so it's not good enough though it's no fun using them

both parties > it's up to themselves to deceide this, it depends on what they like and such

parents > to blame what? 😑

your right yers...condoms arent 100% safe thats why i think the girl shoul be on the pill or something like that . 2 is better then one and besides...condoms can help prevent std's .

parents to blame...i meant are they to blame when their kids are out having unprotected sex . does it fall back on them ?

how do you feel about birth control ?

do you think condoms are good enough ?

should both parties be held responsible for birth control (condoms & the pill) ?

are the parents to blame ?

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So why use it if it might not work?It is almost like having an abortion.Acoue there are good stuff about it like having cramps not that bad but it should be use for that not trying to stop people having babies,
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oh for the love of.......... Jackie...GO TO SCHOOL!...nevermind... Im just going to put you on ignore and then my blood pressure wont go up reading your posts.

I think it's very needed. I took my oldest daughter to the doctor before she entered high school and put her on the pill. And yes I think it's the responsibility of both parties.

"how do you feel about birth control?"

I think 99.9% (which is what I HEARD was the chance of not getting pregnant on BC) is good enough but that 1% is always gonna be haunting to some people. I think if it allows more people to explore their sexual world without fear of getting pregnant but also doing it without a condom (which alot of people have the right to as it IS more intimate) then I'm all for it.

"Do you think condoms are good enough?"

I've known people never ever to have problems with condoms. I've known people to fall pregnant on their first time just coz the condom failed. I think they're good in that they work, I just think there has to be a more secure way to make them and that something such as tearing, can be a dangerous fault in such an item.

"Should both parties be held responsible for birth control (condoms & the pill)?"

It's down to the person. I don't think it's about being "held" responsible. People are taking this the wrong way with abortion, birth control, contraception, everything. If things **** up, it's THEIR fault. Don't interject yourself and get involved like you have something to do with their lives. They are making the choice so they are responsible for it. They should TAKE responsibility, not be held to it. It's like freedom through the barrel of a gun, it's an immediate contradiction. I believe it's fine to use one or the other. Both is safer obviously though.

"are the parents to blame?"

Haha. Why would they be? My parents raised me very very well. They gave me a template of right and wrong rather than telling me what was right or wrong so now I have my own ideals and beliefs. Some based on theirs, some completely agreeing. However, you can scare your kid into using a condom, or you can quite frankly come of as trying to intimidate them and end up with them run off not using one. If you have been fairly warned about the dangers of unprotective sex by your parents and doctor, yet still do it, you're dancing with death and whatever you get or whatever happens to you is on your own head in my opinion. Child worship needs to stop and people need to start blaming youngsters for the shit decisions they make. Anyone over 13 should have a basic grasp of what's bad news and what isn't. If a 14 year old got ****ed and became pregnant through wrecklessness, I'd say you're dumb. No, the parents aren't to blame unless they promote unprotected sex outright and even then, any youngster in their right mind would think "Hang on a minute.....". I think more youngsters should go speak to their doctors instead of their parents, in confidence. Someone who can give you facts without being biased that you are their son/daughter.

That's what I did. I spoke to my doc and said "Look, regardless of this talk I'm making my own decision so don't try to sway me. I've come to do the sensible thing and know the possible/definate dangers and possible/definate pluses of sexual activity in various ways."

Result? I'm still alive and free of disease yet still having fun without my sex life being as rigid as an ironing board.

-AC

Originally posted by Jackie Malfoy
I was just about to ask the same question!Anyway I don't think we should have birth control pills.For startes it does not always<a work </a>and if you use it that means you are gong to sleep with someone.[/COLOR]
So why use it if it might not work?It is almost like having an abortion.Acoue there are good stuff about it like having cramps not that bad but it should be use for that not trying to stop people having babies,
[COLOR=green]I mean is it that why we have cramps every month?To prepare us for giving birth?!JM[/ 😕

(I deleted the stange stuff in your post to show you how I understand it.)

no, the pill's not 100% safe. still, it's damn close to be.
no, you're not gonna start sleeping around just because you take the pill and then feel free to do so. you're gonna sleep around because your hormones tell you it's gonna be great fun. the pill's what protects you from getting pregnant when this happens, and rest assured that it'll happen and not everybody feels like suppressing it so they'll go ahead even if the pill didn't exist. how very good it does.
taking the pill is NOT like having an abortion. please think about why it isn't, and I won't even have to explain it to you.
no, we don't have cramps every month to prepare us for giving birth. in that case the pains would be a good million times stronger and a thing or two would be torn apart.

😂 it seems like someone do want their underwear with a chastity belt

Teens are going to have sex with no regard for the consequences. There is no stopping it. All you can do as a parent is press the use of prophylactics and pray.

Takes more than a raincoat IMHO.

I will not post on this thread 😮

And no, I'm not meaning this to be mean

so what do you call what you just did

Hello, as someone of that age - I'll give you my opinion. If my mother was that cool with it and sat me down and had a chat about birthcontrol, i'd feel alot better having sex, and I'd really apreciate what she'd done for me. And you could have the peace of mind that you've given them your advice - and that they will use protection.
Sorry if that didn't make sense. I'm too tired.

No, it's something hard to explain...but I do think that some teens get on birth control just to say that they're on it...

Originally posted by IndieKid
Hello, as someone of that age - I'll give you my opinion. If my mother was that cool with it and sat me down and had a chat about birthcontrol, i'd feel alot better having sex, and I'd really apreciate what she'd done for me. And you could have the peace of mind that you've given them your advice - and that they will use protection.
Sorry if that didn't make sense. I'm too tired.

Indeed. Smart kid.

Line, I respect and like you more and more with every post...

Being on the pill doesn't mean you're going to sleep with someone. There ARE other reasons why it can be prescribed to someone; birth control is just one of them.

Birth control? Of course it's needed. You wouldn't believe how many pregnant freshman and sophomores we had at my high school last year; there were more pregnant underclassmen than upperclassmen. That's sad. It should be up to the parents to educate their kids; it seems that most kids are learning about sex and birth control through either health class in high school or their friends.

This, of course, is the opinion of someone who's 18 and has never had sex.

There are two things I have always promoted: Contraceptives and Sexual Orientation. The two go hand in hand with each other. Now, since we are talking about teens is a little more stricter and very delicate. Parents must be very watchful of the activities of their kids. But the most important thing is that parents should talk about sex to their kids. Sexual Orientation not only comes from schools or churches it also comes from family. An elder brother, Grandma, an Uncle and of course the parents. They are important in a child's learning. Especially on topics like drugs, sex, school etc..etc.

Originally posted by Silver Stardust
This, of course, is the opinion of someone who's 18 and has never had sex.