Originally posted by truejedi
So I think land acknowledgements are silly. That's pretty much what sparked this thread.My two cents on pronouns: I don't think they/them is silly, but I did hear someone say the other day that "at this point, I know people who are getting my pronouns wrong at this point don't care about gender inequality*. And that frustrated me a bit, because I'm only going to know someone's pronouns if I actually care about them. It's just an extra piece of information to remember about someone when there are plenty of people out there who I'm lucky to remember their names, if that makes sense...
It isn't that I don't care about gender inequality, I just don't care about YOU enough to care how you identify, if that makes sense. There are plenty of people I interact with everyday that I don't know well enough to care about what they identify as. I don't need to know and don't care one way or another. But by insisting on proper pronoun usage from people who are essentially strangers-- I just don't get it. I'm careful and happy to use proper pronouns with my friends, but as far as daily acquaintances that I don't know, and don't care to know, it seems like pronouns shouldn't come up. I hope I've explained that well. I don't know anything about you, why are pronouns important at that point? I've had people whose name I don't even remember correct me on pronouns... Like if I don't care enough to remember your name, why should I remember your pronouns? I'm always going to try, I'm not using incorrect pronouns on purpose, ever, but chances are if I get it wrong, it simply doesn't matter to me how you identify, so it never crosses my mind, I guess.
Land acknowledgements are silly in of themselves, but they also don't bother me. If I go to a beach and there's a sign that reads "we acknowledge and respect that this beach historically belonged to *insert name* tribe", it's fine; I'm not going to start screaming "liberal wokeness!" like some unhinged Rightist.
In regards to pronouns, that's where intent comes in. If you legit just don't remember that someone is now a "she" when they were born a "he", especially someone you barely know, that's not a sin. If they attack you for it, that's their problem.
If you're doing it on purpose to be offensive to the person, then you're just a c*nt. eg The Far-Right hero Jordan Peterson made a lucrative career for himself because saying "she" instead of "he" to a given person was just too upsetting and off-putting to his feelings. When it reality saying "she" cost him nothing.