Girlfriend's having too much fun with male friends.

Originally posted by King Kandy
Yes, let's be real. To my point of view you sound like some kind of redneck "i'm a-gonna shoot dat woman for lookin at 'nother man behind ma back!" I think you're being crazy to think that you're going to have a stable relationship with someone who you have a fundamental disagreement with like that. You sound like someone who would need a chastity belt to feel secure.

Very funny. But no I'm black and I don't need a chastity belt to feel secure. I just have a problem with women who don't know how to act around other men. And the real reason why it is not a stable relationship, is because she can't be honest about certain things, and because of it I find it hard to completely trust her. Without honesty there can't be any trust. And she has no loyalty for me or the relationship. What she's doing is wrong. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

Originally posted by Marvelknight
She has a history of keeping certain info out when telling me who she is hanging out with. Like lets say she gos to a bar or something of the sort with her girlfriends. She will not tell about any of her male friends who may also tag along. She has no pics of me n her on her Facebook. And I found pics on facebook of her sitting on a guy's lap in the way a girl would if she was giving him a lap dance.

Originally posted by Marvelknight
Yes I did ask to go to that party in particular, which was her birthday party. But her reasons for not wanting me to go was because some of friends don't know that me and her are back together. And she didn't want to answer to them. That didn't feel right with me. So I checked her Facebook and saw those pics. I put 2 and 2 together and figured out the real reason why.

Originally posted by dadudemon
Dude, wake up. She's ****in' one of her dude friends.

Originally posted by Wild Shadow
obviously she is bumping uglies with her male friends…

Originally posted by King Kandy
Well aren't you just the precious little fascist.

Those with nothing to hide, hide nothing. If you would not say it to his face, then you have no business saying it behind his back; if you would not do it in front of him, you have no business doing it at all.

Originally posted by Adam_PoE

Trust me, I get it. Someone like that isn't wroth having in your life. Even if nothing sexual would ever happen. It's still not ok.

Originally posted by Marvelknight
Very funny. But no I'm black and I don't need a chastity belt to feel secure. I just have a problem with women who don't know how to act around other men. And the real reason why it is not a stable relationship, is because she can't be honest about certain things, and because of it I find it hard to completely trust her. Without honesty there can't be any trust. And she has no loyalty for me or the relationship. What she's doing is wrong. You can't have your cake and eat it too.

ask her is there a problem with me is there someting about me that thats bothering you these days ? tell her you love her and you want to help her but for you to do that she needs to spit out whats going on. and that you know for a fact she has been down on you for awhile now. better she tells you the truth at a time where its just the 2 of you talking about the relationship even if its not a cheerful truth than you finding out the truth by yourself later on without her telling you. that always hurts more

Originally posted by chomperx9
i agree. she isnt being 100% honest with you because she would rather not say anything than to deliver an awful truth that would end the relationship. you need to sit down and have a long talk with her about whats going on.

ask her is there a problem with me is there someting about me that thats bothering you these days ? tell her you love her and you want to help her but for you to do that she needs to spit out whats going on. and that you know for a fact she has been down on you for awhile now. better she tells you the truth at a time where its just the 2 of you talking about the relationship even if its not a cheerful truth than you finding out the truth by yourself later on without her telling you. that always hurts more

Too bad for me. She can't communicate very well. I wish it were that easy to fix. But if a person can't see what they are doing is wrong. Only life its self will have to teach them the hard way.

Originally posted by Symmetric Chaos
If sitcoms have taught me anything it is that this will lead to a hilarious misunderstanding.

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Originally posted by King Kandy
She hasn't done anything at all that you should be feeling betrayed over. If she does do something that crosses the line... I tend to believe such things are just symptoms of a deeper problem inside the relationship. For now she is doing something that I would view as acceptable, as long as she would afford you the same privilege. Plenty of people have had open relationships where even sex outside is acceptable, but you're here complaining about your girlfriends doing "seductive" dancing... I would agree with her that you're being restrictive.

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Okay, where's this hippie farm you breed in and does it have an annual fee?

Also, on topic:

You should ask her to have sex with you right after she gets home from the club. 😐 Wear a condom, obviously.

You also need to break up with her and find some other ho to risk getting herpies from:

http://www.theroot.com/views/nearly-half-black-women-have-herpes

It's highly likely that the next ho will not be as promiscuous as this *****. But still wrap it before you tap: you don't want to pull out rotten meat from the refrigerator.

^Hahahaha sheesh DDM. What bug crawled up your ass? You're really letting the poor guy have it. It's bad enough that his girl is a sl*t.

Originally posted by Marvelknight
Too bad for me. She can't communicate very well. I wish it were that easy to fix. But if a person can't see what they are doing is wrong. Only life its self will have to teach them the hard way.

Originally posted by chomperx9
if she doesnt communicate well then what did you see in her in the 1st place ? besides the hooters

She only has a problem communicating when she feel she is being told what to do. But when there is no problems we get a long very well. But when it comes to hanging out at bars and clubs with her friends. She can't seem to come to any kind of compromise.

I think you should write to Dan Savage about this.

Originally posted by King Kandy
I think you should write to Dan Savage about this.

I never herd of him. What does he do?

Gay guy who gives really, really good sex/relationship advice and is very open minded. Whenever I have relationship questions, I try and put myself in his mindset. Also he's hilarious.

or you can sign up to go on maury. free flight to NY and they would maker take a lie detector test

but like i said before if she is wanting to hang out at clubs by herself with other guys and never goes with you she just isnt intrested in you really anymore.

Originally posted by King Kandy
Gay guy who gives really, really good sex/relationship advice and is very open minded. Whenever I have relationship questions, I try and put myself in his mindset. Also he's hilarious.

That guy gives retarded ass advice like 50% of the time. Then he just goes off and toots his own horn for the rest of the column.

I think you mean "gives incredibly awesome advice and then talks about vitally important issues for the rest of the column". That would be more accurate.

Originally posted by King Kandy
I think you mean "gives incredibly awesome advice and then talks about vitally important issues for the rest of the column". That would be more accurate.

Nah, I tell it like it is. That guy is a self-important idiot half the time. I like to read things with an unbiased eye.

springer FTW

why the hell are women and men taking advice from a gay man his advice should be suspect.. i mean is the gay dude in a guy's or woman's shoes or is he something else?

i mean what he might think should work may not be the majority opinion of the hetero couple...

Originally posted by Blinky
Nah, I tell it like it is. That guy is a self-important idiot half the time. I like to read things with an unbiased eye.

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I would say you have the bug up your ass, but this is regular ol' straight up Blinky.