Originally posted by Deja~vu
I was in a relationship where me and my girlfriend would go out dancing and my boyfriend then to become husband was okay with it because I told him I was going and he knew that it was only dancing and that I would not ever cheat. He didn't like to dance, so he was okay with it.
Yeah...but, did you rub your giner on another dudes leg? 😐
She's embarrassed by you, acts promiscuous and isn't forth coming. Hmm, sounds like she's a real keeper.
I believe you already know what you should do. You just don't want to go through it.
But if you don't it's only going to get worse.
Sorry mate. These things are never easy, but you'll never progress in life if you allow yourself to remain in this unrewarding and thankless relationship.
Time to move on.
On a related note, I used to love watching my ex getting chatted up in a bar by guys...I'd position myself behind him about 10 or 15 feet away and watch...She'd clock me smiling at his efforts and give me a sultry, cheeky smile over his shoulder that said "You're getting ravaged tonight".
Good times....Shame she was a cheating ***** though...hahaha. Mind you, it didn't help that the night we split up I was sitting with another 1 of my ex's flatmates getting "cosy" in the corner of the club.
Originally posted by Marvelknight
Me and my girlfriend live together and have been in a relationship for three years now. But she does certain things that cause a lot of stress for me. What I want to know from all of you, is how far would you let your boy/girlfriend go with certain things they do with a friend of the opposite sex, before you start to feel jealous, and what do you feel is inappropriate behavior in a relationship?
If you've tried to talk with her and all she did was say that she wasn't doing anything wrong then you two just aren't meant to be together. You obviously care about this kind of thing and she obviously doesn't, you two will never see eye to eye about it if nothing you say will make her see as a big deal and vice versa. These problems are just going to keep cropping up because she's going to do things that drive you up the wall without even thinking about it because it's just not the kind of thing that's a big deal to her.
With that being said, if you're not the cheating type and are starting to have suspicions, there's most likely a reason for it. She might not actually be cheating(or even coming close) but a person can normally tell when their significant other is keeping something from them. They might be wrong when they try to guess at what it is, but you'll almost always know that SOMETHING isn't right and if she's not telling you what is despite you telling her that the situation bothered you.... it's probably bad.
Originally posted by Marvelknight
I hear you guys. My big problem is this pic i found from a party back in January 2010 of my girlfriend dancing with two guys friends. How many of you guys would be okay with this? And for the girls, how many of you would dance in the manner my girlfriend is in the pic below if you were in a long term relationship? Check this out...
Originally posted by King Kandy
She hasn't done anything at all that you should be feeling betrayed over. If she does do something that crosses the line... I tend to believe such things are just symptoms of a deeper problem inside the relationship. For now she is doing something that I would view as acceptable, as long as she would afford you the same privilege. Plenty of people have had open relationships where even sex outside is acceptable, but you're here complaining about your girlfriends doing "seductive" dancing... I would agree with her that you're being restrictive.
Um I think you're reasoning is compeletly messed up. If people want to have sex in an open relationship thats fine, but to be fair I think alot of people would freak out, so you're using an example which isn't the norm.
I think Marvelknight is being perfectly reasonable especially when he said he would never do the same thing with another girl. Its perfectly understandable why he should feel uncomfortable about this if you loved some one why would you feel the need to dance seductively with somebody else?
In saying that though some people are different but I think most people would naturally at least feel uneasy and quite frankly its not some abnormal reaction.
I think you're response is quite naive she hasn't actually been caught doing anything bad but this seems like tell-tale signs to me.
King Kandy:Hey MK some people like their girl to have sex with other guys and tape it! Whats wrong with you man get with the time the times! Whats next a burqa! facepalm
The problem isn't in her dancing...It's if he has told her he doesn't like her doing it and she doesn't care what he thinks and does it anyway.
I personally never bothered about such things because I knew the other half was coming home and getting ****ed by me at the end of the night.
She could dance with whoever she wanted because I never danced with her because I don't dance.
Originally posted by jaden101
No...
I can understand a large, burly, Scottish dude not dancing because that would just look funny and out of place. But you could at least slow dance up close on your woman. You can't go wrong with that.
But your calves are ****ing HUGE! Surely you can dance really well with those small cows below your knees....
Me, I prefer ballroom, salsa, and swing. I especially ling swing.