Originally posted by big gay kirk
I think we as humans like to be able to categorise and pigeon hole.... even sexuality... we like to think we are one thing or another, black, white, hetero, homo... lets be absolutely honest and logical here... all humans have so-called male and female chromosomes and hormones, and all humans are bisexual on a sliding scale of bisexuality... some are closer to one end or the other... most are nearer the middle but refuse to acknowledge this due to cultural or social or religious reasons... studies have shown that it is not unusual for ostensibly heterosexual persons to have homosexual fantasies, and vice versa.... personally I'm happy to acknowledge my bisexuality, while knowing myself to be on the hetero side of the centre... i find women more attractive that men, and most (but not all) of my relationships and sexual encounters have been hetero... unfortunately bi is seen as being neither one thing or the other.. in apparently hetero society it is seen as being a closet gay, in homo societies (especially the more militant political ones) it is seen as sitting on the fence or refusing to admit ones homosexuality.. but we are all bi... to a certain extent...
That's idiotic.
Bisexuality is about sexual attraction to both men and women. I know that I have no sexual attraction to men. Also why would being bi always mean one was secretly gay?
Scales of sexuality in that way were first proposed by Kinsey and have some credibility, though my feeling is that the genetic evidence is moving us away from that understanding.
That being said, it is possible for humans to be born/develop at any point along a spectrum, and they are subject to change over their life, however, I don't think it is accurate to say all people as individuals have a spectrum at any given time.
Bi-sexuals would assume everyone is bisexual, because it is hard for them to imagine not being attracted to one of the sexes... one would assume...
Originally posted by inimalist
Scales of sexuality in that way were first proposed by Kinsey and have some credibility, though my feeling is that the genetic evidence is moving us away from that understanding.That being said, it is possible for humans to be born/develop at any point along a spectrum, and they are subject to change over their life, however, I don't think it is accurate to say all people as individuals have a spectrum at any given time.
Bi-sexuals would assume everyone is bisexual, because it is hard for them to imagine not being attracted to one of the sexes... one would assume...
I agree with that.
However, SpearofDestiny and Adam_Poe do not. They don't think that people are actually changing on the spectrum...they think that those people were at that point on the spectrum the whole time and didn't know it.
Not that I think their logic is unsound...
lol
no, sexuality is a developmental process. In males it stabilizes over the teens/twenties, though in women it is more open to change later in life. There are really no accurate broad strokes with human behaviour though, so don't take that as a law or anything, but ya, sexuality changes over the course of one's life.
Originally posted by Robtard
I'm 34; I have yet to look at a guy and want him sexually, not saying it can't happen, but I highly doubt it ever will, considering I'm also way past puberty. So possibly, some people do not fluctuate on this 'sliding-sexuality-spectrum'.
absolutely 🙂
and to circumvent speculation, I'd say this fluctuation or lack thereof is highly genetic.
Originally posted by inimalistI have to go with inimalist on that one. And maybe dadudemon, if it wasn't for his atrocious (and contradictory) choice of phrasing.
lolya, honestly "simple attraction" is clearly something Kelly is making up to fit her model.
Physical attractiveness and attraction are 2 different things.
Neither chillmeistergen nor Kelly are fully right. Simple attraction is slightly oxymoronic, though I suppose what she might have meant is not to stupid. You can be fascinated or even in love with a person without being sexually drawn to them. Wouldn't call that simple attraction though and it certainly has to go beyond finding someone hot.
Originally posted by dadudemon
I agree with that.However, SpearofDestiny and Adam_Poe do not. They don't think that people are actually changing on the spectrum...they think that those people were at that point on the spectrum the whole time and didn't know it.
Not that I think their logic is unsound...
I didn't say people can't change. I know people who do and have. My ex boyfreind used to be straight, and over his late twenties he somehow went gay.
What I am saying is that I don't think its chosen. I don't think someone can choose who they are attracted to, but that doesn't mean thier attractions can't change. I just think the factors are hormonal/social/developmental.
I will say this however: If there wasn't the homophobic stigma that exists in this world, there would be FAR MORE homosexuals/bisexuals and homosexual activity occurring then now. Trust me on that one.
Originally posted by Robtard
Or maybe he was just a closeted homosexual because of said "homophobic stigmas."
Nah. He would have told me.
He swore to me he only liked girls at one point. He wasn't grossed out by guys, but never thought of it. Then when was 20-21, he started becoming more interested in guys. Then he started only kissing and cudding with guys, until that evolved into watching gay porn, naked wrestling, down to full fledge orgy buttsecks
Now he only like guys....A LOT