Well he's insistant (I can't think of the actual word to use) that we are going to work out and I believe him but it's pretty stressful for me to have to wait such a long time to see him. I'll be going down to Alabama which borders Florida, where he lives, and if he didn't live in the southern part of Florida I'd ask him to come visit me while I'm on vacation but alas, I can't.....so close yet so far and that pisses me off!
Originally posted by Yuna_And_Tidus
Wow, I remember back in those days when he and I were together. 🙂🙂🙂Well, I can't believe I'm saying this but I'm kind of in a L-D relationship, myself right now. His name is Dale [I know his full name but will not specify] and we have millions of things in common, including the fact that we're romantic. 😍 We've planned a lot of stuff together and he will be coming down here before the year is over, though it pretty much just began so that leaves a while for him to get down here. 🙁 I have never seen him before in person but I have talked to him over the phone and he has the sweetest voice ever. To be quite honest he's the only thing holding me together [and not goin' crazy lol] right now because all of the guys down here seem to be pricks and seem to get a kick out of hurting girls and Dale admits that he wants to go on a killing spree [not really] on these guys that have hurt me. We're still in the process of planning his visit and it is very very frustrating. Someday I plan on moving down there, though I'm not very high on the thought of leaving home, and spending my life with him. We've planned a lot of that already 🙂. He has a fantastic job and seems to have the same kind of friends and interests/hobbies/aspirations as I do, so we are pretty good to go! I can't wait for him to meet all of my friends and hopefully my family won't be annoying over it either.
wow..you just don't give it a rest do you?
i'll tell you what will hold you together for real, sitting still every once in a while.
Originally posted by Lana
What, and a 'regular' relationship doesn't?
I'm afraid that makes no sense to me. Why would any relationship need "work"? 😕
The ones I've experienced throughout my 19 years on this earth have all occured naturally where the parties involved have "flowed" together. In each and every case, the others and myself have just been . We either can't help but end up in a relationship of a sort or we don't have any.
Relationships cannot be forced or made to be. The only scenario where I'd imagine such a thing would exist is where the existing relationship that the people involved share is not of the nature they prefer or desire. Boy meets girl. They want sex. Don't feel comfortable with the stark and crude nature of that relationship, so obliviously, force themselves to engage in a "relationship" where the obligatory "i love yous" are exchanged. Shuch an...arrangement would need work of course. 😐 😬
Originally posted by Punkyhermy
I'm afraid that makes no sense to me. Why would any relationship need "work"? 😕The ones I've experienced throughout my 19 years on this earth have all occured naturally where the parties involved have "flowed" together. In each and every case, the others and myself have just been . We either can't help but end up in a relationship of a sort or we don't have any.
Relationships cannot be forced or made to be. The only scenario where I'd imagine such a thing would exist is where the existing relationship that the people involved share is not of the nature they prefer or desire. Boy meets girl. They want sex. Don't feel comfortable with the stark and crude nature of that relationship, so obliviously, force themselves to engage in a "relationship" where the obligatory "i love yous" are exchanged. Shuch an...arrangement would need work of course. 😐 😬
Why would they need work?
Because people are flawed creatures and no one is the same, and by nature will not always agree. If you want a relationship to last, then yes, there will be effort and work involved. You need to learn to compromise. You need to learn to trust the other person, to be honest with them. You need to learn that it's not going to be some happy fairy-tale romance and there will be problems and you need to learn to work through the problems, so that they don't wreck your relationship. And so on.
There is far more to a relationship to simply love. And no offense, but you seem to have a very rose-coloured glasses view on love and relationships. Unfortunately, most relationships are not "fall in love and everything is happily ever after". Just because ones you've witnessed appeared to flow with no work or effort from either party does not mean that said effort was not there.
Originally posted by Yuna_And_Tidus
Wow, I remember back in those days when he and I were together. 🙂🙂🙂Well, I can't believe I'm saying this but I'm kind of in a L-D relationship, myself right now. His name is Dale [I know his full name but will not specify] and we have millions of things in common, including the fact that we're romantic. 😍 We've planned a lot of stuff together and he will be coming down here before the year is over, though it pretty much just began so that leaves a while for him to get down here. 🙁 I have never seen him before in person but I have talked to him over the phone and he has the sweetest voice ever. To be quite honest he's the only thing holding me together [and not goin' crazy lol] right now because all of the guys down here seem to be pricks and seem to get a kick out of hurting girls and Dale admits that he wants to go on a killing spree [not really] on these guys that have hurt me. We're still in the process of planning his visit and it is very very frustrating. Someday I plan on moving down there, though I'm not very high on the thought of leaving home, and spending my life with him. We've planned a lot of that already 🙂. He has a fantastic job and seems to have the same kind of friends and interests/hobbies/aspirations as I do, so we are pretty good to go! I can't wait for him to meet all of my friends and hopefully my family won't be annoying over it either.
If that works out for you, then more power to you, but I have to ask one thing.
You have only talked to this guy, never actually met him and want to spend the rest of your life with him? Not saying that you couldn't do that if you wanted to, but I'd put more thought into it and wait till you meet him if I were you.
The bottom line is, nobody ever knows what another person is thinking. You will almost never know if your loved one is lying to you, or has lied to you, you just have to trust that they aren't and hope they're being honest.
Long distance relationships are harder because...well, if you have to ask why, you're silly. That said, I think they can work just as much as any relationship if the internet or whatever is only used as a catalyst.
I hate it when people meet someone they find alluring online and assume a relationship would work. They don't actually think what it would take to make moves to be together and make it work in the real world, or waiting to see if it even works after meeting, or even before. It gives internet born relationships a bad name, but that's all the should be, internet born.
If you can't realistically see it happening in real life, like...really happening, then don't bother. Thinking "This can happen, and here is why.", with legitimate plans, is fine. Thinking "This can happen..." followed by "Because we want it!" is null and void.
-AC
Re: Long distance relationships?
Originally posted by GiseleI don't believe in long distance relationships. They are stupid, pointless, and pathetic. PERIOD END OF STORY.
you see I m moving 45 mins away from where I live now..which here is where my boyfriend lives! I m only 14 and hes 15 but we want to stay 2gether! I told ma mom I was gonna run away and live here on ma own..but I didn't! But he wants to have a long distance relatophship like I do 2...my mom says I can speak to him on the phone and instant message him and maybe see him on da weekends! Ever had a long distance relationship?
Re: Long distance relationships?
Originally posted by Gisele
you see I m moving 45 mins away from where I live now..which here is where my boyfriend lives! I m only 14 and hes 15 but we want to stay 2gether! I told ma mom I was gonna run away and live here on ma own..but I didn't! But he wants to have a long distance relatophship like I do 2...my mom says I can speak to him on the phone and instant message him and maybe see him on da weekends! Ever had a long distance relationship?
Twice...my dad lives across the ocean (it's like a 2 hours ferry ride so its not too bad) but I met this guy who was my neighbor there and after a year of being friends went out for like a month before he dumped me....and it worked while we were together for the most part and he dumped because of other reason not the long distance and after that ended I went out with that guys best friend...and that last like 3 months before we broke it off cuz he figured out he was gay....
so they work if you make it work but you have to really try!
Re: Re: Long distance relationships?
Originally posted by JacopeX
I don't believe in long distance relationships. They are stupid, pointless, and pathetic. PERIOD END OF STORY.
So you're saying if the person you love is shipped off to war your relationship is "stupid, pointless, and pathetic"?
****ing idiot.
Not all long distance relationships start off as such.
Re: Re: Long distance relationships?
Originally posted by JacopeX
I don't believe in long distance relationships. They are stupid, pointless, and pathetic. PERIOD END OF STORY.
My god... you have to be the most retarded person on KMC.
If people ARE in love they can make it work. It doesn't matter how far away they are. What matters is that they both feel the same burning passion for one another. Sure it WOULD be better if they lived close to each other, but some just can't for whatever reason. If they are the one meant for you, how is it stupid, pointless, and pathetic to try and make it work? 😬
*Lives in WA and is in Love with a girl in NY*
Originally posted by silver_tears
So you're saying if the person you love is shipped off to war your relationship is "stupid, pointless, and pathetic"?
****ing idiot.Not all long distance relationships start off as such.
Originally posted by Leo.M
My god... you have to be the most retarded person on KMC.If people ARE in love they can make it work. It doesn't matter how far away they are. What matters is that they both feel the same burning passion for one another. Sure it WOULD be better if they lived close to each other, but some just can't for whatever reason. If they are the one meant for you, how is it stupid, pointless, and pathetic to try and make it work? 😬
*Lives in WA and is in Love with a girl in NY*
*lives in BC and loves someone in NJ*
(we're pretty much on the same page lol)