Respect relationship boundries. Would you want another guy messing with your relationship? That's one ofthe things that really pisses me off, and my "significant others". When someone flirts with you, and you've made it clear that you are in a relationship, they don't let up.
Don't get me wrong, everyone likes to be found attractive, but there comes a time when enough is enough.
Originally posted by Capt_Fantastic
Respect relationship boundries. Would you want another guy messing with your relationship? That's one ofthe things that really pisses me off, and my "significant others". When someone flirts with you, and you've made it clear that you are in a relationship, they don't let up.Don't get me wrong, everyone likes to be found attractive, but there comes a time when enough is enough.
Agreed.
Originally posted by FistOfThe North
But what if her boyfriend wasn't treating her right, and you found her crying some of the time cause of him and she was always sad and you just believe that he doesn't deserve her, but you do because she's so hot looking and you know you'd be a better, funner boyfriend.
Well, abusive realtionships are one thing. But, she has to know that she deserves better, not just you knowing she deserves better.
When you start a thread, it's always best to give all the facts, that way people don't have to waste time responding to one issue, when they don't know everything you're asking.
How old is the girl in question? Her boyfriend?
Does he hit her? Is he mentally abusive?
Spill it
Originally posted by Capt_Fantastic
Well, abusive realtionships are one thing. But, she has to know that she deserves better, not just you knowing she deserves better.When you start a thread, it's always best to give all the facts, that way people don't have to waste time responding to one issue, when they don't know everything you're asking.
How old is the girl in question? Her boyfriend?
Does he hit her? Is he mentally abusive?
Spill it
She's 20. Her boyfriends 25. He doesn't hit her but he mentally abuses her. They're never emotional like they never hold hands or look at eachother. They never talk to one another when around eachother. She always looks gloomy walking with him even though she not even like that. Like he's not enthusiastic about her at all and she's like insanely cute and nice. and smart kinda. I say kinda cause she's with him. I duno. maybe she's just a masochist.
Originally posted by FistOfThe North
She's 20. Her boyfriends 25. He doesn't hit her but he mentally abuses her. They're never emotional like they never hold hands or look at eachother. They never talk to one another when around eachother. She always looks gloomy walking with him even though she not even like that. Like he's not enthusiastic about her at all and she's like insanely cute and nice. and smart kinda. I say kinda cause she's with him. I duno. maybe she's just a masochist.
how does he mentally abuse her?
did she tell you this or is this your own conclusion?
Well, I'm not a guy, but if I was the girl with a dead end relationship, or not treated well and saw someone cared enough to listen to me and be a friend, I might consider leaving the bad relationship for something else........Though it is hard for one to leave a relationship when it's a long relationship. It's the familiarity of it. A comfort place, even if it's not good...Change can be scary for some.
Though remember you are only seeing things from your perspective...And is that a true perspective....The forest for the trees kind of thing....Do others see what you are seeing.
Originally posted by FistOfThe North
She's 20. Her boyfriends 25. He doesn't hit her but he mentally abuses her. They're never emotional like they never hold hands or look at eachother. They never talk to one another when around eachother. She always looks gloomy walking with him even though she not even like that. Like he's not enthusiastic about her at all and she's like insanely cute and nice. and smart kinda. I say kinda cause she's with him. I duno. maybe she's just a masochist.
Well, I've never been one of those people who holds hands and stares into the eyes of my boyfriend for hours at a time. That makes no sense to me. And people who are so in love that they can't sit across from each other in a resturant without sucking face over a hot fudge sundae need to be slapped. So, I wouldn't be suprised if maybe he was that way, and she needed to have all his attention all the time...and then gets all depressed when he reacts hostily to such things. I would. Some of the girls I dated were like that. Some of the guys I'v dated were like that. Just because I'm sitting in the same room, not speaking to you, is no reason to assume I'm pissed and to be on top of me all the time.
If he's physically abusive, then you still don't need to get directly involved. Find out how to let her parents know, and leave it at that. Besides, if he was hitting her, then what's to stop him from hitting you? Maybe she's worth that, I dunno.
Define "mentally abuses her" How do you know? Have you seen/heard him being mentally abusive?
Originally posted by debbiejo
I might consider leaving the bad relationship for something else.........
but thats a terrible way to go about relationships.
thats how you doom yourself to a life of mediocrity at best.
the only way to know yourself and what you want is to be able to
stand on your own. why? because you are never weaker and more
desperate than when you're scared of being alone. if you get over that
fear then you are happier and most important>>>> confident.
why would any woman want to hook up with some guy who only knows
how to scoop up devestated rebound chicks is beyond me.
either way, i never date rebound chicks. who wants to sit around listening to someone endlessly ***** about their ex? 😂
Originally posted by PVS
but thats a terrible way to go about relationships.
thats how you doom yourself to a life of mediocrity at best.
the only way to know yourself and what you want is to be able to
stand on your own. why? because you are never weaker and more
desperate than when you're scared of being alone. if you get over that
fear then you are happier and most important>>>> confident.why would any woman want to hook up with some guy who only knows
how to scoop up devestated rebound chicks is beyond me.either way, i never date rebound chicks. who wants to sit around listening to someone endlessly ***** about their ex? 😂
key word: 'listening'
Originally posted by PVS
but thats a terrible way to go about relationships.
thats how you doom yourself to a life of mediocrity at best.
the only way to know yourself and what you want is to be able to
stand on your own. why? because you are never weaker and more
desperate than when you're scared of being alone. if you get over that
fear then you are happier and most important>>>> confident.why would any woman want to hook up with some guy who only knows
how to scoop up devestated rebound chicks is beyond me.either way, i never date rebound chicks. who wants to sit around listening to someone endlessly ***** about their ex? 😂
I'm trying to see things from this girls point of view. There are many like that...Though most like this are still in school, or school age, others, if it is some emotional abuse do become accustomed to it and just stay.....
Now if I was in a relationship that didn't suit me as I have before, I would leave, but not everyone has the comfort of being on their own.
Though the original poster might want to see if he is seeing what he thinks he is seeing, or is it what he want to see....yep
Originally posted by debbiejo
I'm trying to see things from this girls point of view. There are many like that...Though most like this are still in school, or school age, others, if it is some emotional abuse do become accustomed to it and just stay.....Now if I was in a relationship that didn't suit me as I have before, I would leave, but not everyone has the comfort of being on their own.
well that wasnt aimed at you, but you described the typical scenario to a tee, so i addressed it.