Should married people be allowed to sleep with other people?

Started by Aster Phoenix24 pages

That's fine but only a handful of people have an issue with the topic title, which I cannot change at this point anyways.

And I don't think it's an issue of semantics at all. A marriage where the couple each have sex with someone else is still a marriage in every sense of the word.

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
The title is fine and theres nothing that can be done about it now anyways.

Would you be fine with another man giving your wife the good goodies?

Let's also consider diseases when you answer, as well as the strange fact that the human body was not designed to filter out diseases.... hey but whatever right?

I mean whomever you sleep with will be with you for the rest of your life. Take these things into consideration when you answer ok, and the idea of possibly sleeping with a few thousand people everytime you trip and fall into some strange pussy.

Originally posted by CaptainStoic
Would you be fine with another man giving your wife the good goodies?

Yes, Sex does not always mean love, nor does it have to.

Let's also consider diseases when you answer, as well as the strange fact that the human body was not designed to filter out diseases.... hey but whatever right?

Thats just a matter of using proper protection and making sure you know the medical history of your sexual partner, its actually irrelevant to this topic.

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
Yes, Sex does not always mean love, nor does it have to.

Thats just a matter of using proper protection and making sure you know the medical history of your sexual partner, its actually irrelevant to this topic.

Do you know the meaning of Murphy's Law?

As irrelevant as an STD may seem to you, I think that it is very much relevant. All angles need to be seen in a topic like this one. Then again STD's were irrelevant to all of the millions of people who have died contracting AIDS on a sexual level right?

You think that it's fine to sleep with other women, and don't see it as a faux pas... as long as your mate feels the same as you do keep it moving friend.

If your mate thinks it's wrong, and you wind up giving them the cooties then your misery will be well deserved. Not trying to stir up shyt with you pal, but in reality there are many people who hate sharing.

It is a subject that needs to be talked between each other..

Re: Should married people be allowed to sleep with other people?

I believe C.S. Lewis stated it the best

Excerpt from "The Problem of Pain"

"One critic said that if he found a country in which such
striptease acts with food were popular, he would conclude that
the people of that country were starving. He meant, of course, to
imply that such things as the strip-tease act resulted not from
sexual corruption but from sexual starvation. I agree with him
that if, in some strange land, we found that similar acts with
mutton chops were popular, one of the possible explanations
which would occur to me would be famine.

But the next step would be to test our hypothesis by finding out whether, in fact, much or little food was being consumed in that country. If the evidence showed that a good deal was being eaten, then of course we should have to abandon the hypothesis of starvation and try to think of another one. In the same way, before accepting sexual starvation as the cause of the strip- tease, we should have to look for evidence that there is in fact more sexual abstinence in our age than in those ages when things like the strip- tease were unknown. But surely there is no such evidence. Contraceptives have made sexual indulgence far less costly within marriage and far safer outside it than ever before, and public opinion is less hostile to illicit unions and even to perversion than it has been since Pagan times. Nor is the hypothesis of "starvation" the only one we can imagine. Everyone knows that the sexual appetite, like our other appetites, grows by indulgence. Starving men may think much about food, but so do gluttons; the gorged, as well as the famished, like titillations."

Originally posted by CaptainStoic
Do you know the meaning of Murphy's Law?

As irrelevant as an STD may seem to you, I think that it is very much relevant. All angles need to be seen in a topic like this one. Then again STD's were irrelevant to all of the millions of people who have died contracting AIDS on a sexual level right?

As long as you use protection and know your partners background, yes it is irrelevant.

You think that it's fine to sleep with other women, and don't see it as a faux pas... as long as your mate feels the same as you do keep it moving friend.

Thanks, it's always good to have moral support.

it depends on the type of marriage. if its an open marriage, go ahead. but dont if it isnt. on the other hand, i think marriage=commitment. u shudnt really get married if u wanna sleep with other people, just have an open relationship instead.

But why is sleeping with someone else not being committed if the other person is fine with it?

If your a good husband, you help out, your their for your wife when she needs help love and support, then why are you not committed?

I don't think you should sleep with anyone else other than your spouse. But if other couples feel different, I'm not gonna shake my finger at them and tell them they are wrong. I think that sleeping with someone else other than your spouse would ruin a marriage completely. Marriage is a commitment to ONE PERSON and one person only for the rest of your lives.

polyamory anyone?

If the couple are both okay with it, then I don't see a problem at all. As for the actual being allowed bit, what's that all about?

Originally posted by chillmeistergen
As for the actual being allowed bit, what's that all about?

some people can't let others have fun

so chilly, your hottub or mine 😉

Originally posted by chillmeistergen
If the couple are both okay with it, then I don't see a problem at all. As for the actual being allowed bit, what's that all about?

Excuse for a rant. That's all

Originally posted by inimalist
some people can't let others have fun

so chilly, your hot tub or mine 😉

You have a hot tub?

I'm booking my flights now.

Originally posted by chillmeistergen
You have a hot tub?

I'm booking my flights now.

actually, no, i was hoping you would...

Oh and another thing. If you are so tired of the sex life between you and your husband/wife that you have to go and sleep with someone else...I think that is sad.

Originally posted by BlackSunshine
Oh and another thing. If you are so tired of the sex life between you and your husband/wife that you have to go and sleep with someone else...I think that is sad.

What would you do if you still loved your husband, you had a great family/life together, but the sex he was giving you failed and failed some more?

Originally posted by Aster Phoenix
Because they love each other and want to spend time together, whether or not that means time in bed every day for the rest of their lives is a different matter.

Which begs the question, "If you do not want or intend to forsake all others, then why be married?"

Originally posted by Adam_PoE
Which begs the question, "If you do not want or intend to forsake all others, then why be married?"

Tax...benefits.