Girlfriend's having too much fun with male friends.

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chomperx9 Restricted

next time she says she is going out say hey im going with you. what she gonna say no for you wanting to spend time with her ? if she does say no thats probably a sign that somethings going on.

Marvelknight Authority

Originally posted by chomperx9
have you asked to go with her ? if she says no than probably somethings going on she doesnt want you to know about.

Yes I did ask to go to that party in particular, which was her birthday party. But her reasons for not wanting me to go was because some of friends don't know that me and her are back together. And she didn't want to answer to them. That didn't feel right with me. So I checked her Facebook and saw those pics. I put 2 and 2 together and figured out the real reason why.

chomperx9 Restricted

Originally posted by Marvelknight
Yes I did ask to go to that party in particular, which was her birthday party. But her reasons for not wanting me to go was because some of friends don't know that me and her are back together. And she didn't want to answer to them. That didn't feel right with me. So I checked her Facebook and saw those pics. I put 2 and 2 together and figured out the real reason why.
thats wrong for her hiding who she is with. and using that as an excuse for you not to go is just stupid. sorry man but i dont think she has a big heart for you if she doesnt want others to know who you are and to know that you are together. if it was a starting relationship and she didnt want her parents to know who she was with sometimes thats understandable. but her hiding you from her friends is just stupid.

Marvelknight Authority
Originally posted by chomperx9
next time she says she is going out say hey im going with you. what she gonna say no for you wanting to spend time with her ? if she does say no thats probably a sign that somethings going on.

That's very clever lol. It's true, what could someone say to get out of that one without looking guilty.

Symmetric Chaos Fractal King
Originally posted by chomperx9
next time she says she is going out say hey im going with you. what she gonna say no for you wanting to spend time with her ? if she does say no thats probably a sign that somethings going on.

If sitcoms have taught me anything it is that this will lead to a hilarious misunderstanding.

Marvelknight Authority
Originally posted by chomperx9
thats wrong for her hiding who she is with. and using that as an excuse for you not to go is just stupid. sorry man but i dont think she has a big heart for you if she doesnt want others to know who you are and to know that you are together. if it was a starting relationship and she didnt want her parents to know who she was with sometimes thats understandable. but her hiding you from her friends is just stupid.

I completely agree. Any relationship should be all about honesty, trust, love, and loyalty at all times.

King Kandy Senior Member

Originally posted by Marvelknight
Why do you feel that way? I don't want you to feel attacked for your opinion. I just want a better understanding. Because I feel like that is not cool. It's ok to dance with someone just not the way she's doing it. It's a little over doing it imo.

She hasn't done anything at all that you should be feeling betrayed over. If she does do something that crosses the line... I tend to believe such things are just symptoms of a deeper problem inside the relationship. For now she is doing something that I would view as acceptable, as long as she would afford you the same privilege. Plenty of people have had open relationships where even sex outside is acceptable, but you're here complaining about your girlfriends doing "seductive" dancing... I would agree with her that you're being restrictive.

Mindset Senior Member

Originally posted by Symmetric Chaos
If sitcoms have taught me anything it is that this will lead to a hilarious misunderstanding.
If horror movies have taught me anything, it is that they will both be brutally murdered.

Mindset Senior Member

Originally posted by King Kandy
She hasn't done anything at all that you should be feeling betrayed over. If she does do something that crosses the line... I tend to believe such things are just symptoms of a deeper problem inside the relationship. For now she is doing something that I would view as acceptable, as long as she would afford you the same privilege. Plenty of people have had open relationships where even sex outside is acceptable, but you're here complaining about your girlfriends doing "seductive" dancing... I would agree with her that you're being restrictive.
Open relations are quite possibly one of the dumbest things invented.

King Kandy Senior Member

I strongly disagree, but I have little interest in debating you on the topic.

Marvelknight Authority
Originally posted by King Kandy
She hasn't done anything at all that you should be feeling betrayed over. If she does do something that crosses the line... I tend to believe such things are just symptoms of a deeper problem inside the relationship. For now she is doing something that I would view as acceptable, as long as she would afford you the same privilege. Plenty of people have had open relationships where even sex outside is acceptable, but you're here complaining about your girlfriends doing "seductive" dancing... I would agree with her that you're being restrictive.

I do not believe in open relationships. And the fact it is "seductive" dancing is a big problem in it self. It doesn't need to be seductive at all. And yes I agree that I'm being a little restrictive. But there are certain things that you shouldn't do while in a relationship with someone you claim to love imo.

King Kandy Senior Member

Originally posted by Marvelknight
I do not believe in open relationships. And the fact it is "seductive" dancing is a big problem in it self. It doesn't need to be seductive at all. And yes I agree that I'm being a little restrictive. But there are certain things that you shouldn't do in a relationship imo.

No, I really disagree with you here. I would see how you would have a big problem with it if she was against you doing that kind of thing, but it seems like she has a very reasonable attitude about this, one that in no way meshes with yours. And that's the whole core of the issue, either come to an understanding or admit you're incompatible. Just don't go nazi. And personally if you think your relationship is good enough that you wouldn't even consider ending it, you should really be questioning how big of a deal this really is.

Marvelknight Authority

If the relationship was new than I would have been over reacting. But not when you are together for years and especially not when you are living with your boy/girlfriend. Moving in with someone is a very big step for any relationship. After you have been with someone for years. You should have an idea of who they are and what their likes and dislikes are. If a person only wants to do what they want to do all the time and not compromise. They should just stay single. There is no reason for anything "seductive" to be happening with any one outside of the relationship.

King Kandy Senior Member

Originally posted by Marvelknight
If the relationship was new than I would have been over reacting. But not when you are together for years and especially not when you are living with your boy/girlfriend. Moving in with someone is a very big step for anything relationship. After you have been with someone for years. You should have an idea of who they are and what their likes and dislikes are. If a person only wants to do what they want to do all the and not compromise. They should just stay single. There is no reason for anything "seductive" to be happening with any one outside of the relationship.

I'm perplexed that you never noticed this tendency, given you're saying you knew all about what she was like. As for only doing what they want and not compromising, that seems to be what you're doing. As for a reason to do something seductive, maybe being with you isn't very fulfilling to her...

Mindset Senior Member

Originally posted by King Kandy
I strongly disagree, but I have little interest in debating you on the topic.
It's unfortunate that I have immense interest in debating you about it.

What now KK, scared, you should be.

Marvelknight Authority
Originally posted by King Kandy
I'm perplexed that you never noticed this tendency, given you're saying you knew all about what she was like. As for only doing what they want and not compromising, that seems to be what you're doing. As for a reason to do something seductive, maybe being with you isn't very fulfilling to her...

I have noticed her tendencies. And we have been on and off for the past year because of it. I strongly disagree about not compromising. Because I ever told her she can't go nor have I said she couldn't be friends with them. But in no way should I ever have to put up with any kind of flirtation going on behind my back. I think it's crazy to even think of being ok with my girl grinding her ass on someone else. let's be real here.

King Kandy Senior Member

Originally posted by Marvelknight
I have noticed her tendencies. And we have been on and off for the past year because of it. I strongly disagree about not compromising. Because I ever told her she can't go nor have I said she couldn't be friends with them. But in no way should I ever have to put up with any kind of flirtation going on behind my back. I think it's crazy to even think of being ok with my girl grinding her ass on someone else. let's be real here.

Yes, let's be real. To my point of view you sound like some kind of redneck "i'm a-gonna shoot dat woman for lookin at 'nother man behind ma back!" I think you're being crazy to think that you're going to have a stable relationship with someone who you have a fundamental disagreement with like that. You sound like someone who would need a chastity belt to feel secure.

K.Diddy DiddyWood Style

Re: Girlfriend's having too much fun with male friends.

Originally posted by Marvelknight
Me and my girlfriend live together and have been in a relationship for three years now. But she does certain things that cause a lot of stress for me. What I want to know from all of you, is how far would you let your boy/girlfriend go with certain things they do with a friend of the opposite sex, before you start to feel jealous, and what do you feel is inappropriate behavior in a relationship?

😐 Break up with her,simple as that

Adam_PoE Senior Member

Re: Girlfriend's having too much fun with male friends.

Originally posted by Marvelknight
What I want to know from all of you, is how far would you let your boy/girlfriend go with certain things they do with a friend of the opposite sex, before you start to feel jealous, and what do you feel is inappropriate behavior in a relationship?

Anything that she would not do if you were present is inappropriate.

King Kandy Senior Member

Well aren't you just the precious little fascist.