Long distance relationships?

Originally posted by Lana
How is the phone better than the internet?

Internet is worse. You not only know the persons true self, but you hardly know how he looks like. Sure, now days technology allowed us to post pics using something called a DIGITAL camera. But what if those pics of your lover were fake somehow and he actually a deranged pedo. Yes, all that is possible.

Internet Dating is a joke to me really. Yes, there are some people, SOME PEOPLE, who actually have a successful relationship from on-line. But most have failed due to many reasons.

1.) He/She lies to you and comes up with the hurtful truth

2.) You get abducted. (Typical)

3.) The so called "meet" never happens as he/she is off dating other people probably and actually was dating on-line for fun or he is just lonely.

4.) "He's ugly! Shut up!"

Yes, I have been there before when I was a younger foolish child. But I have learned from my mistakes and try to learn even more to see clearly the values of life and it is very clear to me that it is enough for me to see the world we live in, Ect. Anyways, internet dating is nothing but BULLSHIT.

Originally posted by DarkC
Don't shit on it just because you've never experienced it. Love is love.

Originally posted by Lana
And I never said it was successful yet, but certainly on a path to be so someday, and that I'm taking the steps needed to help it happen.

Though on the other hand, it might not ever happen. Who knows? I don't. I know what I'd like to happen and I'll do all I can to make it happen, but I can't control the future.

So you replied to my point for what reason?

"None of you have successful relationships yet.", "I'd say I'm on the path to making it successful.", "Yes, but it's not yet.", "I never said it was.".

Sh-shall you stop talking in this irrelevant-al way?

-AC

Originally posted by JacopeX
Well how did you get the phone number in the first place. By the person. I really don't believe in someone calling a random person by dialing random numbers and make up a love relationship. (Except if it were some stupid Dating Chat Hot line Ma Jiggy)

Internet is worse. You not only know the persons true self, but you hardly know how he looks like. Sure, now days technology allowed us to post pics using something called a DIGITAL camera. But what if those pics of your lover were fake somehow and he actually a deranged pedo. Yes, all that is possible.

Internet Dating is a joke to me really. Yes, there are some people, SOME PEOPLE, who actually have a successful relationship from on-line. But most have failed due to many reasons.

1.) He/She lies to you and comes up with the hurtful truth

2.) You get abducted. (Typical)

3.) The so called "meet" never happens as he/she is off dating other people probably and actually was dating on-line for fun or he is just lonely.

4.) "He's ugly! Shut up!"

Yes, I have been there before when I was a younger foolish child. But I have learned from my mistakes and try to learn even more to see clearly the values of life and it is very clear to me that it is enough for me to see the world we live in, Ect. Anyways, internet dating is nothing but BULLSHIT.

Originally posted by JacopeX
Actually I had a girlfriend in RL. Quit thinking you know me. Just liek you do all the "freaken" time. 🙄

Originally posted by JacopeX
Yes, I have been there before when I was a younger foolish child.

Dude, you're still a young foolish child. A 15 year old is not allowed to say otherwise. blankpuzzle

Regardless of what you may say, you know nothing of the real world yet.

Originally posted by JacopeX
Well how did you get the phone number in the first place. By the person. I really dont belive in someone calling a random person by dialing random numbers and make up a love relationship. (Except if it were some stupid Dating Chat Hotline Ma Jiggy)

Internet is wrose. You not only know the persons true self, but you hardly know how he looks like. Sure, now days technology allowed us to post pics using somthing called a DIGITAL camera. But what if those pics of your lover were fake somehow and he actually a derranged pedo. Yes, all that is possible.

Internet Dating is a joke to me really. Yes, there are some people, SOME PEOPLE, who actually have a successful realtionship from online. But most have failed due to many reasons.

1.) He/She lies to you and comes up with the hurtful truth

2.) You get abducted. (Typical)

3.) The so called "meet" never happens as he/she is off dating other people probably and actually was dating online for fun or he is just lonely.

4.) "He's ugly! Shut up!"

Yes, I have been there before when I was a younger foolish child. But I have learned from my mistakes and try to learn even more to see clearly the values of life and it is very clear to me that it is enough for me to see the world we live in, Ect. Anyways, internet dating is nothing but BULLSHIT.

Okay, for starters, the stories of people pretending to not be themselves online are grossly exaggerated. I'd say maybe one of a few thousand people online are not who they say they are. And if they are lying about themselves, it's very, very easy to tell if they are or not. It's hard keeping up a false story all the time. Eventually they'll slip and **** something up.

1) Okay, so...no one can lie in real life or over the phone? Yeah, that happens too.

2) Almost never happens in reality. The only reason you hear about it a lot is because of the sensational media, but as with people pretending to not be who they really are...it's in reality very rare.

3) Yeah, that happens, and that is why I will never say that I am dating someone that I am involved with largely over the internet, because really, you're NOT dating.

4) Also happens in real life/offline.

And you really don't seem to be able to differentiate between long-distance relationships and internet ones. There are many, many people out there (several in this very thread, myself included) who are with someone, have met them, but due to the distances involved cannot be together very often. But they also do not want to let the relationship die, and thus their primary form of communication is online. What about that?

Originally posted by Puzzle
you know nothing of the real world yet.

You don't actually know that, however likely.

-AC

Originally posted by DarkC
If you had half a brain you'd realise I was talking about long distance, not real life. Isn't that what the subject of this thread? Hmm?

Originally posted by JacopeX
Yes, I have been [B]there before when I was a younger foolish child. But I have learned from my mistakes and try to learn even more to see clearly the values of life and it is very clear to me that it is enough for me to see the world we live in, Ect. Anyways, internet dating is nothing but BULLSHIT. [/B]

Sorry but you got me to the point where I thought you read my post but you come out with something like "You have never been in a relationship like that" when I just explained in the previous post/ This quote.

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
So you replied to my point for what reason?

"None of you have successful relationships yet.", "I'd say I'm on the path to making it successful.", "Yes, but it's not yet.", "I never said it was.".

Sh-shall you stop talking in this irrelevant-al way?

-AC

Damnit, everytime you do that it cracks me up 😂

Originally posted by DarkC
If you had half a brain you'd realise I was talking about long distance, not real life. Isn't that what the subject of this thread is? Hmm?

Err, how is long-distance not real life?

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
You don't actually know that, however likely.

-AC

You never know how the real world works until you are on your own.

Originally posted by JacopeX
O RLY?

If you want to make yourself look intelligent, don't respond with a stupid little internet cliche.

Originally posted by Lana
Err, how is long-distance not real life?

Ok, for the purposes of those idiots here, a.k.a everyone besides me (As I am quite clearly the king of the world, King AC):

Relationships solely on the net are now known as internet relationships.

Relationships that have become serious as a result of meeting or meetings will be known simply as internet BORN relationships.

Anything else such as knowing each other in person first and then doing long distance, will be known as long distance.

Clear?

Originally posted by Puzzle
You never know how the real world works until you are on your own.

I know people who would beg to differ.

-AC

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Ok, for the purposes of those idiots here, a.k.a everyone besides me (As I am quite clearly the king of the world, King AC):

Relationships solely on the net are now known as internet relationships.

Relationships that have become serious as a result of meeting or meetings will be known simply as internet BORN relationships.

Anything else such as knowing each other in person first and then doing long distance, will be known as long distance.

Clear?

I know people who would beg to differ.

-AC

I see no need to differentiate between a relationship started online and one started off that are over long distances. They're both long distance. But that's just me.

Wasn't asking you, was I? Shat ittttt.

-AC

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Wasn't asking you, was I? Shat ittttt.

-AC

Nevah!

Originally posted by Alpha Centauri
Ok, for the purposes of those idiots here, a.k.a everyone besides me (As I am quite clearly the king of the world, King AC):

Relationships solely on the net are now known as internet relationships.

Relationships that have become serious as a result of meeting or meetings will be known simply as internet BORN relationships.

Anything else such as knowing each other in person first and then doing long distance, will be known as long distance.

Clear?

I know people who would beg to differ.

-AC

Originally posted by Lana
Why would they need work?

Because people are flawed creatures and no one is the same, and by nature will not always agree. If you want a relationship to last, then yes, there will be effort and work involved. You need to learn to compromise. You need to learn to trust the other person, to be honest with them. You need to learn that it's not going to be some happy fairy-tale romance and there will be problems and you need to learn to work through the problems, so that they don't wreck your relationship. And so on.

There is far more to a relationship to simply love. And no offense, but you seem to have a very rose-coloured glasses view on love and relationships. Unfortunately, most relationships are not "fall in love and everything is happily ever after". Just because ones you've witnessed appeared to flow with no work or effort from either party does not mean that said effort was not there.

Its either a misconception or a bastardization of the term to say that successful relationships need "work". Saying that insinuates a negative connotation. As if you have to strive to make yourself and the other engage in the relationship in question. Relationships cannot be helped like i said before. You either have any sort if a relationship with someone or you don't.

All the things you mentioned above, compromise, trust and honesty, are not the acts of "work" to maintain a relationship but components that comprise the relationship itself . In other words, these acts are the relationship if you will. Doing those things is having a "relationship".

You must have misunderstood me or I may not have been articulate enough.*shrugs* I appreciate ,treasure and am big advocate of love.🙂 But I also don't hesitate at all to critique the idea of it as it is treated in mainstream today.Which I suppose ends up making me a skeptic, someone hesitant to completely dive into the big fall herself.😛

Originally posted by Punkyhermy
Its either a misconception or a bastardization of the term to say that successful relationships need "work". Saying that insinuates a negative connotation. As if you have to strive to make yourself and the other engage in the relationship in question. Relationships cannot be helped like i said before. You either have any sort if a relationship with someone or you don't.

All the things you mentioned above, compromise, trust and honesty, are not the acts of "work" to maintain a relationship but [B]components that comprise the relationship itself . In other words, these acts are the relationship if you will. Doing those things is having a "relationship".

You must have misunderstood me or I may not have been articulate enough.*shrugs* I appreciate ,treasure and am big advocate of love.🙂 But I also don't hesitate at all to critique the idea of it as it is treated in mainstream today.Which I suppose ends up making me a skeptic, someone hesitant to completely dive into the big fall herself.😛 [/B]

I hate it when people say they treasure love, or are advocates of. Love doesn't exist without people to use it, there isn't loads of true love floating around somewhere waiting to be used. Love can only exist with people who are in love, or someone that's in love. Not on its own.

Yes, by the way, it does take effort to keep a relationship going. You are implying that effort means striving and struggling, it doesn't always. It means making effort to keep each other happy.

-AC

Originally posted by Punkyhermy
Its either a misconception or a bastardization of the term to say that successful relationships need "work". Saying that insinuates a negative connotation. As if you have to strive to make yourself and the other engage in the relationship in question. Relationships cannot be helped like i said before. You either have any sort if a relationship with someone or you don't.

All the things you mentioned above, compromise, trust and honesty, are not the acts of "work" to maintain a relationship but [B]components that comprise the relationship itself . In other words, these acts are the relationship if you will. Doing those things is having a "relationship".

You must have misunderstood me or I may not have been articulate enough.*shrugs* I appreciate ,treasure and am big advocate of love.🙂 But I also don't hesitate at all to critique the idea of it as it is treated in mainstream today.Which I suppose ends up making me a skeptic, someone hesitant to completely dive into the big fall herself.😛 [/B]

How on earth does it insinuate a negative connotation? Not all work is tiresome, boring, etc.

And yes, trust, honesty, and compromise are components of a relationship. But they do not create themselves, nor do they stay by themselves. They only exist through the efforts of those in the relationship. And that's why so many relationships don't last. People fall in love. They think that that will carry it, that it will be easy. But it won't, because they'll have never put in the effort to establish the other important things that are needed.

And THAT is why relationships require work to make them last.