DarthAloysius
Senior Member
Originally posted by Artol
As far as I understand it a lot of it has to do with being marginalized and ostracized in their local communities. Especially in the past gay people were very much looked down upon and often even legally persecuted, and so to cling your identity, and find strength and community through it is a pretty natural thing.Straight people of course don't have the same situation, yet you can certainly find, particularly men, who very much define themselves through their heterosexuality and their prowess in romantic and sexual endeavors with the people they are attracted too.
I guess generally people just treasure the things they identify with, and that is often made stronger by facing threats, whether they are real or perceived, from outside forces. You can, for example, see that in gamers, who feel they are under attack from feminists or "SJW" and lash out at this perceived threat.
Straight people do take "pride" in their sexuality, it's just so ubiqituious that it's invisible. You take it for granted.
Let's look at sex for example. Sex between a man and woman is something that in most societies is celebrated in both religious and secular contexts. For young people it's a rite of passage and a badge of honor, for adults it's the sancitified as at the core of a stable marriage, in art and music it's flaunted and glorified. And of course, capitalism has co-opted sex to sell you everything from clothes to cologne.
Sex between two men though? In the wrong circles you'd be accused of "sodomy", described as "disgusting" "unnatural" and generally viliified as a sinful little creature (I'm talking about these circles of course.) At best if you talk about having sex with a man around a group of typical straights you'd get some uncomfortable looks. And when gay people do flaunt their sexuality in the same way straight people do, we are told to "think of the children" and "keep it to the bedroom."
"Pride" in that context is therefore adopting the same kind of sex positivity that straight people enjoy as the norm, but gays are routinely denied. It's not about "clinging" to our identities, it's about feeling comfortable and happy in your own skin.