Re: Re: Re: Re: I am officially jobless!!
Originally posted by Alliance
😆 Oh, because no one would think that "I'm thinking that this can be a good opportunity for me to ask for more." could be referencing a pay raise. More respect? 😆 The very fact that you're crawling back asking for special privledges, but you turn in your uniform in a day? Usually, imo, people get rewarded for hard work, not for flakiness.You are the one making crazy demands. You won't pay for a sitter or someone else for one day? You won't pay $20 to get a doctors note, yet you have so much money to live comfrotably? That seems like a lot of agressive personal demands for something totally out of your control. Your daughter getting sick is out of your control, but your treatment of the situation is entirely in your control. And imo you treated it very poorly.
If you don't like your job, fine, but don't blame it on your daughter getting sick. Maybe you should start acting like an adult, take responsibility for your actions, instead of shoveling the blame on someone else.
I'd have to strongly disagree with you on that note. I will not EVER let our daughter be taken care of by a complete stranger...especially a daycare. I worked for one for almost a year and I did NOT like what I saw. I stay at home with our daughter while he works and he takes care of her while hes off...reason behind him calling in on his days off. I very much respect his job and his time but I'm a human being too and deserve to have a job and some money in my pocket for myself and our daughter. He's not taking the blame on someone else. Maybe you should keep your opinions to yourself and understand that his our daughter is 10 times more important than some a$$holes he worked for.
Originally posted by Morning_Glory
^youre hot... just had to say that... now Im leaving 😮
Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: I am officially jobless!!
Originally posted by Impediment
Who ever said that I was "crawling back"? Again, go back to school and learn to read. My warden personally called me and asked me to come in. Why? Probably because I'm a good officer, and I wrote him a 3 page letter of resignation that was both professional and elaborate. Turn in my uniforms for a day? No, I DON'T think so. I turned them in indefinitely. I have always been a hard worker and an example. I have never, ever said that I was "the best" or "#1", however I do pride my self on having impeccable work ethic.
Originally posted by Impediment
How is asking for one night off, with over 70 hours of sick time, a crazy demand? How did I treat it poorly? My supervisor said, and I quote, "It's not my problem", very callously when I explained to him my situation. I have never abused my sick time, and I always work overtime when offered, or even when its mandatory and I really DON'T want to. I think one night off is okay, since I have a very good attendance record. Aggressive demands? What the hell are you smoking?
Originally posted by Impediment
I never said I hated my job, but I was getting burnt out. And furthermore, I'm guessing that you're not a father. If you were, then you would have probably said the same thing if you were in my situation. I refuse to leave my child in the care of anyone I do not know very well personally. I have never "shoveled blame" onto someone else for my problems. And as far as acting like an adult, you're the dipshit who started making flammatory remarks out of the blue for no damn reason. You need to grow the hell up. Take some responsibility, you say? You DON'T know the meaning of that word, junior, if you arent a parent. When you become one, you'll know exactly what I mean. I'm done with you.
Besides doing a rational and reasonable option, because a mere $20 copay can't mean much to a man who can simply walk off a job when he feels like it and take months off of work, you rant about how no one you know personally can watch your daughter. You're telling me that one one you know knows a sitter that they trust. Coworkers? Friends of your family? I'm not asking you to throw your daughter to anyone on the street. Get over yourself.
You're right, usually, adults show responsibility. While you showed responsibility for your daughter, you showed none for your career or your economic future (which also effects your daughter immensely). An adult could balance them out...instead of blabbing about how the copay is too expensive or how the warden is such an ass.
DUUUDE...I dont recall him ever saying anything about his warden being an ass....it was his LTs that were giving him a hard time. His warden was the one who called him and asked why he left and wanted him to come back, he was obviously doing something right. You said he was being "irresponsible" because he quit with no concern of his daughter. You're wrong, because if he was infact being "irresponsible" he would have quit without money in the bank. He factored her in to every possible equation...so tell me.......how the hell does that make him irresponsible??
Re: I am officially jobless!!
Originally posted by Impediment
So three days ago, I called into work because I didn't have anyone to watch my kid. Everyone was either sick, or just plain unavailable because of work or prior engagements. So, I have sick time on the books, and I usually NEVER miss work unless I'm very sick, and I call in to my lieutenant and explain my situation. The following is pretty much what was said over the phone:[b]"Sir, I have absolutely nobody to watch my daughter. I won't be able to come in tonight."
"Okay. I understand, however you're going to have to bring in a doctor's excuse when you come back to work."
"But I'm not sick, sir. I just don't have anyone to babysit. Why do I need a doctor's excuse?"
"That's just the way it works. We need a valid excuse, otherwise it won't be justifiable."
"Lieutenant, I'm not going to spend $20 on a visit to my doctor for a note. Even if it [b]is a co-pay, I'm not going to throw my money away like that."[/b]
"Then you can expect a diciplinary when you come back to work."
"For what reason?!?!?"
"For failure to prove justification of absence."
"I already told you!! I don't have a sitter!!"
"That's not my problem."
"Okay. Later."
So yesterday I went to my unit and turned in all of my uniforms and my state I.D. along with my letter of resignation. I have more than enough money in my bank account to sustain me until I find a new job, plus I'll get a compensatory check for all of my overtime, sick, and holiday hours. Now, about an hour ago, I got a call from my assistant warden. He says that he wants me to come in and sit down for a discussion about what happened so we can try to straighten this out. I'm thinking that this can be a good opportunity for me to ask for more. What say you guys? [/B]
On a ligher note...😉 Everything will work out fine. Its better for you to enjoy your job and your life than work somewhere and constantly be stressed and drained.
Matt > One thing that makes a difference in my opinion is that you said you have money saved that can get you through till you find another job. Im sure you wouldnt have even considered dropping them without the means to tend to your family. Granted it seems that maybe you wont have to do so since your boss called you into meet with him over this. I think any employee that has a good track record with their job.... that has a family to tend to should be allowed family sick day as well as the sick days allowed to you. I think maybe the family sick day at most be without pay... but also be without disciplinary action as well. You and Rae seemed to make a great partner ship in caring for Madison and you did the right thing putting your daughter first. Its absurd that you were asked to get a Dr's note for this... not all childhood illness is serious enough for Dr. Also what some people in this thread that may not have children fail to realize that even if you were to consider putting your daughter in daycare of sorts... they will NOT allow her to come in ill putting the other children at risk of being sick. Some times, like this time... you have no choice then what you did to tend to your baby girl. My advise is to go in there with an open mind as Scott mentioned. If you are willing to still work for them and they want you back then go for it... so long as they are under the understanding that it may happen again that your little girl will need you more then your job. Good luck with it. 👆
Rae > your absolutely right. You and Matt will be fine and togther you are doing wonderful with your beautiful little girl. I hope she is feeling better. hug
Originally posted by BlackSunshine
DUUUDE...I dont recall him ever saying anything about his warden being an ass....it was his LTs that were giving him a hard time. His warden was the one who called him and asked why he left and wanted him to come back, he was obviously doing something right. You said he was being "irresponsible" because he quit with no concern of his daughter. You're wrong, because if he was infact being "irresponsible" he would have quit without money in the bank. He factored her in to every possible equation...so tell me.......how the hell does that make him irresponsible??
I'm sorry I mispoke...his LT gave him a hard time.
Its a pain in the @ss to hear people brag about how they won't pay a $20 coapay to get a sick note because they are so set. They'd rather just quit their job. Most people I know don't have that luxury. If he would have just seen the doctor, no big deal. He could have spent some time with his daughter too.
I think he's jsut pushing his pre-existant frustration with his job on this little incident.
Originally posted by Alliance
I'm sorry I mispoke...his LT gave him a hard time.Its a pain in the @ss to hear people brag about how they won't pay a $20 coapay to get a sick note because they are so set. They'd rather just quit their job. Most people I know don't have that luxury. If he would have just seen the doctor, no big deal. He could have spent some time with his daughter too.
I think he's jsut pushing his pre-existant frustration with his job on this little incident.
Thats just it, though. He shouldnt have to pay $20 for a doctors note, IMO, when he's not even sick. But you're 100% right about his pre-existant frustration. Its a very hard job, hours wise, and not to mention he's been assualted by inmates before. It was, quite literally, the "last straw". I just dont see the reason why you insulted him in your first response to this thread.
To me giving up your job is a serious thing. People I know live month to month...we don't have the option of just quitting wherever we went because we refuse to give in to some less-than-perfect standard. (They $20 really bugged me because he then basically bragged about how we was set for months out of work). I think he way overreacted, just venting previous frustration.
But whatever, it your lives and not mine. You have privileges that I do not. Hopefully some good will come out of this situation for both of you. Sorry if I distressed you two.
Originally posted by Alliance
To me giving up your job is a serious thing. People I know live month to month...we don't have the option of just quitting wherever we went because we refuse to give in to some less-than-perfect standard. (They $20 really bugged me because he then basically bragged about how we was set for months out of work). I think he way overreacted, just venting previous frustration.But whatever, it your lives and not mine. You have privileges that I do not. Hopefully some good will come out of this situation for both of you. Sorry if I distressed you two.
There was no "bragging" of any kind at anytime. Yeah we do have people who can help us...but that doesnt make us any better than anyone else. But its only money. It doesnt mean that his world will go topsy-turvy. We'll be just fine. Plus, him quitting his job has no effect whatsoever on our daughter. He received a disability check from the Army after being injured, hence the nickname Impediment, and all that money had been saved up for our daughter for college and anything else. So she will be just fine.
I quit my job - not having another one set up... but i hated my job so much that I would rather be so broke and eating ramen noodles then to work there another day... but I think its all about money management and a little sacrifices to make, in order to live without a job - and live on savings.
plus I didnt think there was bragging... i think he just stated it, saying he will be ok for awhile
imo
Yeah I agree, it's the principle of the whole thing, especially since you say you've been such a good employee. I imagine that's why the warden wanted to sit down with you about it, because he didn't want to lose you. I doubt there's many people lining up for this kind of job but then again I dunno. I think he figures he'll lose more by letting a good employee go , so he'll prob talk you into staying but make sure you make it clear that fam comes first. If your job doesn't allow a reasonable work life balance then no matter how much they pay you IMO it's just not worth it.
Originally posted by Morning_Glory
^youre hot... just had to say that... now Im leaving 😮
Um..I think you're hot, um...that's all, walks away slowly
Originally posted by Morning_Glory
I quit my job - not having another one set up... but i hated my job so much that I would rather be so broke and eating ramen noodles then to work there another day... but I think its all about money management and a little sacrifices to make, in order to live without a job - and live on savings.plus I didnt think there was bragging... i think he just stated it, saying he will be ok for awhile
imo
Yeah...I remember those days 😆