Abstinence

Originally posted by The Omega
Says who?

Howells, K. (1981). "Adult sexual interest in children: Considerations relevant to theories of aetiology," Adult sexual interest in children, 55-94.

Lanning, Kenneth (2001). Child Molesters: A Behavioral Analysis (Third Edition). National Center for Missing & Exploited Children.

Abel, G. G., Mittleman, M. S., & Becker, J. V. (1985). "Sex offenders: Results of assessment and recommendations for treatment." In M. H. Ben-Aron, S. J. Hucker, & C. D. Webster (Eds.), Clinical criminology: The assessment and treatment of criminal behavior (pp. 207-220). Toronto, Canada: M & M Graphics.

Sex and survival is the only thing on the mind of every animal and America.
But some day.. just some day.. We will all evolve mentally as well..

No reasonable people will condemn you for making the personal choice of deciding practice abstinence. The problem arises often from this moral elitism that seems to radiate from so many people who are part of the abstinence movement. Who, as Ush said, preach it. By doing so they commit the same act they often condemn - Pressuring someone.

Really, if you want to keep it in your pants, that's your deal. It will honestly make your life much less complicated, no worries about diseases or accidental pregnancies or whatever. That said, don't expect to know your way around a member of the opposite sex the first few times you DO decide to do it, and don't expect to be very good in the sack either. This could be a problem if your first time is with someone you care about, they may think that they've made a mistake with you and that you aren't a good lover, which could push them away.

Do what you want, and screw everyone else. Hehehe.

Originally posted by Jonathan Mark
It's so strange... I'm 16 an age when... well most guys are obsessed with sex and yet I could care less. Sex has very little appeal to me... and girls don't really seem to attract my attention either. Perhaps this will change as I grow older, but for now sex holds almost no importance to me.

I guess I'm just different than the norm.

Do not presume you speak for everyone. That is hardly the case....much less whether you speak for a person willing to moleste a child.

Originally posted by BackFire
No reasonable people will condemn you for making the personal choice of deciding practice abstinence. The problem arises often from this moral elitism that seems to radiate from so many people who are part of the abstinence movement. Who, as Ush said, preach it. By doing so they commit the same act they often condemn - Pressuring someone.

Really, if you want to keep it in your pants, that's your deal. It will honestly make your life much less complicated, no worries about diseases or accidental pregnancies or whatever. That said, don't expect to know your way around a member of the opposite sex the first few times you DO decide to do it, and don't expect to be very good in the sack either. This could be a problem if your first time is with someone you care about, they may think that they've made a mistake with you and that you aren't a good lover, which could push them away.

Do what you want, and screw everyone else. Hehehe.

100% Correct.

Well it's like potato chips.......once you have one, you can't stop......

I find that I do often need a break. Having too much sex at one concentrated section of time starts to dullen the experience.

I would like....take a week or two off....then my libido becomes raw and curious again...........but that's like a serious week. No masturbating nothing....leave it alone....trust ME....you'll be horny as %#@$ and your next sexual encounter will be wonderful.

Never have a potato chip............ ❌

Originally posted by Lord Urizen
I find that I do often need a break. Having too much sex at one concentrated section of time starts to dullen the experience.

I would like....take a week or two off....then my libido becomes raw and curious again...........but that's like a serious week. No masturbating nothing....leave it alone....trust ME....you'll be horny as %#@$ and your next sexual encounter will be wonderful.

I take breaks too, if possible at least 15-20 minutes... 😗

Seriously though, either abstain until you meet your lifetime partner, or get a lot of action beforehand. If you get some beforehand, you may expect something other than what your partner will actually do. If you never get any beforehand whatever you get is what you'll be used to. Comparisons can suck.

Originally posted by BackFire
No reasonable people will condemn you for making the personal choice of deciding practice abstinence. The problem arises often from this moral elitism that seems to radiate from so many people who are part of the abstinence movement. Who, as Ush said, preach it. By doing so they commit the same act they often condemn - Pressuring someone.

Really, if you want to keep it in your pants, that's your deal. It will honestly make your life much less complicated, no worries about diseases or accidental pregnancies or whatever. That said, don't expect to know your way around a member of the opposite sex the first few times you DO decide to do it, and don't expect to be very good in the sack either. This could be a problem if your first time is with someone you care about, they may think that they've made a mistake with you and that you aren't a good lover, which could push them away.

Do what you want, and screw everyone else. Hehehe.

Originally posted by Lord Urizen
I find that I do often need a break. Having too much sex at one concentrated section of time starts to dullen the experience.

Sometimes a break can brighten op things. Other times.,.

I think too little sex is a problem. Just as too much... Everything in moderation... 😉

It's human nature to have sex. Going against that would be damn difficult. It's also human nature to segragate those different from us, in order to find a good, well matched mate.

There's my two cents.

my Veiw of absinence is that your saving all of your sexual treasures for that one person you marry. I wouldnt want to marry someone and on our honey moon know its not his first time. I would want him to save himself until marrage like I did. Both me and my bf are saving all of our sexual treasures for who we marry.

Originally posted by The Omega
Sometimes a break can brighten op things. Other times.,.

I think too little sex is a problem. Just as too much... Everything in moderation... 😉

Exactly. The middle path is often the best option.

Originally posted by Capt_Fantastic
Exactly. The middle path is often the best option.

How Buddhist of you. 😉

Originally posted by champion
my Veiw of absinence is that your saving all of your sexual treasures for that one person you marry. I wouldnt want to marry someone and on our honey moon know its not his first time. I would want him to save himself until marrage like I did. Both me and my bf are saving all of our sexual treasures for who we marry.

But if you've never HAD sex, how much is in your sexual treasure chest? You'll have NO experience?
I'd rather fly with a veteran-pilot than one fresh out from the academy...

Two people can teach other from scratch far better than one can try to erase or reprogram the others BAD experiences (because they do sometimes happen) or misconceptions.

Two people who actually LOVE each other,(as the poster you responded to was saying) won't care about inexperience.....

Rather, they will have quite alot of fun learning and discovering what they other person likes, and what they themselves like.

I understand your point about wanting to take the car for a few test drives to see how well it runs...

some folks would just rather get something brand new with no milage on it. 🙂

Originally posted by sithsaber408
Two people can teach other from scratch far better than one can try to erase or reprogram the others BAD experiences (because they do sometimes happen) or misconceptions.

Two people who actually LOVE each other,(as the poster you responded to was saying) won't care about inexperience.....

Rather, they will have quite alot of fun learning and discovering what they other person likes, and what they themselves like.

I understand your point about wanting to take the car for a few test drives to see how well it runs...

some folks would just rather get something brand new with no milage on it. 🙂

So, is that why you got married for Jesus? Or did you just wanna stick it in by any means needed?

Originally posted by sithsaber408
Two people can teach other from scratch far better than one can try to erase or reprogram the others BAD experiences (because they do sometimes happen) or misconceptions.

Two people who actually LOVE each other,(as the poster you responded to was saying) won't care about inexperience.....

Rather, they will have quite alot of fun learning and discovering what they other person likes, and what they themselves like.

I understand your point about wanting to take the car for a few test drives to see how well it runs...

some folks would just rather get something brand new with no milage on it. 🙂

Depends on what kind of car you're trying to drive... 😎

Get a life.

Thats all I need to say to you Capt.

I got married because I love my wife.

We had sex before marriage, yes, and then chose abstinence through 8 months of pre-maritial counciling.

It's called "Recommited Virginity" and millions of Americans practice it.

I never once mentioned Christ, God, or Religion in my argument for abstinence:

"Indeed.

This post, and the one by Ush, are the only good ones in this topic so far.

Yes, people were married at 15,14, and even 12 in olden days.

Yes, we are meant to have sex at a younger age than what modern society has limited us too. (if you were to count being educated, established, and financially secure as qualifications for finding a wife and getting the privilege of sex with her among other things.)

However, those aren't what we look for in order to have sex now days.

It's usually, Is she/he hot?

and Wanna do it?

But truth be told, abstinence, will do NOTHING to hurt you physically, or psychologicaly.

You wont' spontaneously combust with semen (for the guys) if you don't get laid by age 25.

You won't turn into some sort of sex craved pervert either.

It is in fact very sensible to wait until you find somebody who you love to marry, then have sex with just them.

You save yourself for them, (and hopefully, they for you) and both of you skip the whole "how many people have you been with" "have you ever been tested for STD's" "we need protection" "I missed my period" "we may need to get an abortion" bullshit.

Your spouse won't leave you or hate you for your sexual inexperience, (not if you truly love each other).

Instead you will explore sex together, getting better and better at it.
Plus, you won't have any frame of reference, no doubts or guilt about past lovers getttin in the way.

As for the nonsense about abstinent people being losers who can't get laid,...

I present Emily and Tony, 2 good friends of my wife and I.

He's a funny, sports-loving guy, and she's a cutie with a great personality.

BOTH of these "losers" were virgins at marriage, she 23 and he 26.

If you wanna f*ck whatever's in sight go for it, but don't act like those who choose to live differently are somehow "wierd", "nerds" or "losers." "

Wooo abstinence. w00t