teens & birth control

Originally posted by Jackie Malfoy
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So why use it if it might not work?It is almost like having an abortion.Acoue there are good stuff about it like having cramps not that bad but it should be use for that not trying to stop people having babies,
[COLOR=green]I mean is it that why we have cramps every month?To prepare us for giving birth?!JM[/ 😕

What the bloody hell. 🤨

For Clovie and Silver Stardust, the first time is always overrated. It's not until you're used to it that it becomes enjoyable in my opinion.

Anyway, people just need to stop blaming the parents. I think everyone 13 and over are very very very responsible for their own actions. Not saying parents can't help, but if anyone should be blamed for shit going wrong it's the people doing it.

You don't blame a bank for having their doors open when they get robbed do you? No.

-AC

Err NOT. At 13 you are STILL your parents responsibility.

Thank you for informing me of that fact of which I was unaware..........

You are right. But are your parents gonna hang out with you everywhere you go? No. Therefore you need to be responsible and at the age of 13 you should be able to be. Parents are responsible for taking care of their kids yes. Yet your arguement pretty much says that anyone under the age of being legal, is their parents responsibility. A 17 year old that steals a car is the only one at fault. Not the parents.

-AC

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Anyway, people just need to stop blaming the parents. I think everyone 13 and over are very very very responsible for their own actions.

Maybe a trip to my neck of the woods would open your eyes to the other side of that argument.

Sorry post got missed up somehow.Anyway what I was trying to say is that parents should not go around giving birth controls to there kids.At any age when the kids become eighteen.
They can take care of them self.And if they want to do something stupid like use birth controls will it is there bodys.But I think it is wrong that parents should give these pills to there kids.
It is like saying to them "Here are some pills take it when ever you go around sleeping with everyone!"(Acting to me like a ****!)(Excuse my lanuage!)
It is just not right.JM

So birth control is stupid? Taking responsibility while having sex is stupid? No, giving birth control to a kid is NOT telling them to go have sex. It's telling them that if they do choose to have sex, to be sure that they protect themselves.

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri

You are right. But are your parents gonna hang out with you everywhere you go? No. Therefore you need to be responsible and at the age of 13 you should be able to be. Parents are responsible for taking care of their kids yes. Yet your arguement pretty much says that anyone under the age of being legal, is their parents responsibility. A 17 year old that steals a car is the only one at fault. Not the parents.

-AC

and yes....parents should be held responsible for their childrens actions till they are of legal age...maybe it would make more parents do their job right and instill values into their kids .

what it boils down to is being open to disscution and communicating on a regular basis with your kids .

JM you think teens gonna stray away from sex just cause their parents wont teach them about birth control and stuff, its better to come prepared

Fini even if the parents do tell them about it.It does not matter teens will do what ever they want.I just think it is wrong that the parents are the ones pushing this onto there kids.
As a parent they should be a shame of doing such a thing.It is not right.That is basily what I am trying to say.Prepare or not.I know I would not want my kids sleeping around with procation or not.
Also it is like I said having the parents say ok you are ready now go around and sleep around.It does not sound like a very caring or kind thing for parents to do at all.JM

Originally posted by Silver Stardust
So birth control is stupid? Taking responsibility while having sex is stupid? No, giving birth control to a kid is NOT telling them to go have sex. It's telling them that if they do choose to have sex, to be sure that they protect themselves.

Well put.

Teenagers are going to have sex, plain and simple. It will happen. If a person makes it out of their teen years as a virgin, it is nothing short of a miracle.

And Jackie...

No sane parent will push their teen to have sex. Parents are not encouraging it, they are accepting that their teen is going to have sex and giving them the chance and accessability to protection.

Jackie -- wake up to reality!!! Yes, teens will do what they want! But pretending that they won't if they don't know about it isn't going to happen. Not teaching them about protection is going to cause them to go out and have unprotected sex. However, teaching them about and giving them birth control will make them realize that you care for their wellbeing and want them to be safe if they do have sex. So now, according to you, looking out for your kids' wellbeing isn't kind or caring?

Fini even if the parents do tell them about it.It does not matter teens will do what ever they want

"and its the parents job to know where there kids are at that age and who they are with . its also their job to talk to them and make them aware of the consequences of unprotected sex...if they dont then they are highly to blame ."

So ask them where they are going and who with, right? What are you getting at? If the kid doesn't tell the parents, how is it the parents fault?

"its also their job to talk to them and make them aware of the consequences of unprotected sex...if they dont then they are highly to blame."

So the kid going out and doing it completely on his/her own without thinking or ASKING, is not highly to blame? Wrong.

"and yes....parents should be held responsible for their childrens actions till they are of legal age...maybe it would make more parents do their job right and instill values into their kids ."

If my parents were gonna get sent to jail for a car I stole at the age of 17 I'd say "No way. I stole the car. Not them." You're argument is flawed and extremely old-fashioned. "Let's blame the parents" jeez. I'm not saying parents have NO place in it, just that people need to over look the fact that they are young and start realising they have to shoulder alot of the responsibility for their own actions too.

-AC

Originally posted by Jackie Malfoy
even if the parents do tell them about it.It does not matter teens will do what ever they want.I just think it is wrong that the parents are the ones pushing this onto there kids.

and you may not want your child having sex before 18 but its a good chance that it WILL happen...do you wanna chance your daughter or son having a baby when they are 14 years old ?

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
"and its the parents job to know where there kids are at that age and who they are with . its also their job to talk to them and make them aware of the consequences of unprotected sex...if they dont then they are highly to blame ."

So ask them where they are going and who with, right? What are you getting at? If the kid doesn't tell the parents, how is it the parents fault?

"its also their job to talk to them and make them aware of the consequences of unprotected sex...if they dont then they are highly to blame."

So the kid going out and doing it completely on his/her own without thinking or ASKING, is not highly to blame? Wrong.

"and yes....parents should be held responsible for their childrens actions till they are of legal age...maybe it would make more parents do their job right and instill values into their kids ."

If my parents were gonna get sent to jail for a car I stole at the age of 17 I'd say "No way. I stole the car. Not them." You're argument is flawed and extremely old-fashioned. "Let's blame the parents" jeez. I'm not saying parents have NO place in it, just that people need to over look the fact that they are young and start realising they have to shoulder alot of the responsibility for their own actions too.

-AC

AC , these are the standards i have for myself as a parent and i know damn well kids arent gonna tell there parents evrything , but as a parent i take full responsiblity to my childrens actions .

"So the kid going out and doing it completely on his/her own without thinking or ASKING, is not highly to blame? Wrong." it is the childs fault as well as the parents but they are their parents responsibility till the are adults and i think its up to them to make their child aware of the consequences .

im responsible for raising my daughters to be good citizens and if they are out still cars while they are still kids then i should be held responsible too...right along with them .

Yes I know what you are saying.But it in a way still encouaging the teens to have it even more.Even if they are taught.You are still showing them that they have condoms and are safe.
Giving teens an idea that there own parents don't care what they do.It stil does not show love and caring to me.But if you guys think so.I don't see how you do.
JM

"im responsible for raising my daughters to be good citizens and if they are out still cars while they are still kids then i should be held responsible too...right along with them ."

But.....if you raised them well, it doesn't mean they wont go out and do wrong. I hope they don't but if they do, then you have nothing to be blamed for if you were an upstanding and just parent. Stand by them by all means, but don't take the blame is my view.

-AC

Originally posted by shellie
your right yers...condoms arent 100% safe thats why i think the girl shoul be on the pill or something like that . 2 is better then one and besides...condoms can help prevent std's .

parents to blame...i meant are they to blame when their kids are out having unprotected sex . does it fall back on them ?

so, about those parents, now that I understand it:

it depends what you understand under kids and such...
there are parents that buy condoms and pills for their kids (age ranging between 16 and to whenever they are out of the house) with the idea "hey, at least they are doing it safely now!"
others don't do it and say it's the responsibility of the kids themselves... the problem with this is that you have generally speaking two kinds of kids:

1) the responsible ones, those will try and always have save sex, be prepared for it and take the responsibility of themselves and their significant other very serious

2) the immature idiots that think the younger you get nailed the cooler you are and the more you can "brag" with your friends...

In other words... no, it's in general terms not the parents to blame since some buy it for their kids and others say it's their own responsibility... though if you do have such an immature idiot (and I could use other words here to describe their behavior), I would as a parent, try my best to educate them and talk them out of it until they AT LEAST reach the age of 16

Originally posted by Jackie Malfoy
Sorry post got missed up somehow.Anyway what I was trying to say is that parents should not go around giving birth controls to there kids.At any age when the kids become eighteen.
They can take care of them self.And if they want to do something stupid like use birth controls will it is there bodys.But I think it is wrong that parents should give these pills to there kids.
It is like saying to them "Here are some pills take it when ever you go around sleeping with everyone!"(Acting to me like a ****!)(Excuse my lanuage!)
It is just not right.JM

Y'know what Jackie, I think you're right. If I had a daughter, I would DEFINITELY prefer that she have sex with some kid without telling me about it, and end up pregnant, than have her come to me asking for advice and end up going to the doctor to get some pills. I completely agree with you, because teen pregnancy is always better than birth control.

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