Actually phycologists have found that hitting children solves nothing, usually it only makes matters worse, seeing as it gives children some attention, which is what children want usually when they misbehave. So, say a child does something wrong and the parent comes and starts hitting them or spanking them, the child will see that as an act of love and attention, and will continue to misbehave more and more so that they can continue to get that type of attention. This is especially bad when the parents ignore children when acting good, but start to yell and give them negative attention when they are being a brat. It will only give them more reason to act up more and more, so that the parents will continue giving them attention.
Physical discipline is always a sign of sloppy, lazy parenting and should be avoided at all times. There are better ways (both morally and in that they work better) to punish/discipline children. The best thing to do if you're child is acting up is to ignore them completely. Give them NO attention, that's the biggest punishment you can give a kid.
Hitting doesn't work on kids any more than grounding them. My parents used to hit me when I was bad and of course I didn't like it but it was a quick thing.. one two and it's over. It never hurt to the point where it really made me think about changing my behavior.. but when they would ground me... I had to sit around and do nothing all day. That just drove me crazy. So from a kids point of view I think grounding them is worse as long as you take away anything fun they would be doing while they are grounded (tv, toys, whatever).
Originally posted by BackFire
Actually phycologists have found that hitting children solves nothing, usually it only makes matters worse, seeing as it gives children some attention, which is what children want usually when they misbehave. So, say a child does something wrong and the parent comes and starts hitting them or spanking them, the child will see that as an act of love and attention, and will continue to misbehave more and more so that they can continue to get that type of attention. This is especially bad when the parents ignore children when acting good, but start to yell and give them negative attention when they are being a brat. It will only give them more reason to act up more and more, so that the parents will continue giving them attention.Physical discipline is always a sign of sloppy, lazy parenting and should be avoided at all times. There are better ways (both morally and in that they work better) to punish/discipline children. The best thing to do if you're child is acting up is to ignore them completely. Give them NO attention, that's the biggest punishment you can give a kid.
This is true...kids act up because they want attention. If you ignore them they may get worse initially, but eventually will give up.
Well not all kids are the same, speaking generally, you are an exception.
Regaurdless, the fact remains, hitting your kids is the sign of poor, lazy and sloppy parenting and should best be avoided.
Also, kids who are spanked by their parents are more likely to grow up "rebelious" and become bullies during school.
Originally posted by BackFire
Well not all kids are the same, speaking generally, you are an exception.Regaurdless, the fact remains, hitting your kids is the sign of poor, lazy and sloppy parenting and should best be avoided.
Also, kids who are spanked by their parents are more likely to grow up "rebelious" and become bullies during school.
Wow....
Tell me, what did YOUR parents do when you were "bad", BackFire? Let you be? 🙄
Originally posted by ARC Trooper 117
No they won't.....😕
Spanking DOES work, because I was..."afraid", if you will, to do something "bad" because I didn't want to get spanked.Same with my kids....when I have them. 😈
In general, though, kids will stop acting up when they realize that they're not getting any attention.
(I'm a psych major 😖mart: )
Punishment is generally ineffective, especially negative punishment (i.e., spanking) because the child will almost certainly do it again when he or she cannot be caught. Positive and negative reinforcement, however, are much more effective for promoting positive behavior and discouraging negative behavior.
No. I have a very large, intimidating father, so when he'd get mad that was more then enough to frighten me into behaving, most of the time.
Most of the time my dad would just say "Okay, you have untill 10 to stop that, or else." And he'd look really angry and scary to me, so I'd stop as he counted.
However, if I persisted to be a brat they'd take somethign away from me that I enjoyed, such as video games, TV or friends for a while.