Should married people be allowed to sleep with other people?

Originally posted by Blinky
Ok, ok, I get that monogamy isn't implied when speaking about marriage anymore. But I am asking what benefits marriage offers, besides tax breaks... I won't argue with anybody there. But given that 50% of marriages end in divorce... that probably gets cancelled out by legal fees anyways. What does marriage offer that merely dating someone for a long time does not?

Originally posted by Blinky
But given that 50% of marriages end in divorce.

Maybe if they were allowed to have some fun outside of the marriage once in a while that number would go down.

Originally posted by Phantom Zone
By the way does this happen because there is something inherently wrong with marriage or is it people tend to insincere and lack commitment generally?

Both, IMO.

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
Why does it have to offer anything? People love each other and want to live together, they just from time to time want to have sex outside the marriage. They just want to be married, there is no reason they shouldn't be.

Ok so... it really does not offer anything then, I agree. I want to see what other people have to say.

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
Why does it have to offer anything? People love each other and want to live together, they just from time to time want to have sex outside the marriage. They just want to be married, there is no reason they shouldn't be.

If that suits you and you have an agreement then nobody has a right to tell you what you are doing is wrong.

Im just saying that most people lack commitment and sincerety in every day things, why would marriage be any different? The problem may not be that they can't have sex with other people when married it could also be that they just aren't commited enough.

Originally posted by Blinky

Ok so... it really does not offer anything then, I agree. I want to see what other people have to say.

So your only interest in marriage is what you can gain from it? It's not about what it offers.

Originally posted by Phantom Zone

Im just saying that most people lack commitment and sincerety in every day things, why would marriage be any different? The problem may not be that they can't have sex with other people when married it could also be that they just aren't commited enough.

I think you can be committed to someone without necessarily being monogamous.

Originally posted by Blinky
Both, IMO.

Im inclined to think its lack of commitment. Hell its hard enough to find real friends let alone a good wife or husband. Human beings tend to be a disappointment regardless of wether it concerns marriage or not....what do you expect?

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix

I think you can be committed to someone without necessarily being monogamous.

You would probably be more committed if you were.

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
So your only interest in marriage is what you can gain from it? It's not about what it offers.

No it's just that I personally hate to partake in totally useless activities.

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
I think you can be committed to someone without necessarily being monogamous.

Originally posted by Bardock42
I agree, marriage shouldn't exist outside of personal rituals, like, for example, that ridiculous Christian stuff.

Was that sarcasm? I cant tell. *whimpers*

Originally posted by Blinky

Was that sarcasm? I cant tell. *whimpers*

Nope

Originally posted by Phantom Zone
Im inclined to think its lack of commitment. Hell its hard enough to find real friends let alone a good wife or husband. Human beings tend to be a disappointment regardless of wether it concerns marriage or not....what do you expect?

You would probably be more committed if you were.

No, you can be just as committed and still sleep with other people from time to time.

No it's just that I personally hate to partake in totally useless activities.

Marriage does not become useless simply because the people in it want to sleep with other people once in awhile.

I know that this has been said, but I believe that as long as the two people within the relationship feel that what they are doing is not cheating, they should continue doing whatever it is that makes them happy.

Key word here is cheating, I for one would not be able to share my wife with another man, and if she slept with someone else it would be cheating, fortunately we both feel the same way.

Title Correction should be this:

Should married people (who agree to have sex with other people) be allowed to sleep with other people?

Why is it people care so about defining things so strictly?

Originally posted by chithappens
Title Correction should be this:

Should married people (who agree to have sex with other people) be allowed to sleep with other people?

Originally posted by chithappens
Title Correction should be this:

Should married people (who agree to have sex with other people) be allowed to sleep with other people?

The title is fine and theres nothing that can be done about it now anyways.

Originally posted by Bardock42
I don't see where "allowing" comes in. Who would do that "allowing"?

"Accepting" is part of the topic. That's been my point.

This is just an excuse to rant about having sex with whomever you please if you agree and how society won't accept it, etc.

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
Why is it people care so about defining things so strictly?

When you offer a question, it must have a definition, otherwise it ends up becoming a statement and an excuse for illogical rambling.

Originally posted by chithappens
"Accepting" is part of the topic. That's been my point.

This is just an excuse to rant about having sex with whomever you please if you agree and how society won't accept it, etc.

When you offer a question, it must have a definition

Originally posted by chithappens
"Accepting" is part of the topic. That's been my point.

This is just an excuse to rant about having sex with whomever you please if you agree and how society won't accept it, etc.

When you offer a question, it must have a definition, otherwise it ends up becoming a statement and an excuse for illogical rambling. [/B]

There is nothing wrong with the question branching out into other areas. And my comments and those that agree with me have been perfectly logical and not at all rambling.

And "open" marriage can still be called marriage without the distinction. and I know couples who have gotten married and are fine with each other sleeping with other people.

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
Why shouldn't it be socially acceptable?

There is nothing wrong with the question branching out into other areas. And my comments and those that agree with me have been perfectly logical and not at all rambling.

And "open" marriage can still be called marriage without the distinction. and I know couples who have gotten married and are fine with each other sleeping with other people.

Sigh, stop being offended. You are not even reading what I said.

I said it is not socially acceptable not that "it should not be socially acceptable."

Also, you have to have the definition of whatever so sort of marriage "situation" so that we can properly discuss it; otherwise, it turns into a statement or an argument of semantics. That's all this has been so far.

If two people agree, then no shit it's ok. That's not how the topic reads.