gutted, absolutely gutted :(

Originally posted by Lara
its just madness, Its like he's just turned into some one else over night!

what ever it is I hope he sorts it out and comes to his senses and starts talking about it. If he couldnt talk to me about it then who else can he talk to about it? I just dont understand and probably never will 😖

Meh!

Just a thought, it most likely wasnt "over night"

If it seems to you out of the blue, then hes probably been interested in someone else for a longer time now..
(my current partner had been meeting me for about 2 months while he had another girlfriend, and eventually he just quit her to be with me and I bleieve he never told her why)

Im sorry this is happening to you, but you have to believe things will get better hug

Originally posted by Lara
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stupid thing is, I should hate him right now, But I dont. 😕

no I dont think there is any one else. if there was he would have told me straight off. Hes not sort. that and the fact his sister would rip him to peices.

I know he's had alot of stuff to deal with recently. Maybe he just wants so down time, I dont know. 😕

but if there was some one else he would have definately told me rather than leaving me like this. He's given me some hope which I think was wrong of him but I dont think even he knows what he wants right now.

Maybe he's confused right now 😬
Perhaps thinking about commitment to you and other shit.
And that by being friends with you, he's saying he's not ready yet.

Or perhaps he has a secret relationship with someone else.
I mean, you never know what goes on a guy's mind.

Believe me, I know what it's like. I had a BF too, ya know. We've been together for 2 years and broke up. I found out he had another. That stupid scum!

Anyway, you can always talk to him. He remains a friend after all.

hey there're a lot of fish in the sea. knowhatimsayin'

Originally posted by Lara
we were friends before we were together so that bit doent bother me its the fact that he cant be honest with me. yeah the truth hurts but any attempt to get him to talk about what is going on with him gets shunned and he gets so cold with me. I'm just so confused as we didnt have a bad relationship, we didnt even fight this just came out of the blue and the shock hasnt help its made me so ill I've had to take a week off work. 😄 I miss him and I dont want to lose him but I just want some honesty and of course some answers. I think he owes me that much.

Seriously, just bang his best friend. The sooner you do, the sooner you'll be over him and you'll get the last laugh. Unless he bangs your best friend. . . unless your best friend is a guy, then that would mean he was gay, and maybe that's what he's been hiding all along. However, if HE is your best friend, then he would have to bang himself, and that would just be masturbation. Anyway, I'm full of great advice, and it's free too.

Oh, and I'm here all week.

Originally posted by =Tired Hiker=
Seriously, just bang his best friend. The sooner you do, the sooner you'll be over him and you'll get the last laugh. Unless he bangs your best friend. . . unless your best friend is a guy, then that would mean he was gay, and maybe that's what he's been hiding all along. However, if HE is your best friend, then he would have to bang himself, and that would just be masturbation. Anyway, I'm full of great advice, and it's free too.

Originally posted by Lara
I dont know what to do with myself!

Friday, the love of my life, my parnter for 4 years broke up with me becuase apparently I dont talk to him enough.
There is more going on the he is letting on but he keeps hiding from me.

I want to sort it out but he isnt interested. He wants to be FRIENDS!!!!

I'm so hurt and insulted. I dont know what to do for the best.

Go back to the things you like...like your hobbies or take a vacation.

Just get some time out. Give yourself a break.

Im sorry about that Lara.

Originally posted by Lara
I dont know what to do with myself!

Friday, the love of my life, my parnter for 4 years broke up with me becuase apparently I dont talk to him enough.
There is more going on the he is letting on but he keeps hiding from me.

I want to sort it out but he isnt interested. He wants to be FRIENDS!!!!

I'm so hurt and insulted. I dont know what to do for the best.

I'm sort of going through the same thing right now.

petpet Sorry to hear that.

I went to a friends house last night and to day I just feel so guilty for having a good time. its stupid!

It's strange how women still like us men even after all the shitty things we do to them...I just don't understand, I've always thought women to be complicated but never this complicated...I guess women could say the same about men though 😬

Originally posted by Lara

There is a saying that my Grandma has: "if you love some thing, let it go. If it comes back to you then it was always yours."

While that sounds sweet, that only actually guaranteed to work with Boomerangs. (and even then its a bit dodgy if your throwing is off.)
It definitely doesn't apply to all situations.

If you dangle someone you love off the side of a 40 story building for example and let them go, no matter how much you love them, they ain't coming back to you.

Well sometimes in life that metaphor definitely applies to these kind of situations.

Of course it will always be diametrically opposed to the "Tighter you fasten you grip, the sand slips away" etc.

Ive gripped too tightly/lost and Ive "nobley" let people go and really regretted it...

Four years is a long time indeed. And I hope that you go on to be happy again no matter the outcome.

Good luck.

it seems to me that he has just given up. I think he has reached the pinacle of his laziness. that and the fact that we are both depressed only difference being I know how to deal with mine as it never really goes away, I just push it aside. he on the other hand prefers to bottle everything and then talk to no one.

Originally posted by Lara
it seems to me that he has just given up. I think he has reached the pinacle of his laziness. that and the fact that we are both depressed only difference being I know how to deal with mine as it never really goes away, I just push it aside. he on the other hand prefers to bottle everything and then talk to no one.

Originally posted by Lara
it seems to me that he has just given up. I think he has reached the pinacle of his laziness. that and the fact that we are both depressed only difference being I know how to deal with mine as it never really goes away, I just push it aside. he on the other hand prefers to bottle everything and then talk to no one.

Sounds like your b.f. could really use an extra x chromosone.

dnaplasty and everybody's celebrating 😉

well, we said that we would meet up in a few weeks and go do some thing, like see a film or what ever, as friends.
I'm going away to my cousins tomo, for a long weekend as its halloween, so its an important time of the year for us pagans.

He's going away to the coast so see a friend in a couple of weeks and in between all that there is a club we have both been invited to go to by different people.
He's been asked by some people he works with and I've been asked by some college friends I havent seen for ages. Trouble is, this club is only open one night a month and I dont want to make him uncomfortable by seeing me there with my friends. He'll think I dont care.

He doesnt know about my invitation yet either. I dont want to ask him if its ok for me to go as that will seem like I'm stalking him.

This is really starting to get annoying.

I think you should be who you are and not what people want you to be.

I am who I am. **** every one else.
However things tend to get a little complicated when you've just come out of a long term relationship.