Originally posted by atv2
So I have to practically shake myself twirl and stroke, shake myself twirl and stroke and shake myself again, twirl and stroke. AAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!NICE DONT CUT IT HUH? IT DOESNT? SO IM PRACTICALLY A SCREECHED LEVELED PUPPY DOG FREAK WHO'S ONLY GOOD ENOUGH FOR FRIENDSHIP EH EH EH!!!!?????
OF ALL THE RESEARCH THAT IVE DONE, OF ALL THE MESS THAT IVE WENT THROUGH, WOMEN QUITTING ON ME FOR NO FREAKIN REASON,,, WHY BECAUSE I WAS TOO NICE..??????......
I GOT TO BECOME THIS ARROGANT OBNOXIOUS PRICK TO WIN ME OVER A RELATIONSHIP.?????!!!!
ALL THIS STUFF THAT YA'LL HAVE DESCRIBED TO ME IS A SCAR IN MY LIFE DOWN FROM CHILDHOOD.. I DONT WANT TO BECOME THAT KIND OF GUY. I'M TIRED OF SEEING WOMEN GETTING HURT. IM TIRED OF THE TROUBLEMAKERS GETTIN IT FIRST AND THE TROUBLEFIXERS GOING LAST.
I WANT TO BE A MAN THAT WOMEN CAN TRUST, I WANT TO HAVE FUN BUT THEY GOT TO BE WILLING TO HAVE FUN WITH ME. I WANT A WOMAN TO LIKE ME FOR WHO I AM. IT'S HARD, I DONT KNOW WHEN IT WILL HAPPEN. I PRAYED FOR IT, I TRIED TO BE THE BEST I CAN BE BUT IT SEEMS LIKE IT IS NOT ENOUGH. I JUST GET TO ENDURE SUFFERING, JUST MORE SUFFERING THAT'S WHAT I GET TO SEE. I WANT IT TO END SOON BUT IT SEEMS NEVERENDING.
THERE'S GOT TO BE A WAY OUT OF THIS!!!!!!!
so you fly off the handle because people tell you the truth...and you dont want to hear it...that it's not a problem with the women...it's a problem with you
but if you're going to be a "nice guy" then the fact is all you're going to get in the long run is friendship
as for all the stuff about some women wanting money...it's true...my cousin is a store manager for an exclusive food chain in the UK...he wears sharp suits to work...is young...reasonably good looking guy...his store is in the area of Manchester where alot of celebrities and footballers live...he goes to the bars around his work and gets chatted up by women all the time...as soon as he says he runs a food shop...they laugh and walk away
some people are just like that
another fact...i used to be the guy that could never get passed the "just friends" stage until i was schooled by one of my closest female friends....her words were something as follows
"you're just too...nice...take that guy over there (we were in a bar)..you can tell he's an ******* just by the way he carries himself...and that is sooo hot"
like i said...if you cant be an *******...be a comedian....i'm what can only be described as an ugly fat bastard of a man....yet i bedded one of the hottest women i know by sitting and having a great laugh with her one night....got her in a taxi home...next minute she's tearing my clothes off
so....*******....or comedian....your choice
their not the only choices, the guy wants a real women and a real relationship, so he should be a nice guy if he wants that if he can find a nice women, thing is finding a nice women amongst all the fake tarts who get spat out of their little childhood "hey girlfriend ime so populour arrogent queen" dreams is pretty damn difficult, simply test them with things that may weaken their boundries to find if their fake tarts if its not obvious right away.
Try to be what people expect you to be. By genetic fluke I have a body type that makes me look like an athlete even when I don't spend any time getting in shape. Unfortunately I'm also a complete geek, which has ended up meaning I attract girls that have nothing in common with me and are morons half the time. I've never had the energy to go and actually get in shape so the moment the question of "so what did you do over the weekend" comes up I'm faced with lying (which I do poorly) or talking about things most people don't even know exist.
Of course I've also got crippling levels of depression, social anxiety, limited self-perception and completely lack of empathy unless I take a great deal of time to decipher what the hell people are actually trying to say.
I haven't read any of the other posts, but will put my 30 million in anywhoo. Read the invisible manual (ya know, the one that is referred too and doesn't exist..lol). It's called make her feel special, missed, needed and that her views are just as important as yours. If not then in time, she'll dump you if she has good self view of herself.
This is only if the chemistry is right. If it is not, then still there could be great friendship. Not all that you want will be yours. Sometimes personalities don't quite mesh.
Oh and a BIG THING, DON'T ACT NEEDY!!
Originally posted by Deja~vu
I haven't read any of the other posts, but will put my 30 million in anywhoo. Read the invisible manual (ya know, the one that is referred too and doesn't exist..lol). It's called make her feel special, missed, needed and that her views are just as important as yours. If not then in time, she'll dump you if she has good self view of herself.This is only if the chemistry is right. If it is not, then still there could be great friendship. Not all that you want will be yours. Sometimes personalities don't quite mesh.
Oh and a BIG THING, DON'T ACT NEEDY!!
Essentially, you just advised the kid to find a woman with a low self-esteem and keep her that way. Good job.
Originally posted by RobtardNo I didn't. I advised him to treat her how he would like to be treated.
Essentially, you just advised the kid to find a woman with a low self-esteem and keep her that way. Good job.
It's called make her feel special, missed, needed and that her views are just as important as yours.