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Just like no two people are the same...no two children are the same.
For anyone to think that there is a clear cut way to raise a child properly is just narrow minded ignorance.
Some children will react to increased levels of anger and the occasional spanking more positively than others. The important thing a child needs to understand is that they were spanked because they were acting inappropriately and that the attention they recieve as a result of that is not a good thing. The child also needs to understand that even though their parents do this....it doesn't mean they are any less loved.
I agree that in the vast majority of cases it is important to be able to talk to your child about their behavior as oppose to resorting to physical violence, but children are immature and in many cases not rational.
My personal belief is that a spanking or a show of anger similar to past scenarios where the child had previously been spanked can work to stop the child's behavior dead in it's tracks, at the time. But anytime a method like that is used, I feel it is the parents responsibility to explain the rights and wrongs of both party's in a dual effort to avoid those situations in the future.
Just beating your children and telling them "NO!" is lazy and poor parenting. The child needs to understand that how they were acting was wrong. Using positive reinforcement by rewarding good behavior is an excellent way to prevent bad behavior before it starts.
But all this rambling isn't what's important. i think what's most important is that people need to understand that there is no one right way to raise all children. That kind of mentality is similar in nature to the U.S.'s belief that democracy is THE way to run a country.