Originally posted by King Kandy
Yeah sure. If they're both okay with it then why not?
You agree to it with your partner...when s/he finds someone who is much better sexually than you...you will see why.
However, yes they should be "allowed" to do whatever they want.
It should remain socially unncaeptable though- because it is usually unnaceptable to most couples.
I don't think they should, but on the matter of should they be allowed to?
Most definately yes. Nothing should hinder you from happiness.
The only case I think of against it would be hurting your partner. If you're doing it to hurt your partner, or your partner gets hurt as a result and your act, I would have a problem with that.
Originally posted by Adam_PoE
If a couple is not interested in or willing to be monogamous, I would question whether they should be in a relationship.
Because they love each other and want to spend time together, whether or not that means time in bed every day for the rest of their lives is a different matter.
Originally posted by Symmetric Chaos
Why? Relationships don't have to be limited to being between two people.
I guess not but how the hell would that work.
If someone wanted to have sex with other people, why would they get married in the first place (excluding tax deductions)?
"I love you but I just want to **** her, her and her!" is pretty damn selfish. "Being human" is not an excuse. You want to be exclusive or you don't - that simple.
Originally posted by chithappens
I guess not but how the hell would that work.If someone wanted to have sex with other people, why would they get married in the first place (excluding tax deductions)?
"I love you but I just want to **** her, her and her!" is pretty damn selfish. "Being human" is not an excuse. You want to be exclusive or you don't - that simple.
Tax breaks is a pretty good reason.
How it would work is that you love the person your married to, you just understand that the same boring mechanical sex for years on end can drive a person batty. Sex does not always have to be about love. Part of the problem with sex is how much people put on it, which most of the time sucks the fun out of it.
Originally posted by Bardock42
Tax breaks is a pretty good reason.
😂 I mean it's a reason.
Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
How it would work is that you love the person your married to, you just understand that the same boring mechanical sex for years on end can drive a person batty. Sex does not always have to be about love. Part of the problem with sex is how much people put on it, which most of the time sucks the fun out of it.
Then you don't settle.
Personally, I'm a freaky guy so I'm not going to be with someone who is not sexually compatible with me. If you too timid to touch me, then that's ok. Generally, GOOD sex is about compatibility on more than just a physical level.
You don't screw much, do you?
GOOD sex? You actually had to all caps the word? And yes I have had sex many times. And I think you vastly underrate how good sex can be with someone your as you put it, physically compatible with. And it's not about being too timid to touch the other person, it's about not wanting to touch the same person you've touched a hundred times before every day for the rest of your life.
This is why allot of marriages fail or why allot of people are so put off by the idea of it, because it seems like such a prison.
Well, while you're home watching football, I hope your wife is getting the ride of her life by her side man in his bed. Also, since you think laws suck, when you get splattered on the streets for speeding I hope you dont injure an innocent bystander and I hoep the ambulance take their time scraping you off the pavement.
Have fun in your lawless town.
Originally posted by chithappens
I guess not but how the hell would that work.If someone wanted to have sex with other people, why would they get married in the first place (excluding tax deductions)?
"I love you but I just want to **** her, her and her!" is pretty damn selfish. "Being human" is not an excuse. You want to be exclusive or you don't - that simple.
As Bardock pointed out the tax breaks are a pretty good reason. It's hardly selfish unless you say that the other person can't do the same. Obviously both parties would have to be fine with the idea which is what separates it from cheating or selfishness.
Originally posted by Ghostface00
Well, while you're home watching football, I hope your wife is getting the ride of her life by her side man in his bed. Also, since you think laws suck, when you get splattered on the streets for speeding I hope you dont injure an innocent bystander and I hoep the ambulance take their time scraping you off the pavement.Have fun in your lawless town.
I'm pretty sure Bardock, like most anarchists, very much enjoys the benefits of law and order even though he's ideologically opposed to them.
Originally posted by Ghostface00First of all, it is not breaking a law if both parties are cool with it.
Well, while you're home watching football, I hope your wife is getting the ride of her life by her side man in his bed. Also, since you think laws suck, when you get splattered on the streets for speeding I hope you dont injure an innocent bystander and I hoep the ambulance take their time scraping you off the pavement.Have fun in your lawless town.
And you are comparing manslaughter with screwing someone who you are not married to. One can be a victimless crime(it should be if both parties are fine with it), to one which is not.
Originally posted by Ghostface00
Well, while you're home watching football, I hope your wife is getting the ride of her life by her side man in his bed.
Also, since you think laws suck, when you get splattered on the streets for speeding I hope you dont injure an innocent bystander and I hoep the ambulance take their time scraping you off the pavement.Have fun in your lawless town.
Since when is it illegal?
Re: Should married people be allowed to sleep with other people?
Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
I had this discussion with a friend the other day, so I thought I would put it to you guys on here.My stance on this is yes. I actually know some couples that do this, they love each other and they stay with each other, they just get sexually bored of each other from time to time and have a little fun on the side. And those couples have stayed together for years longer then the monogamous ones I know have.
I think a huge problem in society today is that we put so much pressure and importance on sex. We get so stressed over it and make such a huge deal out of it that it ends up for allot of people taking the fun out of it.
I think as long as a person is safe and takes precautions and the other person in the relationship is fine with it then they should be allowed to occasionally have casual sex with other people.
But I do know there is other opinions out there and I want to hear them, so let's hear it guys, what do you think on this subject?
I know some people that do this as well. I believe some call it an open marriage. It seems to work for people who love each other but are not maybe in love with each other but like the friendship and stability of their marriage.
edit: Oh and there are some old laws on the books that would call it adultery and call it illegal.
Re: Re: Should married people be allowed to sleep with other people?
Originally posted by Deja~vu
I know some people that do this as well. I believe some call it an open marriage. It seems to work for people who love each other but are not maybe in love with each other but like the friendship and stability of their marriage.
Why can't you be in love with someone, and still have sex outside of the marriage?