Originally posted by KuRuPT Thanosi
I'm surprised to see you say this though Nib, and that is exactly what should happen from your boss. You're conflating two separate things as one, when in fact, they are two separate things.For example, as you admit, that isn't something you should generally be doing in any management role. As a manger myself, that is something that I've rarely ever done. However, if I did, it wouldn't be wrong or undermining if my Director told me "Okay, let's have this discussion in private" or "I think he/she got the point" . That is EXACTLY what a Director should do in that situation to try an diffuse it, and prevent any HR legality from arising. So I strongly disagree with any notion, that this would be a bad thing or undermining of anything.
Also, as you should know, a direct verbal confrontation with a subordinate, with other subordinates around; means that you're likely already viewed in a negative light thanks to that display. Sure they may be like, many I hope that never happens to me. Sure, but they would also think I was a dick with bad management practices. That vastly further undermines my authority and respect in their eyes. If they see a colleague disrespected in front of everyone, that would likely cause way more damage than my boss coming in to end the confrontation. I categorically disagree that him stopping me looks worse in their eyes than had I be let to continue the verbal rampage.
Further, you're trying to compare an apple to organs situation here. Vader wasn't be undermined in that scene because A) I believe he was overall above Tarkin anyways, either in the chain of command or at the very least in the emperors eyes. Vader was KILLING somebody, that is in stark contrast to Tarkin verbally disagreeing with Vader and changing his orders in front of everybody. Those aren't even in the same stratosphere as the same. Which again is the point, Tarkin not wanting one of his commanders killed (somebody he needs to run the day to day operations of keeping the outer rim under control), is so far removed it's not even funny. A young officer in that room, who's best friends with that guy, could say no, stop that. We see that all the time, even in real life. Two guys fighting, the girlfriend yells out to the one on top of the other... stop!! let him go!! Does that mean she's above him? No, this is a common theme when we see fights or people being hurt. People don't generally like seeing somebody killed in front of them. I'll give Tarkin credit for even saying something, I agree totally with you there, that showed a lot of balls. What it didn't show, was that he was above Vader in that scene... which is the discussion at hand.
But that's not what happened.
It would be one thing if the boss tried to diffuse the situation, called for calm and moved the discussion to a private office. As that would recognize my grievance, my authority over my subordinates and the fact, publicly, that I am still in the right.
It is, however, quite a bit different if he stepped in, raised his voice and told me to "stop it". As this would undermine my authority, implies (albeit indirectly) that the Director is taking sides against me and implies to all my subordinates that I was in the wrong. Again, this would lose me quite a bit of respect with my staff and would piss me off royally. Granted, my position is high up enough (and my department succesful enough) that I am given quite a bit of slack at work, even by the Chairman.
Again, it is the HOW that makes all the difference here.
Instances of public demonstration of disrespect needs to be shut down if you want to be able to hold onto the respect of your staff. Immediately, strongly and publicly (to demonstrate that you do NOT take shit from your staff). Otherwise, prepare yourself to get walked all over on for the rest of your stint as manager. I run a tight ship. No one is absent. No on is late. Everyone performs.
Again, you NEED to look at the minor nuances of behavior, recognize that Vader uses fear and intimidation a lot to get the job done, he doesn't strike me as the type who is very premissive or forgiving. Not a lot of things worse than gettinf insulted in front of everyone. But getting insulted THEN getting shut down is quite the double whammy.
And he was not asked. He was TOLD. Watch the clip:
Tarkin: "Enough of this! Vader! Release him!"
Vader: "As you wish"
And Vader obeyed. I mean you can believe anything you want about their dynamics of authority (certainly enough ambiguity to support either stances, although I believe my stance is better supported by evidence available), but the dynamics SHOWN on screen on that scene is very clear and very specific.