Teenagers and Sex

Originally posted by Morbid4Daniel
I get where your coming from but next to "What you call the most important stuff to learn" you also have to learn about STD's, AIDS, and you DO learn about condoms and how to apply them. Now I know its good to earn your loved one's trust and for them to earn yours, but think about their previous partners (if they've had any), what if they had sex with them and caught a STD?

They don't teach you that stuff in school. They tell you you're supposed to wait until you're married, and stay with that partner forever. That's not necessarily a bad thing to teach, but that's not how the world works. Schools are so slow when it comes to evolving with the times. They don't teach you how to apply a condom, where to get birth control, any of that. All they do is try to scare you with all the talk about STDs and AIDS. And they show you that video from the 80s about how to check for cancer. Schools have got to accept the fact that abstinence "education" does not work.

Yes they do. Or at least over here they do. I remember learning of it in 8th grade, actually.

We get a brief lesson in the sixth year ... but thats because our bodies are being a change then we learn more about sex in year 8 ... by that time half of them have done it all ready its shocking ..... some all ready have kids before they have proper sex education

yea

You guys are wayyy over analyzing this whole 13 yrs old vs. 16 years old issue.

Screw legality...16 year olds are just flat out hot.

Girls are in their prime from 16-22. After that they're like day old bread...good, just not fresh.

😆 😆 ❌ funny but no link... i pray you dont believe in one of my friends philosophies too, too young to talk too young to tell.

Oh, I don't hook up with 16 year olds. I haven't done that since I was like 18...and I'm 22 now.

But that doesn't change the fact that 16 year olds are hot as hell.

ya but look at it 13 and 16.... thats not a right combo there. and at 16 you still arent fully developed. youre still growing, and granted people still have sex at that age. but do u really think theyre mature to understand the emotions involved. all theyre thinking about is how good it feels. And its an awesome feeling, but theres more involved than just heavy breathing and grunting.

Originally posted by Jeff_Atello
They don't teach you that stuff in school. They tell you you're supposed to wait until you're married, and stay with that partner forever. That's not necessarily a bad thing to teach, but that's not how the world works. Schools are so slow when it comes to evolving with the times. They don't teach you how to apply a condom, where to get birth control, any of that. All they do is try to scare you with all the talk about STDs and AIDS. And they show you that video from the 80s about how to check for cancer. Schools have got to accept the fact that abstinence "education" does not work.

They taught us all that stuff in school, about STDs and AIDs and using protection, etc.

Originally posted by a1hsauce
ya but look at it 13 and 16.... thats not a right combo there. and at 16 you still arent fully developed. youre still growing, and granted people still have sex at that age. but do u really think theyre mature to understand the emotions involved. all theyre thinking about is how good it feels. And its an awesome feeling, but theres more involved than just heavy breathing and grunting.

Fast forward 5 years...

Nothing changed. 😉

Originally posted by Linkalicious
Fast forward 5 years...

Nothing changed. 😉

5 years from 16 you are fully developed, you are, barring any traumatizing experiences, are fully mature mentally and emotionally. theres a big difference between 16 and 21

I'm missing the part where you draw the connection between emotions and sex...

sex is exercise.

ya u do get good cardio

Originally posted by a1hsauce
ya but look at it 13 and 16.... thats not a right combo there. and at 16 you still arent fully developed. youre still growing, and granted people still have sex at that age. but do u really think theyre mature to understand the emotions involved. all theyre thinking about is how good it feels. And its an awesome feeling, but theres more involved than just heavy breathing and grunting.

At 16, it was about more than that for me.

They taught us all that stuff in school, about STDs and AIDs and using protection, etc.

Like I said, I do live in Texas...

naw swimming is way better cardio than sex. And you can swim with mutiple partners without anyone getting jealous 😉

I think mj23 is on to something.... sex in the water.

I can vouch for it being both interesting and good exercise.

Multiple partners? I'll have to work on making that happen.

Problem is, you have to get some sort of leverage or else it'll be a waste of time and energy.

Well I lost my virginity at 15...hasnt done me any wrong

^ You got lucky then.

Not directed at anybody, this is just my opinion (hell the only posts I even read were the very 1st and Coop's last one): I had sex at age 17 with my ex-gf who was also 17. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't take it back and I would do it again. But it was wrong of us. There is a reason why 18 is good age to start having sex. It is simple: SCHOOL! If you get pregnant before 18, you will most likely still be in high school when the child is born. Nobody is seriously ready for kids while they are still in school and don't have their own lives figured out yet. If you dropped out of school, you definitely are too immature to start having kids while you are still a teenager. Don't give me this "it was safe sex" bull crap either. Safe is not 100%. I'm sick of people getting abortions because they "aren't prepared." If you aren't prepared, DON'T HAVE SEX!

It depends on the state of sex ed in the society.

Schools teach kids from the beginning (rationally, say, 12 or 13) about safe sex and the benefits and fail-safe aspects of abstinence, not pressing one or the other as it is their choice. Not a teacher's and sure as hell not the government's. Teach both sides of the coin and make sure they know early on that they need not be afraid to go to the public health center and get a few condoms, or purchase any of the numerous methods of female contraceptives. (depo, pill, etc)

If this is achieved, then the rate of abortions will go down. This is not up for debate, logic dictates that if a teenager knows and is comfortable with the usage of contraceptives and measures to prevent diseases, then abortions will decline. If she's taking the depo shot every 3 months and he's using a condom every time, chances are great -- what, like 98-99%? -- that a pregnancy will not occur. If for some reason the condom breaks, then there's RU-480, a.k.a. the Morning After Pill, which can be taken up to 72 hours after sex.

If teens are taught of the resources available to them, and taught of the pros and cons of sex and abstinence, then they, as teenagers, will have the knowledge available to them, they cannot help but make a -- at least relatively -- educated decision about whether or not to become sexually active. They're not screwing the family dog, they're not raping ducks by the lake, they're doing something that is usually a private matter and it shouldn't be the parents', nor the governments, nor anyone else's business.

I too think it’s wrong … in fact: very wrong …. But then again: if you sometimes look on teenage girls age 12 – 13 … we have this girl in the neighborhood – she’s got bigger boobs than I have and she looks like 16 – 17 (easy) … and I never saw her with boys who’d match a 13 … always older guys …

I think the ball should go back to the parents – or anyone responsible for the education and advice.