Re: Re: I want a new boyfriend!!!
Originally posted by Capt_Fantastic
Sex is very important. At least it is to me. Good sex is an excellent foundation, but a relationship has to have more than just great sex... great sex by the way is nothing less than headboard breaking, hair pulling, sweat flying that culminates is a crescendo of ecstasy and body fluids. Accept no substitutes.
You cut and pasted this from the "Humans having sex with Animals" thread, didn't you??
I like this girl named Amanda, ALOT. She is 15 and I am 20. Now, when you're old and decrepit, barely having control over your bowel movement, this won't seem like anything at all, but at the moment it looks "wierd" and "creepy" and maybe even "perverted". (Though if you met me you'd know I have the sexual drive of a pope..)
So, I wait, hell I'm not even sure if she likes me the same way. I enjoy the time we spend together, and I give her love advise based on the creeps that ask her out. Sure I'm bias, but I'm not an idiot nor do I want to see her suffer. I tell her the truth. "Guys run on impulses, they'll lie and play dumb mindgames on you to think them special, cause they want you to feel for them like they feel for you" she responds "well he's being mornic and it's pissing me off!" well, now you know why there's so many lesbians Amanda lol!
But seriously, to me age does not matter. But love is a very powerful thing, and as a practicing witch I know power has to be taken with tremendous responsibility.. You should deffinitly plan ahead what you want to do, what your priorities are, and everything. Afterall, it isn't just your life who's effected by this..
People ask me if i'm such a badass witch why I don't just put a love-spell on Amanda sense I like her ALOT. I'm not going to give the bullcrap of free will and all that other lame stuff. The reality is if spells were that wonderful, you think guys like Hitler would've exsisted? Do you think as many assholes and as problems would exsist as they do today? Spells are like prayers only with more cosmetics and less holding hands..
Linkalicious> "Gorgeous, smart, and a hell of a conversationalist.....and you're looking for advice?" Wow, thanks. And, yes, I am. Looking for advice that is¡K
Don¡'t take advice from other people? I think I know what you mean, but you see¡K I¡¦ve been through SOME men in my life, and until know I've always ended up pulling my hair out, throwing my arms in the air and leave.
In this day and age, where we use and abuse things (and people unfortunately), I've come to the realisation that I look for the wrong kind of man. What ever it is I THINK I want is not what I really want¡K
And after a long marriage I need to get out and start the tantrum of flirting and stuff again.
So therefore I need to know how to
Debbiejo> Well, no harm done in looking, is there? My friends always tell me, I don't know a guy is flirting with me, even if he¡¦s in front of my face.
A usual night out with the girlie-crew:
Friend A: "Woaw, Omega, he REALLY liked you!"
Me: "Who? THAT guy?"
Friend B: "Yes, he was totally flirting with you."
ME: "THAT guy? What¡K no, he was just asking to buy me a drink."
(General hitting me with bags ensues).
PVS> Thank you. 🙂
Yes, love is totally irrational, what is a scientist like me supposed to do?? Can't make an equation, can't calculate, can't rationalise it...
Well, no problem with getting laid. I AM gorgeous and all that¡K But eventually that gets empty, and simply a way for adults to get self-confirmation. Then it's hollow..
I can only agree on the fact, that if people live a lie about love then they're blinding themselves and worse... lying to themselves. I can see the difference in the couples I know, between those who KNOW love, and those who have settled for less. I cannot do the latter... I'm just not very good with irrational (flashes uni-degree as excuse...)...
I'm not very good at staring at the mobile-phone for five minutes, waiting for that sweetest, most handsome and great guy to reply¡K in a way I forgot to expect...
Bardock> Being in love is like being insane. My best friend once made that comparison. What don't we DO when we're in love? The most foolish things...
Mechmoggy> 😆
Sometimes just one post is enough to remind me, why I love this forum¡K despite the hassle when people CAN'T see eye to eye...
GCG>"well if the guy is a total stranger, you cannot just lasoo him off the kerb and into your house"
😆 What? Why not?
"....Is this someone in particular at Work, A shop, A neighbour or a close friend ?"
Well, truth be told... there are two! Both are friends of mine, known them for years... Both are currently single (one in the middle of a divorce)... I've flirted with both... But this is a looooonger story... and it is complicated...
Backfire> It's not soon... I think. My husband and I separated almost a year ago, and while I've enjoyed the last year as a single woman with all the benefits that entails... I know in my heart that I'd like someone to take me into his arms and whisper sweet words in my ear, someone to share my life with...
About being direct. Well... In these two cases it is NOT that easy, because the gents in question are not complete strangers. And I am not sure exactly what I feel either... But as one of them once said to me, "If you think there's an opportunity over there, then GO over there and check it out."
Fly to California? 🙂
Well, maybe I do that one day¡K I've never been to CA, but I've heard it should be a cool place to VISIT! I have visited friends from I've met on the INET, and you're one of those people I wouldn't be scared to meet.
Capt> There are TWO guys... They won't disappear right now, and maybe BadKitty is right and I should wait.. But they're just... (twirls hair and looks weird)... I know what sex with one of them is like, and that was pretty damn amazing... It was just supposed to be fun, a friend I'd had for years, with me going "Hm, he's actually a handsome guy, easy, not too bright, but hey, let's seduce him," But afterwards I actually got to KNOW the guy and he's a damn lot more interesting than I originally thought¡K
The other is my martial arts instructor! ... Yeah, yeah...
But that's the way love goes... or...
Originally posted by The Omega
GCG>"well if the guy is a total stranger, you cannot just lasoo him off the kerb and into your house"
😆 What? Why not?
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Originally posted by The Omega
"....Is this someone in particular at Work, A shop, A neighbour or a close friend ?"
Well, truth be told... there are two! Both are friends of mine, known them for years... Both are currently single (one in the middle of a divorce)... I've flirted with both... But this is a looooonger story... and it is complicated...
well you cant have both ; make your choice. Get yourself a puncture and call up the guy and say you need help and he is the only one that can give it.
Originally posted by The Omega
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But... I can't just lasoo them. Can I?
well, its not the first time i took girls home, get invited in, got offered some wine or a drink and then get LITERALLY JUMPED. I didnt complain.
The first time it happened i understood what was going on.
She worked behind the bar and came up to me with a folded cocktail napkin and told me not to show it to anyone. When i unfolded it, she had drawn me a flower with a heart. now how obvious is that ? 😉
Originally posted by The Omega
Bardock> Being in love is like being insane. My best friend once made that comparison. What don't we DO when we're in love? The most foolish things...
Well possibly..but we do the craziest things for money....its all explainable....nothing mystical actuially.....sure tales of True Love and whatever are nice...but it is not like people go insane....they might seem like that but if you look at it you could compare "Love" with "Money" and it would be the same thing.....its just the amount......
GCG> Ah, yes… But I’m a chicken. I’m too unskilled at ready social circumstances to really KNOW what the two gents in question really are about and really want…
(Well, my girl-crew keep hitting me on the had, saying both are interested. BUT WHAT IF THEY ARE WRONG?!?!?! Getting an in-my-face rejection may have dire consequences when it comes to my friends and martial arts club.)
Why don’t GUYS make some serious moves anymore?? How do I know if a guy is HINTING at being interested, when I know jack about what to look for??
Mechmoggy> And where on the planet exactly are YOU? 😉
Bardock> I wouldn’t compare love to greed. You CAN compare lust to greed, as both deals with what I want… and I want it NOW by the way etc.
I can tell the difference between love and lust I think. When I’m “in lust” I don’t really care what he wants, as long as he takes his clothes off! If I’m in love I DO care about what he thinks…
I think…
Or do I…
(Crow voice): Yes!
No! No wait…
Originally posted by The Omega
Bardock> I wouldn’t compare love to greed. You CAN compare lust to greed, as both deals with what I want… and I want it NOW by the way etc.
I can tell the difference between love and lust I think. When I’m “in lust” I don’t really care what he wants, as long as he takes his clothes off! If I’m in love I DO care about what he thinks…
I think…
Or do I…
(Crow voice): Yes!
No! No wait…
Well I don't doubt that it is a different emotion...and that greed is easier to compare to lust....but in any way it is basically the same concept....
When you are in "love" you eant the other person and would do lots of stuff for it...of courese you "care" for the other Person but that basically just means that you don't want them to feel bad or get hurt because it would make you feel bad....its not all that selfless as it is said to be.....if you look at your "chosen partner" not as "Money" but as a very valueable "Product" lets say a Comic Book you that has personal meaning to you.....you would do a lot of stuff that might seem insane but in fact from your point of view is very reasonable.....you won't destroy or harm it though since you want it so much and that would basically hurt you...same with "love" ...there'S nothing magical aboot it....
Bardock> I don’t agree with you. I don’t care what my money thinks about me. I couldn’tr care less if my VISA-cards gets hurt, when I slide it through the machine.
When I am in love I’ll do a lot of stuff for him. Yes, but I do things to GET money. Not FOR money – see the difference. (Maybe it’s just semantics, English is not my first language).
Comparing love to greed is making greed ok, which I rather think it is NOT.
I’d never look at a lover as “valuable product”. I view him as a human being, same goes for my friends. Viewing people as products to be (ab)used like make-up or a candy-bar makes society hard and uncaring – which none of us benefits from.
Mechmoggy> 😆 I’d be a sight for sore eyes seeing you in your birth-costume in December. It’s known to snow around X-mas here.
Originally posted by The Omega
Bardock> I don’t agree with you. I don’t care what my money thinks about me. I couldn’tr care less if my VISA-cards gets hurt, when I slide it through the machine.
When I am in love I’ll do a lot of stuff for him. Yes, but I do things to GET money. Not FOR money – see the difference. (Maybe it’s just semantics, English is not my first language).
Comparing love to greed is making greed ok, which I rather think it is NOT.
I’d never look at a lover as “valuable product”. I view him as a human being, same goes for my friends. Viewing people as products to be (ab)used like make-up or a candy-bar makes society hard and uncaring – which none of us benefits from.
I am not in for another arguement tonight I just talked to a wall, and Its not the same thing but its similiar.....
And it you exchange money with something really valueable to you like A flower or a Piece of furniture that hads emotions connected to it its the same thing...
This of course only works if you believe like me that aeveryathing people do they just do for themselves...so if you buy your boyfriend somerthing or even if you do something extreme like sacrifivcing yourself for him to life ...deep in your heart you do it for yourself....you think you would feel so bad if the person wouldn't life anymore or think bad of you or feel bad themselves.....its a very rational thing ...I know it takes the magic out of love but well...if its not true its not true...you as scientist must understand that I can't just change my believe that I think I can see a lot of evidence around......
If you really care for what I mean I might say some more tommorow...although I covered like 6 Pages in the "The Spirit of Humanity is Compassion" Thread.....
So good night.....
Originally posted by The Omega
Capt> There are TWO guys... They won't disappear right now, and maybe BadKitty is right and I should wait.. But they're just... (twirls hair and looks weird)... I know what sex with one of them is like, and that was pretty damn amazing... It was just supposed to be fun, a friend I'd had for years, with me going "Hm, he's actually a handsome guy, easy, not too bright, but hey, let's seduce him," But afterwards I actually got to KNOW the guy and he's a damn lot more interesting than I originally thought¡K
The other is my martial arts instructor! ... Yeah, yeah...
But that's the way love goes... or...
Well, why not entertain both of them? You just got out of one long term relationship, why jump into another? Date them both, sleep with them both and have fun with them both. (Maybe even at the same time) But, casual relationships can be just as much fun as a LTR. No need to jump into anything. And if you're one of those types that falls in love easily, then try not to be.