Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
Yup, thats cheating emotionally, just as bad as physical cheating. I have suffered through emotional AND physical cheating in a previous relationship. Unfortunately, some people fail to realize what they have right in front of them. And no matter how much you reach out to them, they shut you out, and inevitably seek comfort in the arms and/or company of another. Makes you wonder why you ever wasted your time. But what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right? And I am stronger now, a better person for it, in a VERY good place. Growing pains, I guess.
I understand completely, and yes these kinds of things do make you more resistant.
Sometimes someone can Love you, but that's not enough. I love my family members, and they love me, but we almost always argue.
Two people can fall in love, but find out how incompatable they actually are together. There may always be something that you or the other person will not stand for.
And you didn't waste your time. You learned a lot, and you had those experiences, and in the end that is all you might ever have.
I've had a lot of crap happen in the past with other guys, but at the same time I still treasure those memories. I am glad that I still met some of those guys, and got to know who they are, as oppose to never having met him and not knowing.
Originally posted by Goddess KaliNah, it was a waste of time. If I could take it back, I would.
I understand completely, and yes these kinds of things do make you more resistant.Sometimes someone can Love you, but that's not enough. I love my family members, and they love me, but we almost always argue.
Two people can fall in love, but find out how incompatable they actually are together. There may always be something that you or the other person will not stand for.
And you didn't waste your time. You learned a lot, and you had those experiences, and in the end that is all you might ever have.
I've had a lot of crap happen in the past with other guys, but at the same time I still treasure those memories. I am glad that I still met some of those guys, and got to know who they are, as oppose to never having met him and not knowing.
Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
Nah, it was a waste of time. If I could take it back, I would.
You wouldn't be as strong as you are now, though.
If it wasn't her, it would have been another woman.
Now you will be more selective about who you dedicate yourself to, instead of giving yourself to the pretty girl who made you feel good (this is not a jab at you, but a lesson you should not forget)
Originally posted by Goddess KaliI dont think we ae talking about the same person, although the similarities are mind blowing.
You wouldn't be as strong as you are now, though.If it wasn't her, it would have been another woman.
Now you will be more selective about who you dedicate yourself to, instead of giving yourself to the pretty girl who made you feel good (this is not a jab at you, but a lesson you should not forget)
the answer to the question for thr significant majorit of the human race. no. you should not sleep with any1 else if you love a person and are with them. commitment is a sign of willingness.
and in all true love, i believe, spontaneity{hope im spellin it right} is not the only thing that comes to play. TRULY loving sum1 also mean choosing to love them and devote them{im not saying FORCING yourself to, but choosing to if you can without forcing. i dont htink going gaga at first sight suffices}.
hence choosing to be loyal to them is part of love{it shudnt be that hard though if you ARE in love}. also, knowing that sleeping with sum1 else can cause hurt to the other person, or if not that, can cause complications which will strain the relationship in the long run, is reason enough to stay away from such things if you love the other person truly.
{and i VERY much doubt any person can claim to be in a relationship, polygamous or otherwise, where sleeping with another person does not hurt their mate at all or put a strain on the relaitonship in the long run due to complications}. that is how i interpret it. making a mistake is one thing{which u shud be sorry for} but willingly doing it, neglectful of the shortcoming is ignorance.
on the other hand{the way MOST people are interpreting the question here}. you can love sum1 without having sex with them{actually, at higher levels of TRUE love, sex isnt a personal priority because complete unselfishness is a must for such a state}, and you can have sex with sum1 without loving em. no problem there, as long as both parties agree for the sake of pleasure, its awseome. however, theres nothing like having sex with a person you truly love.
it far surpasses any bliss just sex can provide.
Originally posted by leonheartmmvery good post.
the answer to the question for thr significant majorit of the human race. no. you should not sleep with any1 else if you love a person and are with them. commitment is a sign of willingness.and in all true love, i believe, spontaneity{hope im spellin it right} is not the only thing that comes to play. TRULY loving sum1 also mean choosing to love them and devote them{im not saying FORCING yourself to, but choosing to if you can without forcing. i dont htink going gaga at first sight suffices}.
hence choosing to be loyal to them is part of love{it shudnt be that hard though if you ARE in love}. also, knowing that sleeping with sum1 else can cause hurt to the other person, or if not that, can cause complications which will strain the relationship in the long run, is reason enough to stay away from such things if you love the other person truly.
{and i VERY much doubt any person can claim to be in a relationship, polygamous or otherwise, where sleeping with another person does not hurt their mate at all or put a strain on the relaitonship in the long run due to complications}. that is how i interpret it. making a mistake is one thing{which u shud be sorry for} but willingly doing it, neglectful of the shortcoming is ignorance.on the other hand{the way MOST people are interpreting the question here}. you can love sum1 without having sex with them{actually, at higher levels of TRUE love, sex isnt a personal priority because complete unselfishness is a must for such a state}, and you can have sex with sum1 without loving em. no problem there, as long as both parties agree for the sake of pleasure, its awseome. however, theres nothing like having sex with a person you truly love.
it far surpasses any bliss just sex can provide.
Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
means both women did the same thing, or at least very similar.
If I could tell you how many men had thier way with me, and then left, I'd be making an extensive JIA-length post.
At this point, I just realized...sex is just sex, and only has as much value as the person puts into it.
I do not view sex as an expression of love, although It CAN be.
Little things like showing up in time, calling every day, giving cards, flowers, gifts of any sort..those are expressions of love as well, and sometimes those hold more value.
I don't mean to go off subject, but you can't stop trying and stop trusting. If you close off, you may miss out on a good catch.
Originally posted by Goddess Kali
If I could tell you how many men had thier way with me, and then left, I'd be making an extensive JIA-length post.At this point, I just realized...sex is just sex, and only has as much value as the person puts into it.
I do not view sex as an expression of love, although It CAN be.
Little things like showing up in time, calling every day, giving cards, flowers, gifts of any sort..those are expressions of love as well, and sometimes those hold more value.
I don't mean to go off subject, but you can't stop trying and stop trusting. If you close off, you may miss out on a good catch.
Awh, you're a real romantic!
I have a question for you, though. Do you think that sex is important factor in a loving relationship? Can you have a good relationship with bad sex?
Originally posted by lil bitchiness
Awh, you're a real romantic!I have a question for you, though. Do you think that sex is important factor in a loving relationship? Can you have a good relationship with bad sex?
If I am not having any sex in the relationship, then I won't really be happy. Yes, sex is an important part of the relationship, but it's not the focus. It's a mutual practice, and only as important as the two people value it.
But more to the point, I would rather have "bad sex" with someone I realllllly love, then "awesome sex" with someone I am not connected to at all.
I've had amazing sex before, and honestly, I value commitment and companionship far more. Also, If I'm sexually bored, I know a lot of self-pleasing techniques that can compensate for that
droolio 😆
Originally posted by lil bitchinessnope. a successful relationship has to have good sex, because deep down we all desire and require sex. this goes for young people, anyways. people who are up in years, 60 and 70, it is different.
Awh, you're a real romantic!I have a question for you, though. Do you think that sex is important factor in a loving relationship? Can you have a good relationship with bad sex?
Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
nope. a successful relationship has to have good sex, because deep down we all desire and require sex. this goes for young people, anyways. people who are up in years, 60 and 70, it is different.
A relationship does not need to have "good" sex, as long as thier is "okay" sex, then it can last.
Like I already said, if and when my partner cannot sexually satisfy me, I can do so myself and probably better 😆
There are other voids he needs to fill (no pun intended) 😉
Originally posted by Goddess Kalias long as it satisfies your partner, it's passable.
A relationship does not need to have "good" sex, as long as thier is "okay" sex, then it can last.Like I already said, if and when my partner cannot sexually satisfy me, I can do so myself and probably better 😆
There are other voids he needs to fill (no pun intended) 😉