Would the fact that, the girl you wanted badly had a boyfriend, stop you?

Originally posted by debbiejo
It could be that he is very jealous and repressing her. I've know guys that are very possessive .very much so as a relationship goes along...And the girl is put in a spot of dropping friends, especially made to feel that even talking to another guy is wrong.

If you're gonna talk to her and care for her...Just keep her in mind when it comes to possessive, jealous guys...yep.

Not too familiar with the jealous men types since I've never gone out with any, but I am familiar with the oh, million or so females who are like this.

Originally posted by botankus
Not too familiar with the jealous men types since I've never gone out with any, but I am familiar with the oh, million or so females who are like this.

Sounds like a good Jerry Springer show.

Originally posted by debbiejo
....they cannot handle a woman/girl can have a life outside him...

how the hell are they able to live a life inside him then?
im having disturbing images very similar to when han solo
stuffed luke inside the dead tauntaun 😘

Some guys are intimidated with a girl that has a life, that doesn't include him. He wants to be the center of her world, all her world.

Originally posted by debbiejo
Some guys are intimidated with a girl that has a life, that doesn't include him. He wants to be the center of her world, all her world.

yeah, women NEVER behave this way though 🙄

They're just paranoid that when he doesn't know where she is, whether it's Noon or 1 in the morning, he thinks she ran back to her ex or having a rendezvous with a stranger. Women think the same way.

Yea girls do this also...It's the old security with ones self thing....If you're not secure with yourself, you don't trust the other person.

Is anyone on the board man or woman enough to admit that they behave like this?

Probably not. I mean, we're all secure people....right??!?!?!?!?!? fear

if i find myself having to question whether or not a girlfriend is bumping uglies with some dude, thats grounds for dumping regardless. what the hell's the point if there's no trust?

I'll admit I used to be like that a little (in my late teens), but over the past 10 years I've realized PVS' point so now everything's good.

Yeah, me too.....Well, I'm kinda independent...It's lead to problems...

Yeah, being independent and going out with someone who's like that = bad business, especially if they have a history of going apesh*t

Stop me? Yes, absolutely.

No way SHOULD any man want to persuade a woman to be with him, instead of who she is currently with, unless the motive is purely sexual.

If you have feelings for her and are trying to snare her, the same thing will happen to you down the road. Let her make the decision to leave her current love.

Originally posted by PVS
the priority should be helping her out. period. not saying its wrong to have feelings for her, but to incorporate those feelings into some plan and placing that at equal prioity is very selfish.

I'll 50% disagree with you. My priority should be to help her out but equating whatever my priorities are with the fact that I do like her alot is not in no way selfish, It's selfless.

I was in a relationship when Fire and I met, though looking back, one could hardly have labelled it a relationship. Fire made it clear that he was interested, while I kept my distance because I couldn' t commit myself before my situation was cleared out. Did he push me into a direction? No. Did he pay court to me? Yes.

Originally posted by Storm
I was in a relationship when Fire and I met, though looking back, one could hardly have labelled it a relationship. Fire made it clear that he was interested, while I kept my distance because I couldn' t commit myself before my situation was cleared out. Did he push me into a direction? No. Did he pay court to me? Yes.

yeah, but this guy is implying that she is being abused, which i think makes the situation far more sensative and even potentially volital.

maybe but it's really his business is it not

Prolly wasn't the best idea to throw this online man

In the end you have to walk your own path

Originally posted by FistOfThe North
I'll 50% disagree with you. My priority should be to help her out but equating whatever my priorities are with the fact that I do like her alot is not in no way selfish, It's selfless.

no, 'selfless' would mean no hope for personal gain. selfless would be if you know you didnt stand a chance with her but still did everything you could to help her. would you be so concerned and ready to help if you knew you didnt stand a snowball's chance in hell of getting with her?

Originally posted by BobbyD
If you have feelings for her and are trying to snare her, the same thing will happen to you down the road. Let her make the decision to leave her current love.

I don't think the same thing would happen because I wouldn't give her the choice to do so cause a choice wouldn't present itself. I won't give her any reason not to leave me unless she wants to leave me for some personal hidden reason I cannot control.

And what woman would want to dump a guy she likes alot. Cause I know she'll like me alot. If she'll take me. i duno, not saying she will. Maybe she will maybe she won't I hope she will. I'm not gona force her to be with me. i just wana let her know how I feel. I'm not gona seize her. i just wana let her know that I'm here. For her. Sure I have my agenda she doesn't know about, and thats to have her as my girl, but she'll get it soon enough. I think it would be insensitive of me to just come out with it especially with what she's apparently going through. She's not gona make the decision herself. I already know how I'm gona approach the situation. I'll be casual and subtle about it.