Originally posted by Rogue Jedi
why not move her there with you?
Well, she's in the middle of her last year of high school so I'm not sure about that.
In a perfect world, I'd ask her to live here but considering she's seeing someone else at the moment, odds aren't really in my favor. And I've seen the guy. He's funny, I'll give him that. He can beatbox, fine. Can pull off some bad-ass skate tricks, great. But he's not a looker, man. I don't mean to be all judgmental about it so I blame my subconscious.
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7move on then.
Well, she's in the middle of her last year of high school so I'm not sure about that.In a perfect world, I'd ask her to live here but considering she's seeing someone else at the moment, odds aren't really in my favor. And I've seen the guy. He's funny, I'll give him that. He can beatbox, fine. Can pull off some bad-ass skate tricks, great. But he's not a looker, man. I don't mean to be all judgmental about it so I blame my subconscious.
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Yeah. I mean, I just hate the fact that people older than me say "You got plenty of time to settle down" (i'm 18). They say things like, "I've been through that too. We all have." "Lots of girls out there."I know what they're trying to do when they say things like that, but it doesn't help does it? It just makes you feel insignificant because you thought to yourself, "I'm experiencing something special. I'm one of the few who won't need to date around for 10 years to find the girl I want to marry because here she is."
Messed-up that.
awww i'm sorry.🙁
*hugs*
there are relationships that you know are "doomed", while getting in.and then there are those which you expect to last but don't. the pain of the latter is obviously greater because you never meant for it to end. duh.
i haven't been through the situation but can empathically understand.😬
and nothing either of us or anyone else say now will reverse the demise of that relationship. but i'll throw the king of all cliches at you; you learned so much. now you will most likely be able to know what kind of girl isn't the right one to commit to fully. you will know better than to expect serious consequences from a youthfull romance. and many more that you i'm sure are privately aware of😛
so keep your head up. grieve. but don't let it suck life out of you.🙂
Originally posted by Punkyhermy
awww i'm sorry.🙁*hugs*
there are relationships that you know are "doomed", while getting in.and then there are those which you expect to last but don't. the pain of the latter is obviously greater because you never meant for it to end. duh.
i haven't been through the situation but can empathically understand.😬
and nothing either of us or anyone else say now will reverse the demise of that relationship. but i'll throw the king of all cliches at you; you learned so much. now you will most likely be able to know what kind of girl isn't the right one to commit to fully. you will know better than to expect serious consequences from a youthfull romance. and many more that you i'm sure are privately aware of😛
so keep your head up. grieve. but don't let it suck life out of you.🙂
Hey, thanks Punky. See, now that's the way to console someone who's been hurt with this sh*t. And it's ironic that you haven't even been in this situation yet know what to say to not appear overtly condescending.
What do you suggest I do if I ever see her again when I stop by to vacation in Athens in a few months. Should I avoid her altogether?
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Hey, thanks Punky. See, now that's the way to console someone who's been hurt with this sh*t. And it's ironic that you haven't even been in this situation yet know what to say to not appear overtly condescending.What do you suggest I do if I ever see her again when I stop by to vacation in Athens in a few months. Should I avoid her altogether?
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Hey, thanks Punky. See, now that's the way to console someone who's been hurt with this sh*t. And it's ironic that you haven't even been in this situation yet know what to say to not appear overtly condescending.What do you suggest I do if I ever see her again when I stop by to vacation in Athens in a few months. Should I avoid her altogether?
🙂
haha no i haven't been yet😛
hmm. no!
don't indulge in silly and immature expected post breakup antics like that. before she was your gf, she was a friend at least i guess? and if not she was a person. so treat her like you would any other person. if you happen to stumble into her, be amiable. exchange the how are yous? wish her well and part ways.
Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
i wouldnt avoid her, when i broke up with my ex i didnt associate with her for a while but once you get over it you realized or at least i did that it was stupid to ignore her. if nothing major happened between you then id say maybe see hi to her at least, but i wouldnt decide now, wait until the time draws nearer and see how you feel about it.
I see what you what you mean. Wouldn't want to make any rash decisions. It's just that back home, we all run in similar circles so it would be a little difficult knowing where she could be when she's just around the corner, you know what I'm saying?
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
I see what you what you mean. Wouldn't want to make any rash decisions. It's just that back home, we all run in similar circles so it would be a little difficult knowing where she could be when she's just around the corner, you know what I'm saying?
Originally posted by Punkyhermy
🙂haha no i haven't been yet😛
hmm. no!
don't indulge in silly and immature expected post breakup antics like that. before she was your gf, she was a friend at least i guess? and if not she was a person. so treat her like you would any other person. if you happen to stumble into her, be amiable. exchange the how are yous? wish her well and part ways.
Again, some great points. When I mean avoid though, I don't necessarily mean down-right ignore. I just mean, I won't go around making plans with her and her posse. She was one of my best friends so saying hi when I run into her would just be like a reflex.
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Again, some great points. When I mean avoid though, I don't necessarily mean down-right ignore. I just mean, I won't go around making plans with her and her posse. She was one of my best friends so saying hi when I run into her would just be like a reflex.
ahhh...hmm i see...
well that falls into mr. bacon's territory i believe. so i guess he'll know better than i in dealing with ex-gfs who were once best friends.
but what i can suggest is...just be normal. since you;re away at college now. at least you have time to get used to being without her. so when you get back, the scene will already have changed some, in whatever way there is. so your status as an ex-couple to people would seem like just another change. no big deal is what i'm trying to say. don't go out of your way to avoid her...but i don't think you guys will go back to being best friends... 😕
Re: Post Break-Up Tips
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Any suggestions on how to ease the pain, so to speak?
The only cure I've found it time. Breaking up hurts, and time heals all if you let it. Go out have some fun with your friends, drink some beer, eat some good food, pull a couple of floosies and before you know it the pain will be a distant memory! ✅
Originally posted by Punkyhermy
ahhh...hmm i see...well that falls into mr. bacon's territory i believe. so i guess he'll know better than i in dealing with ex-gfs who were once best friends.
but what i can suggest is...just be normal. since you;re away at college now. at least you have time to get used to being without her. so when you get back, the scene will already have changed some, in whatever way there is. so your status as an ex-couple to people would seem like just another change. no big deal is what i'm trying to say. don't go out of your way to avoid her...but i don't think you guys will go back to being best friends... 😕
im not by any means great friends with my ex, but i hang out with her once in a while and its nice to remember the past and the fun you had. that works for me, i dont know what it will do for you. but id say just go by feel if you dont feel ready to see her or anything dont. but if she suggests doing something as friends and you want to try to stay friends go for it, it worked before ✅
Originally posted by Punkyhermy
ahhh...hmm i see...well that falls into mr. bacon's territory i believe. so i guess he'll know better than i in dealing with ex-gfs who were once best friends.
but what i can suggest is...just be normal. since you;re away at college now. at least you have time to get used to being without her. so when you get back, the scene will already have changed some, in whatever way there is. so your status as an ex-couple to people would seem like just another change. no big deal is what i'm trying to say. don't go out of your way to avoid her...but i don't think you guys will go back to being best friends... 😕
Well, I still occasionally give her a call to see how she's doing. Every other week being the case. And we communicate via our Friendster profiles as well.
Bottom line is, she was once a big part of my life, I can't see her being shut out of it completely.
Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
mhm ✅im not by any means great friends with my ex, but i hang out with her once in a while and its nice to remember the past and the fun you had. that works for me, i dont know what it will do for you. but id say just go by feel if you dont feel ready to see her or anything dont. but if she suggests doing something as friends and you want to try to stay friends go for it, it worked before ✅
well said. remaining friends can work. I'm still very good friends with my ex-wife. We went to others second marriages and we hang out and have a laugh when ever we can. Tis a good thing! 😊
Originally posted by Baylin
well said. remaining friends can work. I'm still very good friends with my ex-wife. We went to others second marriages and we hang out and have a laugh when ever we can. Tis a good thing! 😊
I just don't know if I have the strength to not let my harbored feelings manifest itself if I ever see her again.
I'm not as seasoned as all you experts, goddamn. I need some growing up to do.
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
I just don't know if I have the strength to not let my harbored feelings manifest itself if I ever see her again.
I'm not as seasoned as all you experts, goddamn. I need some growing up to do.
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Well, I still occasionally give her a call to see how she's doing. Every other week being the case. And we communicate via our Friendster profiles as well.
Bottom line is, she was once a big part of my life, I can't see her being shut out of it completely.
aww yeah...i see.😬
see thats the part about the dating game that i don't get. you pick a person. make them the biggest part of your life. and then are expected to chuck them out. just like that. and when you display signs in having difficulty doing that. you're looked upon weirdly.
people aren't designed to just tear someone they are emotionally attached to away. its kinda like being asked to tear your arm or leg away in a way.
so when i figure that out. i'll get back to you😛
just realize that you don't have to do anything. i know there are expectations. everyone you talk to wants you to be over her in a second. understand that you aren't designed to get "over" people you deemed so important just.like.that. regardless of what society says.
take your time.
and one day you will wake up all smiles and happy becaues of another girl.🙂