Re: Re: Re: What are some things that I need to know about women?
Originally posted by atv2
Thanks but I would like to have a little optimism with their looks even in 5 years. I have family that have been together for more than ten years, 20 years, and they look very good. I would like to believe that my wife will look excellent across time. Money, I want to be the one supporting my family, I don't want my wife doing all of the work. I want to reduce as much stress on her as I can. I want her to have the best life that she always wanted, that comes at a cost. At the same time, I want her to be with me. That is the problem that I have had for a long time. I have been as committed as I can be but the appreciation they should have had for me went to other man. Their heart were on other men. I did not fit their picture, there was always some other guy that had it better than I did, were very attractive, good with the ladies, it did not matter if the man worked their nerves, it did not matter if they broke their heart. They needed that struggle to tell a good story to their friends, Did what I have to offer mean anything? I could have independence, I could have these things but I don't have her with me, supporting me. I am tired of being lonely, I'm tired of losing sleep at night wondering if she cares, Im tired of them quitting on me, Im through with them turning against me. Im tired of being low person on the list for no reason at all. Im tired of feeling like an animal and a freak. Why is it like this?
Looks naturally play a part initially cause that’s were attraction lies. (I know, I love beautiful women too.) But don’t think she gonna look good forever. And even if she surprisingly stays hot you’re still eventually gonna get used to her appearance as if she was normal looking. I heard someone say, I forget when and where I heard it, but he said (and in paraphrasing): “show me the most beautiful girl in the world and I’ll show you the guy who’s tired of fcuking her.” So don’t kill yourself trying to get a coke bottle doll face. That lust passion’ll leave sooner than you think. You can try, and if you land one, good. Just make sure she’s got more than a cute face to offer.
And you not wanting her to work is understandable. You’re old fashioned. Nothing wrong with that. If you can afford to be the sole bread winner of your family, especially in these dire financial times, then have at it. But do not hold her back if she wants to work. Especially if she’s gone to school for what she wants to do. Denying her that right will cause her to be resentful and bitter. And there’s nothing worse than that type of woman or having a wife like that, I’m assuming.
And you seem too love struck. (*wake up!) You’re not too extra nice to ladies are you? That can be a big turn off to women most of the time. You have to be confident. You shouldn’t need a woman. And she/they should know that. Women like confident guys and dislike clingy, desperate, and insecure guys.
And you can’t sleep and you think you’re a freak? Well you’re not one and you can go to sleep. You’re not low or an animal. You’re a regular dude, a man, whom needs to knock it off. I don’t know how old you are but soon enough you’ll know that women, relationships, and marriage are way overrated. I just hope you don’t find out when it’s too late.
Loneliness/privacy or being on your own can be good sometimes. You get to do a lot of stuff you normally can’t do if you have a girlfriend. You can go see any movie at the theatres you want at anytime you want, play video game for as long as you want, go to sleep at anytime you want. Go in and out of the house anytime you want and all without being questioned. You can hang out as late as you want, you can go on many dates and chase as much tail as you want, and best of all you can keep (and spend) all the money you earn, according to you, and not give it to another girl for free, essentially paying her to humor you, if you don’t want to. You get to focus on business endeavors or work and concentrate on nicely saving money for that car, house, or condo. You can even buy one. Your own place that no woman’ll ever kick you outta! The icing is that taking care of business like that attracts women of kinds because it oozes independence which seeps confidence, automatically. You’ll attract the good the bad and the ugly. Just then, use your judgment and pick the right one.
So just remember, you don’t need women as much as the media and societal pressures tell you you do. You need to eat. You need to sleep, to burp, exercise, you need to make money, but you don’t need a woman. You might want a woman, in the way you may want some new sneakers, that magazine subscription, those concert tickets, or todays special at your local restaurant. But need, cmon..
Originally posted by FistOfThe North
you can't live without im but you can't live without you too."God helps those whom help themselves."
It's tough Man! Pursuing dreams come at a cost. Being with the wife who Ive always desired happens to be that dream and it comes at a cost. God helps those who obey not just help themselves.
Originally posted by atv2
It's tough Man! Pursuing dreams come at a cost. Being with the wife who Ive always desired happens to be that dream and it comes at a cost. God helps those who obey not just help themselves.
god also doesn't give you more than you can handle. Besides, Man up!Men do tough. It's what we're built for.
And you're right, pursuing a dream does (rightfully) come at a cost which is risk. So Wake Up! And take risks. Do both. Obey and take risks. and you'll se how fast she'll show up.
God will gift you the woman of your dreams when you're ready. When He thinks you're ready. Right now you're not ready. You seem too mentally instable and too desperate to have someone now. Right now you have qualities that would repel any ("dream"😉 woman.
A woman's like a kitten. You can't hold onto her too tight cuse you'll suffocate her and kill her. But you can hold her too loosely an she'll fall right outta your palms, hit the floor and die. You have to hld her just right.
When you (genuinely) do the direct opposite of what you're doing, while implementing some patience, you'll be ready then. Until then, try getting fixed upstairs. That's where i'd start..
Originally posted by atv2
Let me be more specific, what are some of difficulties that I will have to overcome with a woman in a relationship/marriage?
Hi there, i am an engaged woman, just popped in to see what these men had to tell you, some obviously have no idea!
Never hit a women, as one suggested you do if we don't listen, if you do most of us will run away!
Just be yourself, and treat us with respect and take things slowly, we don't like being pressured into things, so start off as friends and see how it goes.
Hope i have been of some help?
Originally posted by ~Mel1974~
Hi there, i am an engaged woman, just popped in to see what these men had to tell you, some obviously have no idea!
Never hit a women, as one suggested you do if we don't listen, if you do most of us will run away!
Just be yourself, and treat us with respect and take things slowly, we don't like being pressured into things, so start off as friends and see how it goes.
Hope i have been of some help?
NERD RUSH! GO!
What you need to know:
If a girl says nothing's wrong, that means that everything's wrong.
When a girl says everything's wrong, that means that EVERYTHING'S wrong.
And if a girl says something's funny, you better not laugh your ass off.
Originally posted by ~Mel1974~
Hi there, i am an engaged woman, just popped in to see what these men had to tell you, some obviously have no idea!
Never hit a women, as one suggested you do if we don't listen, if you do most of us will run away!
Just be yourself, and treat us with respect and take things slowly, we don't like being pressured into things, so start off as friends and see how it goes.
Hope i have been of some help?
I agree with everything, whats funny is that you say you dont like being pressured but usually its the women who once in a relationship pressures into marriage/children etc etc
What about gender roles and how they like to use it only when it conveniences them.
Like when they wanna be treated equal yet expect us to pay for and buy them any and everything they want for free without question, open their doors and treat them like ladies. It's like fcukin' "pick one". Do you want equality? Do you want me to treat you the same way I treat men? Or my guy friends?, or do you want me to treat you like a lady. Pick one cause it can be both.
Originally posted by ~Mel1974~
Hi there, i am an engaged woman, just popped in to see what these men had to tell you, some obviously have no idea!
Never hit a women, as one suggested you do if we don't listen, if you do most of us will run away!
Just be yourself, and treat us with respect and take things slowly, we don't like being pressured into things, so start off as friends and see how it goes.
Hope i have been of some help?
Thank you very much! That's exactly what I needed.
OK. Noob question... I already know I fail at life, so lay off me.
My GF and I were planning 2 see the new batman movie last night, but then she cancelled, and she wasn't at school today. I'm guessing its something like a death, cause she didn't return my call, so the question is: Do I ask her about it? or do I let her wait and tell me when she wants. My Friday night is kinda (totally) ****ed up 'cause she's got her phone turned off.
I don't wanna say it... Is this cheating behavior?[/insecure_needy]
Originally posted by chillmeistergen
If I were your girlfriend, I'd hate to be going out with someone who's so massively paranoid. Don't make a big deal over something so little, it makes you seem like a pathetic loser who doesn't trust her.
OK... Ok. I was really just venting about being stuck @ home tonight. Time to take the dog around and pop in a movie.
Originally posted by Red Nemesis
OK... Ok. I was really just venting about being stuck @ home tonight. Time to take the dog around and pop in a movie.
Do you not have any friends beside your girlfriend? If so, give them a call and hit the town or whatever. If not, you probably ought to think about getting some.
Originally posted by chillmeistergen
Do you not have any friends beside your girlfriend? If so, give them a call and hit the town or whatever. If not, you probably ought to think about getting some.
They're all @ the football game, which I didn't buy tickets for, so i'm stuck here for at least another 45 minutes (game's nearly over)
Aren't I allowed to be just a little bit emo over the intraweb? Its not like you have to spaz out over every post here. I'm detecting more than a little animosity in your post(s). I'm gonna be gone soon, so feel free to bash me when I'm gone, but seriously, chill out.