Should married people be allowed to sleep with other people?

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
You guys are stuck in a 50's idea of what marriage is.

if nothing else, at least for the last 4-5 pages, this thread has been a laboratory for different ideas about marriage...

maybe I'm missing something, who is saying that two married people can't or shouldn't be allowed to have sex with those who they are not married to. Maybe with the exception of Adam_Poe, who, and very reasonably so (and my apologies if this is a misinterpretation), feels that sexual fidelity is important to a marriage. Though, I hardly saw him as being conservative, more questioning the purpose of a formal arrangement if one of the, at least culturally, most significant aspects of that relationship is to be ignored.

Chit said it might be difficult, and from my personal experience, open relationships are extremely difficult.

Originally posted by chithappens
Change their minds on what? We are talking about definitions and you put out an implied subject...

Just to catch you up since you seem to have lost track of the discussion
I said:

It doesn't have to add strain if it's agreed upon by both spouses in the marriage.

You said:

You never changed your mind about anything?

You are making people sound robotic as if we all stick to everything we say, at all times.

Then I said:

If they change their minds then that's something they can discuss. But not everyone would.

and that bring us up to now. Does that clear things up for you?

Originally posted by inimalist
if nothing else, at least for the last 4-5 pages, this thread has been a laboratory for different ideas about marriage...

All a marriage is, is two people who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together and who make it official with either a religious or secular ceremony.

Every other aspect can change and it is still a marriage in every sense of the word.

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
Just to catch you up since you seem to have lost track of the discussion
I said:

You said:

Then I said:

and that bring us up to now. Does that clear things up for you?

I was talking about EVERYONE, not just you. EVERYTHING IS NOT ABOUT YOU. I was reading Bardock, Inimalist and SC also.

What a kid.

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
All a marriage is, is two people who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together and who make it official with either a religious or secular ceremony.

Every other aspect can change and it is still a marriage in every sense of the word.

What is love?

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
All a marriage is, is two people who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together and who make it official with either a religious or secular ceremony.

Every other aspect can change and it is still a marriage in every sense of the word.

That . . . never have children. Just do us all a favor.

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
All a marriage is, is two people who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together and who make it official with either a religious or secular ceremony.

why should a marriage be defined as only between 2 people? And who decides what qualifies as a proper religious or secular ceremony?

Originally posted by chithappens
What is love?

Originally posted by inimalist
why should a marriage be defined as only between 2 people?

The legal reason is to prevent the wealthy from marrying many times and claiming large numbers of spouses as dependents in order to avoid taxation.

Originally posted by Bardock42
Baby don't hurt me...don't hurt me...no more?

More. More. Hurt me more. 😈

Originally posted by Bardock42
Baby don't hurt me...don't hurt me...no more?

drunk

Originally posted by Symmetric Chaos
The legal reason is to prevent the wealthy from marrying many times and claiming large numbers of spouses as dependents in order to avoid taxation.

More. More. Hurt me more. 😈

well, I think the real reason is the Judeo-Christian influence on the moral thinking of the world at that time.

Originally posted by chithappens
What is love?

An affectionate emotional response.

why should a marriage be defined as only between 2 people?

Maybe it shouldn't be but in North America it is.

And who decides what qualifies as a proper religious or secular ceremony?

Whatever religion you belong to or the civil procedures set down in law.

Originally posted by Symmetric Chaos
The legal reason is to prevent the wealthy from marrying many times and claiming large numbers of spouses as dependents in order to avoid taxation.

huh...

you learn something new everyday...

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
An affectionate emotional response.

That's pretty damn arbitrary

Originally posted by inimalist
huh...

you learn something new everyday...

😂 All the random research you do and you never considered that?

Originally posted by Grand-Moff-Gav
well, I think the real reason is the Judeo-Christian influence on the moral thinking of the world at that time.

Originally posted by chithappens
That's pretty damn arbitrary

How so?

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
How so?

Cause I get like that when I warm up some sexy chocolate chip cookies, play Sonic the Hedgehog, actually read my kanji correctly, etc.

Doesn't seem to cover what you mean to say

Originally posted by chithappens
What is love?

This: http://www.sfn.org/index.cfm?pagename=brainbriefings_loveandthebrain

Originally posted by chithappens
Cause I get like that when I warm up some sexy chocolate chip cookies, play Sonic the Hedgehog, actually read my kanji correctly, etc.

Doesn't seem to cover what you mean to say

In other words your looking for love to have some deeper and more intimate meaning?

Basically love is as I said an affectionate emotional response. I guess I should add to that, "with varying degrees of severity".

Does that make you happy?

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
Basically love is as I said an affectionate emotional response. I guess I should add to that, "with varying degrees of severity".

can you offer some proof of this?

as, to my understanding, love is a little bit more complex than that...