still having problems understanding the point you are making, Christna. I am genuinely interested in what you have to say so please don't take that the wrong way.
are you trying to say Jack is too old for Elizabeth? I am guessing they have between a 10 and 15 year age difference. Not a problem, in my book, at all. There could be a 20 year age difference and it wouldn't really bother me with them, because they seem to have similar maturity levels, and they view the world the same way. Sure, Jack's been around the block in comparison to Elizabeth, but she's wise beyond her years, and by the end of AWE, she's grown up a lot.
historically speaking, it wouldn't have been at all weird. Norrington had to be at least Jack's age, and she was going to marry him. In the past, men married older, once they were established and had a steady income, and women married pretty much as soon as they could, because, let's face it, what else could they do?
not suggesting Jack and Elizabeth get married. but the age difference wouldn't have been a problem then. it would have been much stranger at the time for Will to be getting married when he was so young and unestablished-- unless he whipped a thriving blacksmith business out of his bag o' tricks sometime between film 1 and 2.
I guess it's a fact that a lot of girls go for someone like their father. But I dont think so in Elizabeth's case-- the only guy that remotely reminds me of her father (Norrington) is the first to get Lizzie's boot. Jack is like the total opposite. So, no, I don't think she's looking for a father figure in Jack. Though he is a mentoring figure in the ways of piracy.