Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
I just don't know if I have the strength to not let my harbored feelings manifest itself if I ever see her again.
I'm not as seasoned as all you experts, goddamn. I need some growing up to do.
Well like I said before it takes time. Nothing is a quick fix in these circumstances. I have a very good and dear friend here at KMC. When things didn't work out for us it was months before I was able to come to terms with it enough to come back and make good with this said person. I could have left it for good but now that I've resolved things within my self I'm able to enjoy a good friendship with someone I respect and love very much, I'm also very glad I did it too!
Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
well its situation as well, from this i gather that you still like her and she broke up with you?
Well, we've been broken up for almost 5 months now and all these "feelings" are coming back because I just heard this morning that she was seeing someone else. Wasn't expecting it, man. Was not expecting it.
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Well, we've been broken up for almost 5 months now and all these "feelings" are coming back because I just heard this morning that she was seeing someone else. Wasn't expecting it, man. Was not expecting it.
thats jealously.
its completely normal.😛
*hugs*
aww i'm sure this is such a pain in the ass yes?😛
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Well, we've been broken up for almost 5 months now and all these "feelings" are coming back because I just heard this morning that she was seeing someone else. Wasn't expecting it, man. Was not expecting it.
Originally posted by Punkyhermy
aww yeah...i see.😬see thats the part about the dating game that i don't get. you pick a person. make them the biggest part of your life. and then are expected to chuck them out. just like that. and when you display signs in having difficulty doing that. you're looked upon weirdly.
people aren't designed to just tear someone they are emotionally attached to away. its kinda like being asked to tear your arm or leg away in a way.
so when i figure that out. i'll get back to you😛
just realize that you don't have to do anything. i know there are expectations. everyone you talk to wants you to be over her in a second. understand that you aren't designed to get "over" people you deemed so important just.like.that. regardless of what society says.
take your time.
and one day you will wake up all smiles and happy becaues of another girl.🙂
That's the thing. I don't even think I want to be in another relationship again just so I don't run the risk of wasting my time, so to speak.
Going through the lines with this relationship business is just not my stlye.
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
That's the thing. I don't even think I want to be in another relationship again just so I don't run the risk of wasting my time, so to speak.
Going through the lines with this relationship business is just not my stlye.
Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
ah i see, i know what you mean somewhat since my ex started dating someone else like a week after we broke up, it hurts at first but eventually you come to terms with it, the feelings will happen especially if you had a close relationship with her, its always going to be a part of your past, you just have to learn to live with it
Oh, I feel for you. A week? That's f*cked-up. She was probably planning that sh*t since the beginning.
Learning to live it. Another one of those. (;
Jealousy, man. It's a *****.
Originally posted by Neo_Version 7
Oh, I feel for you. A week? That's f*cked-up. She was probably planning that sh*t since the beginning.
Learning to live it. Another one of those. (;
Jealousy, man. It's a *****.
but life goes on and now two years later im glad it didnt go further, how things change with time, and i think they will for you too
Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
take some time off then, its not a crime to be single and live your life for now. wait until you know youre ready
mhmm. i agreee Neo.
look. stop for a second. and listen.
you don't have to do anything dating/girls wise now.
or a week from now.
or a month from now.
or however long it takes till the moment when you find yourself crushing on someone who isn't your ex.
and you can't will yourself to be in a relationship. it will happen when it does. and you'll deal with it.🙂
Originally posted by Mr. Bacon
yea it sucked since i still liked her at the timebut life goes on and now two years later im glad it didnt go further, how things change with time, and i think they will for you too
Oh, definitely. Definitely.
Crazy thing, relationships. You'd think I'd be over her now since leaving a while back, but I just don't know if I can control myself if I ever see her again, you know what I'm saying?
not necessarily, especially if you have alot of time with your thoughts or how long you were involved with her. the best thing i can say is to agree with Punkyhermy in her last post, give it time, dont force anything, if you see her say hi be polite and if you feel uncomfortable excuse yourself and leave. dont do anything until you feel ready, it will come when it comes
Originally posted by Punkyhermy
mhmm. i agreee Neo.look. stop for a second. and listen.
you don't have to do anything dating/girls wise now.
or a week from now.
or a month from now.
or however long it takes till the moment when you find yourself crushing on someone who isn't your ex.
and you can't [B]will
yourself to be in a relationship. it will happen when it does. and you'll deal with it.🙂 [/B]
Yeah, I couldn't agree more.
But all of sudden, all those things you talked about in your previous relationship (someday getting married, the future, whatnot), I can't imagine doing that with anybody else. I know how it sounds as you're reading it but, I can't help it.
Better to rid of relationships forever. I don't know.